Let' s Talk About Domestic Abuse

JupiterKid

Domestic abuse is apparently as prevalent amongst same sex couples as opposite sex ones. Often the LGBT community don't talk about the issue of domestic abuse because they don't want to attract negative publicity on themselves and having to deal with casual homophobia in the wider world can be a struggle enough.

I have a friend who was in a very abusive relationship with his boyfriend. He was beaten black and blue a number of times and although I suspected something was amiss, it was only when he broke down and confided in me and showed me some of the bruising that my fears were confirmed and I told him to leave his partner. It still took him a nearly a year to do that.

His boyfriend was very big and strong physically and had an ex girlfriend and young son from when before he came out as gay. He was also a heavy drinker and was gruff and surly in manner. I never liked him.

Has anyone here been in an abusive relationship or do you know anyone in a same sex relationship where domestic abuse is taking place? I've been in an emotionally abusive relationship myself in the past but thankfully not physically abusive. I think in same sex relationships this issue is very taboo.

Same sex couples might appear OK on the surface but you don't know what pain and violence happens behind closed doors.

Goodshape

Mod note:: I've removed a couple of off-topic posts. This is the LGBT forum and we discuss LGBT topics. That is why we have a thread discussing domestic abuse in LGBT relationships.

We're not debating whether domestic abuse in LGBT relationships is better, worse, different, or anything else compared to any other form of domestic abuse. Take that somewhere else – or, preferably, don't.