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Anxiety and Paraniod Issues

  • 29-10-2019 3:45pm
    #1
    garbar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭


    Hi All,

    So i met a woman a few months back and i totally fell in love with her. We moved together about 3 weeks ago but she had to go home for four weeks the day after we moved in. Now i am not usually a anxious or paranoid person but lately i have this feeling she is going to do something and i get very anxious and paranoid.I keep reading into the smallest thing she does or say to me and i start overthinking everything. I feel this person is the one and i really dont want to mess this up. Has anyone ever had this problem and overcome it? I really want to fixed this issue and not be thinking this.Thanks


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  • #2
    Laurali
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 71 ✭✭Laurali


    can you give a few more details? What kind of things does she say? Home to another country? Another county?

    What is causing your suspicions?


  • #3
    never_mind
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 915 ✭✭✭never_mind


    Id imagine, OP, even with the scant details that this is normal teething issues and I would give it at least 6 months to see how you feel. You can confront small anxieties jokingly with you OH. I’d imagine this is just pure anxiety hoping it will work out and that you are fearing one of you will fall at this hurdle.

    If it doesn’t work you’ll be fine. If it does work you’ll be fine.


  • #4
    garbar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭garbar


    Laurali wrote: »
    can you give a few more details? What kind of things does she say? Home to another country? Another county?

    What is causing your suspicions?

    Hi Laurali, not really the things she does say but when her plans change all of a sudden my mind goes nuts. Yes home to another country she’s not Irish. I am a real laidback person but with her it’s totally different and I feel crap for feeling and thinking this way about her


  • #5
    garbar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭garbar


    never_mind wrote: »
    Id imagine, OP, even with the scant details that this is normal teething issues and I would give it at least 6 months to see how you feel. You can confront small anxieties jokingly with you OH. I’d imagine this is just pure anxiety hoping it will work out and that you are fearing one of you will fall at this hurdle.

    If it doesn’t work you’ll be fine. If it does work you’ll be fine.

    Thanks never_mind, I hope your right we have jokes together about things like that but then when I’m not with her I go mad overthinking everything she was joking about and start to believe it as fact


  • #6
    Laurali
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 71 ✭✭Laurali


    garbar wrote: »
    Hi Laurali, not really the things she does say but when her plans change all of a sudden my mind goes nuts. Yes home to another country she’s not Irish. I am a real laidback person but with her it’s totally different and I feel crap for feeling and thinking this way about her


    So right now she is away for another week is it? And you havent seen her since she moved in? I'm sure you are just missing her...

    It's very early days. Cut yourself some slack. If she is going home urgently for a specific reason, it is clear what that is?

    If she is going back for a holiday/visit, maybe next time you can ask her if she'd like you to join and see what response you get!


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  • #7
    garbar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭garbar


    Laurali wrote: »
    So right now she is away for another week is it? And you havent seen her since she moved in? I'm sure you are just missing her...

    It's very early days. Cut yourself some slack. If she is going home urgently for a specific reason, it is clear what that is?

    If she is going back for a holiday/visit, maybe next time you can ask her if she'd like you to join and see what response you get!


    Thanks laurali, she had it planned around the time we started to date. Their is no issue with me going with her we have talked about many times. Maybe I am just missing her


  • #8
    Mic 1972
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,213 ✭✭✭Mic 1972


    This may or may not not be the case here but, make sure you don't have a controlling personality tho, that makes people run away from relationships
    Being obsessed with wanting to know what goes through her mind could turn her off


  • #9
    garbar
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26 ✭garbar


    Mic 1972 wrote: »
    This may or may not not be the case here but, make sure you don't have a controlling personality tho, that makes people run away from relationships
    Being obsessed with wanting to know what goes through her mind could turn her off

    Thanks mic 1972,

    That’s what my scared off. I was in 11 year relationship 7 of which was marriage and I never had feelings like this


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