Thin privilege

Woke Hogan

I am a middle aged man and I am more or less in the same shape I have been since my late teens. I think that's because I'd rather eat my own **** than eat processed muck ****e like Chinese meals takeaway pizzas or desserts in general, especially those ****ing doughnuts you see those fat pigs gobbling down in the capital.

My daughter on the other hand has been gaining weight steadily throughout her twenties and now she is a very overweight or obese twenty seven year old woman. We discuss this sometimes and she accuses me of "thin privilege," usually when I ask her to eat more moderate portions. At least when she visits.

I looked up "thin privilege" and observed that the complaints from the fat community are very insubstantial: the obese are not widely considered beautiful or gripes about assuming that living an unhealthy lifestyle isn't healthy. Surely there's more to it than this? These criticisms are very shallow. Skin deep, you might say.

Sonic Youth

I used to get quite the laugh at fatties raging about thin 'privilege' on Tumblr.

wakka12

Well, I think the problem here is nobody has the right to tell other people what size or shape their body could look. Saying you care about the state health expenditure is a load of utter tosh

Youre her father so its fine to advise her to become healthier, but random strangers shouldnt be telling people that they need to lose weight and random strangers shouldnt really care about how fat another random stranger is

Alrigghtythen

Cook healthier food for her when she visits, then there'll be no need to tell her to eat smaller portions/ cook a smaller amount.

Wibbs

wakka12 wrote: »

random strangers shouldnt really care about how fat another random stranger is

That's my take. Unless I'm stuck on a Ryanair flight beside someone extremely fat, it has pretty much zero impact on my life. If a friend was getting too fat I might be worried for them but can't see much of a positive pointing it out. Though I'd be more likely to point it out to a male friend than a female friend.

sk8erboii

How do people get fat? Ive been eating like a heart attack since i was young and im in great shape. I go to the gym but its never been a struggle to lose weight

eviltwin

Its one thing to express concern about your daughters health but calling her a fat pig is just about making her feel like crap.

Woke Hogan

eviltwin wrote: »

Its one thing to express concern about your daughters health but calling her a fat pig is just about making her feel like crap.

I have never called her a fat pig, how dare you. Withdraw that remark.

Yer Da sells Avon

Woke Hogan wrote: »

My daughter on the other hand has been gaining weight steadily throughout her twenties and now she is a very overweight or obese twenty seven year old woman. We discuss this sometimes and she accuses me of "thin privilege," usually when I ask her to eat more moderate portions. At least when she visits.

Have you considered not giving unsolicited dietary advice to your adult daughter?

SEPT 23 1989

You could always start up a Laurel & Hardy tribute act

super_furry

This is definitely a thing that happened and certainly not something you just made up to make some thinly veiled point.

ED E

Wibbs wrote: »

That's my take. Unless I'm stuck on a Ryanair flight beside someone extremely fat, it has pretty much zero impact on my life. If a friend was getting too fat I might be worried for them but can't see much of a positive pointing it out. Though I'd be more likely to point it out to a male friend than a female friend.

Yeah except for their load on the HSE which you pay for.

Timberrrrrrrr

Am i the only one wondering why op thinks its only people "down in the Capital" who eat donuts?

Woke Hogan

Yer Da sells Avon wrote: »

Have you considered not giving unsolicited dietary advice to your adult daughter?

Why would I consider that? She's killing herself eating that pig****.

Bubbaclaus

Woke Hogan wrote: »

I have never called her a fat pig, how dare you. Withdraw that remark.

You described fat people as fat pigs and also said your daughter is fat. Therefore you technically did.

orourkeda1977

Have a pizza and a ****.

Bubbaclaus

Timberrrrrrrr wrote: »

Am i the only one wondering why op thinks its only people "down in the Capital" who eat donuts?

Sounds like a member of the Healy Raes.

eviltwin

Woke Hogan wrote: »

I have never called her a fat pig, how dare you. Withdraw that remark.

You used that phrase in your op. If you talk like that about other overweight people she's going to assume you feel that way about her.

super_furry

eviltwin wrote: »

You used that phrase in your op. If you talk like that about other overweight people she's going to assume you feel that way about her.

