Ever met someone you hoped never to see again?

Conor84

Moved in to where I am living just over a year ago. The house next door went up for sale and new people moved in a few weeks ago. I thought I recognised the guy but wasn't sure. Turned out I did know him alright from a bad time I had a few years ago. He is a Garda who arrested me and brought me to court so it is a bit awkward to say the least.

When they moved in my gf invited his partner to a BBQ we were having at the weekend and she said yes but then pulled out eventhough they were at home that night. I haven't had a proper conversation with him yet. Maube I am being paranoid but I am sure I saw him checking my car for tax and insurance the other morning when he was taking his dog for a walk. Just feels awkward him being so close (we even have a shared driveway) due to what happened in the past.

Anyway just wondered if anybody else has been in a situation where they came across somebody from their past who they didn't expect to see and probably hoped to never see again and how it all worked out?

Franz Von Peppercorn II

Can you imagine how he feels though.

PhilOssophy

How many lines have I got......

Timberrrrrrrr

My ex

ILoveYourVibes

Yes.

An old school counselor. People I went to school with.

People from awkward situations.

branie2

Nope

Strumms

Franz Von Peppercorn II wrote: »

Can you imagine how he feels though.

I’d fûcking forget how he feels. If he was sticking his nose in the
OPs windows looking for tax and insurance, unsat behavior. That’s not going to build much trust or cordiality.

imme

Even though it's only Tuesday yours is post of the week OP.

It does seem like an extreme case of someone you don't want to meet ever again.

Maybe the same goes for him OP?

You never said what you were arrested for. No need to really.
In general I'd imagine the gardai meet all sorts of people they'd never like to deal with.

There'd be a few morning after the night before episodes that I'd be happy never to meet again.

alancostello

I feel like the best thing you could do is just address it, whether in person just talking to him or writing him a letter. Acknowledge what happened, you said it was a bad time you had a few years ago, why not say that (I assume you're having better times now/have changed)?

He was doing his job, he didn't really have a choice in it all and I doubt he gets joy from having to do those kinds of things. You didn't mention whether you owned your house or not, but it looks like you're stuck beside him at least in the short term, why not try and build a bridge.

Franz Von Peppercorn II

Strumms wrote: »

I’d fûcking forget how he feels. If he was sticking his nose in the
OPs windows looking for tax and insurance, unsat behavior. That’s not going to build much trust or cordiality.

Too serious there strumms. A policeman’s work is never done.

Imagine this poor police sap at work:

“What’s it all about lads. Work me arse off catching the criminals and end up living beside ‘em”.

** shakes head sadly ***

imme

Strumms wrote: »

I’d fûcking forget how he feels. If he was sticking his nose in the
OPs windows looking for tax and insurance, unsat behavior. That’s not going to build much trust or cordiality.

The OP said he thinks the new neighbour was checking out his disks, thinks.

Trust?

You don't know what the neighbour was doing and now you have him planting drugs on the OP!!!!

Abba987

What was the arrest for? There's no good reason to be arrested but there are some really bad ones. What end of the scale is this?

Exes. Any exes. There's not even many but I hate seeing.l them

ILoveYourVibes

Conor84 wrote: »

Moved in to where I am living just over a year ago. The house next door went up for sale and new people moved in a few weeks ago. I thought I recognised the guy but wasn't sure. Turned out I did know him alright from a bad time I had a few years ago. He is a Garda who arrested me and brought me to court so it is a bit awkward to say the least.

When they moved in my gf invited his partner to a BBQ we were having at the weekend and she said yes but then pulled out eventhough they were at home that night. I haven't had a proper conversation with him yet. Maube I am being paranoid but I am sure I saw him checking my car for tax and insurance the other morning when he was taking his dog for a walk. Just feels awkward him being so close (we even have a shared driveway) due to what happened in the past.

Anyway just wondered if anybody else has been in a situation where they came across somebody from their past who they didn't expect to see and probably hoped to never see again and how it all worked out?

Nightmare.

ToddyDoody

Hey, I was doing just fine just before I met you
I drank too much and that's an issue but I'm okay
Hey, you tell your friends it was nice to meet them
But I hope I never see them again

AMKC

Just a few of my former teachers from school all them years ago. Talk about awkward. I suppose it would not be so bad if you were a going out person (I am not) and seen them around a bit but when its 20 odd years and your an adult now then see the teacher that used to teach you History(was a sound teacher) or English ( was a bit of a crazy teacher) yes that can be awkward.

