Help, I've no friends

weet0e96

Hi All

I'll get straight to the point. I'm a 22 year old guy working in Dublin with basically no social circle because I'm not here long and have been busy with work and study. Can you please give me some insight into how to fix this? I'm an out going person and happy to get involved with pretty much anything. Happy to try joining clubs or societies so just shout if you know of any particularly good/friendly ones. Just hoping to make some friends, Dublin is a very lonely place without them.

ToddyDoody

weet0e96 wrote: »

Dublin is a very lonely place without them.

Give it a while. You'll want to buy a big stick to beat them with.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

weet0e96 wrote: »

Hi All

I'll get straight to the point. I'm a 22 year old guy working in Dublin with basically no social circle because I'm not here long and have been busy with work and study. Can you please give me some insight into how to fix this? I'm an out going person and happy to get involved with pretty much anything. Happy to try joining clubs or societies so just shout if you know of any particularly good/friendly ones. Just hoping to make some friends, Dublin is a very lonely place without them.

Difficult to say specifically without knowing you, but have a look at meetup.com - there are clubs for ****loads of things. Something should be of interest. And if it isn't you can always start your own.

LorelliPop!

What about the people you work with op or what are you in college studying? Are they no fun? It just takes times to get to know people.

weet0e96

The people I work with are great but most of them are older and in relationships etc.. They just don't seem that interested tbh.

Pac1Man

Do you like Pogs?

LorelliPop!

weet0e96 wrote: »

The people I work with are great but most of them are older and in relationships etc.. They just don't seem that interested tbh.

Ye I know what you mean but do they ever have nights out together? It's a bit of a pain going to those things but that's how you get to know people. And do you have neighbours? House share?

Tell me how

After Hours Answer?
@Michael1979 is often looking for friends for various activities. I suspect ye would hit it off. He is in Waterford though I think so meeting for a pint midweek could be a challenge unless ye meet in Carlow or something.


Real world answer?
Ask a work colleague do they want to meet for a drink to watch football midweek.
Ask a study college do they want to meet earlier than class for a coffee.
Identify what you are interested in doing as a hobby and joining a group of people who do that.
Be a friend to people, ask them hows life going, have they any plans for the weekend etc etc etc.
Are you renting? Consider the above with with respect to your housemates.

Take the opportunities that are presented to you. If someone offers their number, take it.
Don't push for BFF status or even friend status like ye are discussing exclusivity. Friendships in adulthood grow organically by actions more than words.

Don't be the person who asks a stranger for their number after chatting to them for 1/2 a minute, texts them 2 days later asking to meet up, gets annoyed when they say they are busy and goes on a social media rant talking about how bad a friend they are.

Signore Fancy Pants

Pac1Man wrote: »

Do you like Pogs?

Wana swap Callcards?

weet0e96

Pac1Man wrote: »

Do you like Pogs?

I've heard of them but have zero knowledge after that

ToddyDoody

weet0e96 wrote: »

Pac1Man wrote: »

Do you like Pogs?

I've heard of them but have zero knowledge after that

I think he meant dogs

weet0e96

ToddyDoody wrote: »

I think he meant dogs

Was Pogs not a game with small circular disks? I love dogs

ToddyDoody

weet0e96 wrote: »

ToddyDoody wrote: »

I think he meant dogs

Was Pogs not a game with small circular disks? I love dogs

They were but who cares about pogz (its cool to spell it with a z) anymore?

Dogs are a man's best friend. Maybe even your new best frend.

Tomas81

Have you any interest in certain Sports? If you have some free evenings, Gaelic clubs or Combat sports can be good for social settings

Church on Tuesday

Jeffrey Dahmer wrote: »

I'll be your friend op.

OP may want to think twice about that...


But yeah join clubs and societies that interest you, you really have to put yourself out there TBH cos they won't come to you.

What I will say is that as you get older from here on out it will get harder to make friends. A lot of people prefer to just stick with their partner after a certain age. I'm older than you and the friend pool these days is pretty scarce.

But do have a look around, if you go to a group with a common interest you will have something in common with that person right away, so do give it a go.

Pac1Man

ToddyDoody wrote: »

who cares about pogz anymore?

Mod Impersonator: ToddyDoddy please think twice before posting in this thread again. Something something about our charter also.

topnotch

Should be some group on meetup.com that takes your fancy.
https://www.meetup.com/cities/ie/dublin/

AndrewJRenko

An election campaign is a great way to meet people. Pick the party that is closest to your personal values and offer support to your local candidate.

Even if you're not up for canvassing, there are jobs for everyone - leafleting, postering, dealing with queries and more. You'll meet lots of people who broadly share your values.

Tomas81

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

An election campaign is a great way to meet people. Pick the party that is closest to your personal values and offer support to your local candidate.

Even if you're not up for canvassing, there are jobs for everyone - leafleting, postering, dealing with queries and more. You'll meet lots of people who broadly share your values.

Is this serious or a joke hahah

LorelliPop!

Tomas81 wrote: »

Is this serious or a joke hahah

Why? I did a bit of canvassing when I was around op's age and am still friends with loads of the people.

topnotch

Steer clear of referendums though OP they can get messy quickly. :pac:

Tomas81

LorelliPop! wrote: »

Why? I did a bit of canvassing when I was around op's age and am still friends with loads of the people.