Except he doesn't because she doesn't exist.

smeal

I wouldn’t have a problem telling a close friend or family member that I was worried about their weight again. I would like to think I would appreciate their honesty in the long run if the shoe was on the other foot.

I hate to see people suffering with weight gain. A work colleague repeatedly complains about her weight and moans how she can’t fit into a lot of high street clothing brands anymore. Meanwhile her diet is atrocious.. deli food for breakfast, packaged sandwiches and crisps for lunch, milky coffees and constantly helping herself to the treat box in the kitchen. God knows what she eats for dinner. In the year I have worked there her weight has ballooned and she isn’t even 30 yet. I barely speak to her on a personal front but I would like to think that someone close to her might help her even by simple things like asking her to join them for a bit of exercise.

Plumbthedepths

Someone finished their homework early.

Fighting Tao

Did you feed her like yourself when she was young and ban her from everything you considered unhealthy? If so, then you probably contributed to her weight issues. She possibly didn’t get to learn about moderation when it comes to eating the unhealthy foods and so pigs out on them.

mikhail

ED E wrote: »

Yeah except for their load on the HSE which you pay for.

Sure, along with drinkers, smokers, eaters of red meat, motorcyclists, etc. Why do you never hear anyone arguing that people should drink less to ease the burden on the tax-payer?

Yer Da sells Avon

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Why would I consider that? She's killing herself eating that pig****.

Because she's an adult, who (a) hasn't asked for your advice, and (b) clearly doesn't want it.

Franz Von Peppercorn

Timberrrrrrrr wrote: »

Am i the only one wondering why op thinks its only people "down in the Capital" who eat donuts?

Doughnuts. To be fair there was a fairly major excitement regarding doughnuts a few weeks back, in this fair city.

Franz Von Peppercorn

Bubbaclaus wrote: »

Sounds like a member of the Healy Raes.

They would say “up”. This lads from up norf.

Hammer89

eviltwin wrote: »

Its one thing to express concern about your daughters health but calling her a fat pig is just about making her feel like crap.

There is no daughter. This isn't a real story.

Woke Hogan

Fighting Tao wrote: »

Did you feed her like yourself when she was young and ban her from everything you considered unhealthy? If so, then you probably contributed to her weight issues. She possibly didn’t get to learn about moderation when it comes to eating the unhealthy foods and so pigs out on them.

I never banned her from eating anything. Her mother would have done most of the cooking for the family and they occasionally would have treated themselves to sweet foods. I rarely did, though.

Woke Hogan

Yer Da sells Avon wrote: »

Because she's an adult, who (a) hasn't asked for your advice, and (b) clearly doesn't want it.

Being an adult means (a) swallowing your pride and doing the right thing for yourself, even if it means listening to unsolicited advice and (b) being told something you don't want to hear from time to time.

Roger Hassenforder

Timberrrrrrrr

Franz Von Peppercorn wrote: »

Doughnuts. To be fair there was a fairly major excitement regarding doughnuts a few weeks back, in this fair city.

Doh! Nuts!

What happened? What have i missed?

Noveight

“The fat community”

Identity driven politics is cancerous.

haskellgeek

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

She'd only have to look at a few of the ex footballers to to see what happens to some of them post football! But yes I laughed more than I should have

Westernyelp

If you see someone you love doing themselves harm, there is nothing wrong with talking to them about it. Good advice is even better

Woke Hogan

Westernyelp wrote: »

If you see someone you love doing themselves harm, there is nothing wrong with talking to them about it. Good advice is even better

You're dead right. I think people have a responsibility to point out to the ones they love what harm they're doing to themselves or the environment.

Yer Da sells Avon

Woke Hogan wrote: »

Being an adult means (a) swallowing your pride and doing the right thing for yourself, even if it means listening to unsolicited advice and (b) being told something you don't want to hear from time to time.

No, it doesn't. It means having the freedom to make your own decisions.

Westernyelp

Clever people and grown ups make there own decisions after listening to good advice

Woke Hogan

Yer Da sells Avon wrote: »

No, it doesn't. It means having the freedom to make your own decisions.

She is free to make her own decisions. I'm not forcing her to do anything.