ILoveYourVibes

Generally anyone i haven't seen in a while it's awkward.

Badly Drunk Boy

Franz Von Peppercorn II wrote: »

Imagine this poor police sap at work:

“What’s it all about lads. Work me arse off catching the criminals and end up living beside ‘em”.

** shakes head sadly ***

If the Garda was any good, he would have checked out his new neighbours before committing to buying the house, especially if he's sharing a driveway with them. Isn't that what their resources are to be (mis)used for?

_Brian

Franz Von Peppercorn II wrote: »

Can you imagine how he feels though.

Yea, he was probably hoping for a good neighbourhood

Dublinandy2

Unless you’re a notorious criminal he probably doesn’t remember you. To you it was a huge event, to him it was just another day at work. Unless it was super unusual.

He was probably checking your discs because that’s his personality, he wouldn’t be Garda otherwise

TCM

Timberrrrrrrr wrote:

My ex

She said the same about you.

Abba987

Abba987 wrote: »

What was the arrest for?

2nd person to ask this. The thread is about awkward meetings, the OP told his story. How about you mind your own Fkng business about what the arrest was for?

JohnnyFlash

I got a taxi home from the airport last year, and the driver was a complete pain in the hole. Shíttin’ on about ‘Man U’, the Dublin football team, the price of drink in Dublin, the best place to get an all-you-can-get Chinese buffet, culchies etc. Longest 15 minutes of my life.

Got out of the car and prayed that I never met the prick again.

Back in the airport about a month ago. Late flight back in. Had a feed of pints in Luton Airport and was keen to get home to my leaba. Hopped into the taxi. Who was driving it only the fat fûcker. ‘Howya Bud, ‘tis you again’.

Jesus Christ

corner of hells

[Deleted User] wrote: »

2nd person to ask this. The thread is about awkward meetings, the OP told his story. How about you mind your own Fkng business about what the arrest was for?

You're the Garda ,aren't ya ?
And ya arrested him after he was caught robbing daffodils from the flower pots outside your station and the lads who work with you keep reminding you of the time you arrested a master criminal.

Conor84

imme wrote: »

Even though it's only Tuesday yours is post of the week OP.

It does seem like an extreme case of someone you don't want to meet ever again.

Maybe the same goes for him OP?

You never said what you were arrested for. No need to really.
In general I'd imagine the gardai meet all sorts of people they'd never like to deal with.

There'd be a few morning after the night before episodes that I'd be happy never to meet again.

Yeah my gf said the same thing that if he knew me it was probably as awkward for him too. I didn't recognise him straight away bur knew I knew him. The odds of it happening are pretty rare - should be doing the Lotto i suppose

dirkmeister

Conor84 wrote: »

Yeah my gf said the same thing that if he knew me it was probably as awkward for him too. I didn't recognise him straight away bur knew I knew him. The odds of it happening are pretty rare - should be doing the Lotto i suppose

If you are unlucky enough to have your arresting Garda as a neighbour then I wouldn’t bother doing the Lotto if I were you.

In all seriousness, you should probably address it at some stage.

You live there, you shouldn’t feel uncomfortable in your own home.

Conor84

alancostello wrote: »

I feel like the best thing you could do is just address it, whether in person just talking to him or writing him a letter. Acknowledge what happened, you said it was a bad time you had a few years ago, why not say that (I assume you're having better times now/have changed)?

He was doing his job, he didn't really have a choice in it all and I doubt he gets joy from having to do those kinds of things. You didn't mention whether you owned your house or not, but it looks like you're stuck beside him at least in the short term, why not try and build a bridge.

Yeah I know I should do something. I thought by asking them to the Bar BQ it might have been the right time to have a bit of a chat but then they bailed on that.

Yeah things are good now. other neighbours here don't know about me being in trouble before and would prefer them not to now. He bought the house but we are renting and really happy here/ My gf has a 6 year old son and he goes to school close by. The guard has a son about the same age so we thought iy would be great to have a friend his own age next door but it hasn't really happened obviously. Don't know but they might be going to the same school in September.