You want him to join a political party to meet friends. Now this is coming from someone involved in a party since I'm 14 years old I'm now I'm my 60s.

You cannot just land in a party with the agenda of meeting friends

LorelliPop!

If you're canvassing op just go out with a pen and a piece of paper and if they start being dicks to you at the door, you just be nice and say 'mmhmmm' and pretend to write stuff down! People go mad at that :pac: it's amazing what a pen and a piece of paper can do!

Only joking, don't do that

Assetbacked

Forget people, surround yourself with cats. That's what bitter women do as they get older and it seems to give them a purpose.

LorelliPop!

Tomas81 wrote: »

You want him to join a political party to meet friends. Now this is coming from someone involved in a party since I'm 14 years old I'm now I'm my 60s.

You cannot just land in a party with the agenda of meeting friends

No. He said to choose a party that is in line with the ops values/interests and he could make some friends that he might have some things in common with.

It was just a suggestion but if op has no interest in politics at all then it wouldn't be for him.

Church on Tuesday

Assetbacked wrote: »

Forget people, surround yourself with cats. That's what bitter women do as they get older and it seems to give them a purpose.

Or a little dog.

Either will do really.

Strumms

A good way to meet people is through sports. Consider joining a gym / sports team. Take it from me.... you are guaranteed to meet many like minded folks and bond over your shared love of fitness / exercise / sport - in a positive, healthy and fun atmosphere. It’s been my experience anyway.

jay1988

Go to your local league of ireland clubs ground on a friday night. Great way to meet new people and every club could do with extra numbers in the gate so you'd be helping them too.

Edit: Unless its Shamrock Rovers **** them.

Mrcaramelchoc

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

An election campaign is a great way to meet people. Pick the party that is closest to your personal values and offer support to your local candidate.

Even if you're not up for canvassing, there are jobs for everyone - leafleting, postering, dealing with queries and more. You'll meet lots of people who broadly share your values.

is it a joke though? it is is it?

Tell me how

OP, I see Jeffrey Dahmer is the only one who thanked your first post.
Beware of PM's.

biko

Try sites like meetup.com
Or gridnr

fash

I'd recommend salsa/Latin dancing (assuming you are hetro) - get to meet up with males and females in class and go out to clubs/parties on weekends.

AndrewJRenko

Tomas81 wrote: »

Is this serious or a joke hahah

Mrcaramelchoc wrote: »

is it a joke though? it is is it?

You're both joking, right?

Tomas81 wrote: »

You want him to join a political party to meet friends. Now this is coming from someone involved in a party since I'm 14 years old I'm now I'm my 60s.

You cannot just land in a party with the agenda of meeting friends

Why not? What are the requirements to join your party and get active?

Tomas81

AndrewJRenko wrote: »

You're both joking, right?






Why not? What are the requirements to join your party and get active?

Well wouldn't be to join it to make friends it would be to get candidates elected and get a mandate for our policies.

Collie D

Tomas81 wrote: »

Well wouldn't be to join it to make friends it would be to get candidates elected and get a mandate for our policies.

There are no friends in politics - Possibly a famous quote but probably not. I think it sounds good.

take everything

I hear you OP.
On a funny note, I love how your post is thanked by Jeffrey Dahmer.

You could be in there.

Strumms

Mrcaramelchoc wrote: »

is it a joke though? it is is it?

I’d fûcking hope... using the words politicians and values is the bit that made me not stop laughing.

AndrewJRenko

Tomas81 wrote: »

Well wouldn't be to join it to make friends it would be to get candidates elected and get a mandate for our policies.

Why would you think that the two are mutually exclusive?

Capt'n Midnight

Join Macra na Feirme

AndrewJRenko

Collie D wrote: »

There are no friends in politics - Possibly a famous quote but probably not. I think it sounds good.

I know quite a few couples who have got married through politics. I know people who's main friend group is their college political party buddies.

Charles Ingles

Have you thought about your local church always a nice warm welcome there, great way to meet local people join the church singing group great crack and you will make friends for sure

BOHtox

weet0e96 wrote: »

Hi All

I'll get straight to the point. I'm a 22 year old guy working in Dublin with basically no social circle because I'm not here long and have been busy with work and study. Can you please give me some insight into how to fix this? I'm an out going person and happy to get involved with pretty much anything. Happy to try joining clubs or societies so just shout if you know of any particularly good/friendly ones. Just hoping to make some friends, Dublin is a very lonely place without them.

Seriously, you could download Tinder or something and try find your other half. Do a bit of dating and hope you find the one for you.

Within a few weeks you should be seeing him/her 2 or 3 times a week. Chilling watching the match, doing activities on the weekend, midweek pints, weekend brunches etc.

I'm also in a political party and I've some fantastic friends from it too. If it is something you're interested in I'd join it. If you play GAA or football or something then you could join your local team. In your work is there a social club? Or an events teams? Or even is there people there who are just good craic? Try hang out with them maybe too. As others said try a gym or your local League of Ireland team. Just you do you, be active, get out there etc. Follow what interests you

It also says you're new to Dublin. Are you Irish or foreign? For instance, if you're Polish is there a Polish in Dublin Facebook group for you to join?

Hope it works out OP. Nothing worse than loneliness

BBFAN

What about evening classes OP? Doesn't have to be anything too taxing but I've met some of my best friends in college.

Photography, creative writing, anything you've an interest in really. Always meet nice people in these classes.