Has my partner betrayed me?

Da Optimist

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Augme

He's enjoying the attention and doesn't want it to stop. I'm not sure if that alone is worth throwing the whole relationship away but obviously it's not a great sign.

Calypso Realm

My thoughts as well BUT while he's while he's just enjoying the attention, he's also inadvertently encouraging the other person as well. Also he's new and may not want to rock the boat at this early stage.

Does this work colleague know he's in a relationship because it sounds to me she may not at this point?

woodchuck

Surely if somebody is giving you 'unwanted' sexual intention you don't engage with them on such a warm basis?

Exactly. It seems to me that he's enjoying the attention.

Best case scenario, he's flattered by the attention and wants to keep it coming.

Worst case scenario, he's attracted to her too and has/will act on this. Obviously nobody here can say if this is actually the case though.

I'd definitely confront him about this. His behaviour is completely inappropriate.

leggo

I mean he's telling you this stuff so it's unlikely he's hiding in plain sight. But he also sounds like he's really immature and trying to make you jealous. Have there been other problems in the relationship? The fact you didn't really say anything positive about him and are considering ending it suggests it's more shaky than maybe you'd want it to be after 5 years. Have there been issues in the bedroom, even with frequency, that could be making him try spark a reaction out of you? That doesn't make it okay, but at least it could shine some light on where this is coming from.

Either way, I think there are bigger issues here and this is just symptomatic of that.

rolling boh

*certainly he seems very immature and is not showing you much respect he is 26 years of age and should not be encouraging this other person who may well think he is fancy free or is just playing games.You should talk to him and his reaction should show you what he really thinks of your relationship .Good luck.

Exclamation Marc

Whilst I genuinely dont think he's doing anything physically behind your back, I would tell your other half that his ignorance is essentially enabling his work colleague to be wholly inappropriate and it is making you feel extremely uncomfortable in the process because he is part of the problem.

He wouldn't be happy if you were receiving similar messages from another male.