I know he was only doing his job and in fairness i was treated all right all considering. It was an assault and I ended up in hospital too before getting interviewed and he was there "guarding" me all that time so I am sure he would remember me and with the interviews and court.

corner of hells

corner of hells wrote: »

You're the Garda ,aren't ya ?
And ya arrested him after he was caught robbing daffodils from the flower pots outside your station and the lads who work with you keep reminding you of the time you arrested a master criminal.

They were geranuims! And that Baaasterd judge let him off with a caution. What could I do but track him down, find out where he lives and move in beside him. I'll get him for something some day. Justice has to be served. They were Geraniums!!

Conor84

AMKC wrote: »

Just a few of my former teachers from school all them years ago. Talk about awkward. I suppose it would not be so bad if you were a going out person (I am not) and seen them around a bit but when its 20 odd years and your an adult now then see the teacher that used to teach you History(was a sound teacher) or English ( was a bit of a crazy teacher) yes that can be awkward.

Remember going back for a school Anniversary about 10 years after leaving, Was a bit awkward at first seeing the teachers after 10 years especially the few I didn't like, But felt on the same level then apart from the fact they were older now and I was an adult. Felt strange having a pint with the though and then having a cigarette outside with my old Geogoraphy teacher.

Junkyard Tom

Have you considered sneaking into his house at night and gently wedging your thumb up his hole?

Your Face

Nothing too serious, such as the OPs situation.

There was a fella from school who I always thought was an imbecile.
In school, I never had too many interactions with him but the few I had, always gave me the impression that he was a clown.
I had not seen him for years until this past Christmas.
One evening, he was walking up ahead of me and happened to look back and spot me.
He hadn't changed a bit, still a big wide-faced donkey with remarkable and unfortunately proportioned features.
He would walk a bit, stop and look back, give his best attempt at grinning and then keep walking.
He did this a few times.
Dispassionately, I watched him, feeling somewhat sad and slightly annoyed at his current existence.

Fr_Dougal

Don’t worry about it, OP.

It’s a while ago, and as long as it was a once off you’ll be grand. Regarding the tax thing, it’s not uncommon for people to check car tax; I have a few friends who do it all the time out of curiosity over the size of the engine in a car. As a guard he’d know if it’s in date by the colour of the disc so he wouldn’t need to inspect it.

You’ll get chatting properly eventually, you’ll be okay once he realizes you’ve grown up.

Junkyard Tom

Junkyard Tom wrote: »

Have you considered sneaking into his house at night and gently wedging your thumb up his hole?

Strange. That's exactly how I met my wife.

Bigmac1euro

Don’t worry about it OP. He’ll be gone soon enough because you’ll be back in a cell. It’s his road now.

Purple Mountain

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I got a taxi home from the airport last year, and the driver was a complete pain in the hole. Shíttin’ on about ‘Man U’, the Dublin football team, the price of drink in Dublin, the best place to get an all-you-can-get Chinese buffet, culchies etc. Longest 15 minutes of my life.

Got out of the car and prayed that I never met the prick again.

Back in the airport about a month ago. Late flight back in. Had a feed of pints in Luton Airport and was keen to get home to my leaba. Hopped into the taxi. Who was driving it only the fat fûcker. ‘Howya Bud, ‘tis you again’.

Jesus Christ

I can't believe you actually refrained from saying your ex wife

Always Tired

Well if you want a guard to come to a BBQ my first piece of advice would be not to cook pig on a spit.

TuringBot47

I used to live beside a guard. There was this other guy on our road always seemed to be bringing nordie cars down and parking them for months in awkward/ technically illegal places on the street that made it awkward for the guard to reverse his car into his driveway. The guard said he could've wrote him a parking ticket everytime but didn't want hassle with the neighbors.

So OP I imagine he wants a quiet life too.
And plenty of times the wives will talk but the men don't want to socialise with the neighbors.
Nothing personal, just don't want forced conversation.

freshpopcorn

A college lecturer.
Very nice smiley guy when you met him for the first time and at other times..
He'd tell you to call him John and the next day he's say how dare you call me that it's Mr O'Brien.
Another time a few of us skipped his lecturer and he tracked us down and said he was going to go out of his way to fail us and cause us trouble.
He did various other things but some loved him.
I'm 99.9% sure who his son is and he often appears on TV.

Joe Don Dante

**** his missus while hes at work

McMurphy

JohnnyFlash wrote: »

I got a taxi home from the airport last year, and the driver was a complete pain in the hole. Shin’ on about ‘Man U’, the Dublin football team, the price of drink in Dublin, the best place to get an all-you-can-get Chinese buffet, culchies etc. Longest 15 minutes of my life.

Got out of the car and prayed that I never met the prick again.

Back in the airport about a month ago. Late flight back in. Had a feed of pints in Luton Airport and was keen to get home to my leaba. Hopped into the taxi. Who was driving it only the fat fûcker. ‘Howya Bud, ‘tis you again’.

Jesus Christ

A taxi driver that transports probably thousands of people a year remembered you a year later?

Maybe it was a two way street, and you stood out to him above all of the other mundane passengers he ferries about on a daily basis?

Maybe you were that one fare he hoped never to see again in his life?

Were you being particularly aggravating/obnoxious during the first journey that made you stand out and left a lasting impression on him?

Maybe you left a particularly throat scraping, nasal gouging fart in his car?

Told him a long winded tale about your demon of an ex wife?

Maybe revered him with tales of coiling a particularly foul smelling bum cigar out in the jacks of the bookies from trainspotting?

Need more data.

Muppet Man

OP, unless you gave the guard a couple of thumbs or crapped in his letterbox, I wouldn't worry too much. It was his job and He won't take it personally or at least he should be man enough to differentiate job v personal life, Best to thing to do is just say it to him someday... "That was some crack we had years ago... Glad it's all behind us"

MarkY91

AMKC wrote: »

Just a few of my former teachers from school all them years ago. Talk about awkward. I suppose it would not be so bad if you were a going out person (I am not) and seen them around a bit but when its 20 odd years and your an adult now then see the teacher that used to teach you History(was a sound teacher) or English ( was a bit of a crazy teacher) yes that can be awkward.

My ex history teacher lives down the road from me. I see him around my area quite often.

My ex Irish teacher goes to my gym. Really awkward seeing his white arse when you walk into the dressing room.

I highly doubt they remember me. It was about 15 years ago since they were my teachers.

JustAThought

One or two evil ex bosses who I'd have serious trouble refraining from telling to burn in hell. One in particular - luckily karma has caught up on his so badly I feel vindicated for the years of pure workplace abuse and open vicious bullying.

OP - bad luck with your neighbour - he wants nothing to do with you or his family and you can be sure that if you were convicted eventually he will mention why.

JohnnyFlash

Johnny Dogs wrote: »

A taxi driver that transports probably thousands of people a year remembered you a year later?

Maybe it was a two way street, and you stood out to him above all of the other mundane passengers he ferries about on a daily basis?

Maybe you were that one fare he hoped never to see again in his life?

Were you being particularly aggravating/obnoxious during the first journey that made you stand out and left a lasting impression on him?

Maybe you left a particularly throat scraping, nasal gouging fart in his car?

Told him a long winded tale about your demon of an ex wife?

Maybe revered him with tales of coiling a particularly foul smelling bum cigar out in the jacks of the bookies from trainspotting?

Need more data.

What kind of data, dude? Not sure what your post is about to be honest.

razorblunt

If your worried a Garda remembers you then you must have done something that would warrant him not forgetting it.
I wouldn't be bothered by it, make a point of checking his disks.
Play this passively aggressively for the lols.

blinding

Ease up on your criminal behaviour or else get better at it .

You could build a Prison cell in your Garden and put yourself in there when you think that he thinks that you should be locked up again . Just to save going down the Garda Barracks again !

Conor84

Always Tired wrote: »

Well if you want a guard to come to a BBQ my first piece of advice would be not to cook pig on a spit.

Ah now I understand what I did wrong!

JustAThought wrote: »

OP - bad luck with your neighbour - he wants nothing to do with you or his family and you can be sure that if you were convicted eventually he will mention why.

Yeah I suppose so. Don't need to be his mate or anything but don't want any bother if we are neighbours. I was cutting the grass earlier on and normally I would have done the strip on his side but just left it. Just don't like the idea of him knowing this about me and maybe telling neighbours or something. I am sure he has probably checked up on me again by now.