Turned down a job is it too late?

1122ww

Hi,

I've had a terrible dilemma over the past few weeks, I got an offer of a dream job, granted there would be a few sacrifices to be made if I took that job, -taking a salary hit etc

I decided to accept the dream job so I resigned, but my company came back with a significant counter offer (it would result in thousands in the difference)

I started to feel really sad about leaving my current company
I was faced with a dilemma, finally I decided to take my company's counter offer, however 2 weeks have passed and I am feeling desperately unhappy. All the old feelings of unhappiness with the role have since come back.

Should I go and see if there is any chance of getting the dream job back? Or would I mess things up with both companies? The dream job is something that I won't ever get offered again...
Before I accepted the counter offer and when I thought I was leaving my current company, I had left it on a really good note, they said they would consider me again down the line, is it really stupid to even consider the dream job again? Plus the dream job needs me to start ASAP by now I would not have enough time to work 1 months notice with my current employer, but I now feel I will end up leaving for something else anyway....

wexie

1122ww wrote: »

Should I go and see if there is any chance of getting the dream job back?

If it is indeed your dream job then yes, however if you turned it down over money you already knew you wouldn't get in this dream job (you accepted a pay cut) then maybe it isn't?

Either way there's no harm in trying to find out

1122ww wrote: »

Or would I mess things up with both companies?

If you're already thinking you may leave your current job if you can't get the other one anyways then you don't need to worry too much about upsetting your current employer. That's if they would even find out.

Don't get your hopes up though, they may already have hired someone else.

seamusk84

Hard one to answer. Frankly I think the best thing to do is stick with your decision to stay where you are. You made that choice and it's best to stick to it now to avoid looking bad with both companies.

You can always see how things are in 6 months time again. There will always be other opportunities out there.

Jim2007

1122ww wrote: »

Should I go and see if there is any chance of getting the dream job back?

You turned it down, do you really think they have been sitting around waiting for you to change your mind? They offered to someone else of course and either they accepted it or it was offered to the third and so on.

1122ww

Hi Jim2007

I know for a fact that their head of hr has been on annual leave and will be back in the office tomorrow, so I'd more be hoping that they might not have gotten around to hiring the next person on the list!!

WhiteMemento9

You are desperately unhappy in your current position and you have a chance at doing something you love. As long as it isn't a case that you are just looking at far away fields as greener then make sure you go for it. Things will only get worse in your head if the opportunity slips by and you didn't even try.

vectorvictor

1122ww wrote: »

Hi Jim2007

I know for a fact that their head of hr has been on annual leave and will be back in the office tomorrow, so I'd more be hoping that they might not have gotten around to hiring the next person on the list!!

Think through both possible outcomes. Assuming you can get yourself back in the running , you are likely to be seen as indecisive and would be starting off under a bit of a compliment. They'll also be concerned about you messing around your current employer with uncertainty.

That said, nothing ventured and all that and a quick, factual email about having rethought will end you thinking about what could have been one way or the other.

If doing this , don't apologise, plead or come across like you've done something wrong. Simply announce your renewed interest in the role. Nice and dignified rather than an oh no I ballsed up mail

1122ww

Thanks for the advice all.

I want to leave things on good terms with my current as I possibly can...they will be my main referee, as I said, when I initially resigned before the counter offer, I had just done it all perfectly, leaving on really good terms.

The really difficult aspect is the the 'dream job' is an extremely rare type of job offer, realistically I would never get this again in my lifetime, but at this laterm stage I risk jeopardising my good name and reputation with my current employer

Blazer

to be honest you do come across as indecisive.
This was your dream job and potentially as you said it might never come up again.
If it was me I would contact HR or your contact and just inquire.
If they ask why I would explain that your current employer had come back with a counter offer much higher than theirs and you accepted it, but realised you had made a mistake as this was your dream job.
Everyone makes mistakes...its learning from those mistakes that weeds out the good ones.
All they can say is the job is still available, or its gone. Either way you have nothing to lose by contacting them.

rainbowtrout

1122ww wrote: »

Thanks for the advice all.

I want to leave things on good terms with my current as I possibly can...they will be my main referee, as I said, when I initially resigned before the counter offer, I had just done it all perfectly, leaving on really good terms.

The really difficult aspect is the the 'dream job' is an extremely rare type of job offer, realistically I would never get this again in my lifetime, but at this laterm stage I risk jeopardising my good name and reputation with my current employer

But if the dream job is still available when you contact them and you accept it, presumably you won't be going back to the current employer ever again? Not much you can do about your current employer's opinion of you anyway. They've given you money to stay, but are aware that you may go looking again.

1122ww

Thanks for the replies all. I am a very indecisive person, I always struggle to make decisions. Because this is to do with my next career move, it is so important and I want to try to do the right thing and not mess it up.

I have been with my current employer for a long time, so I don't want to sour that relationship and also my future reference..

Henry Ford III

Seems you already made your decision, then reversed it, and now want to reverse it back again.

Money isn't that important at the margin.

You accepted your dream job, and you should have had the courage of your convictions I think.

You now run the risk of cheesing everybody off.

Engage with your dream job employer, but don't be too surprised if they've moved on without you.

1122ww

Henry Ford III wrote: »

Seems you already made your decision, then reversed it, and now want to reverse it back again.

Money isn't that important at the margin.

You accepted your dream job, and you should have had the courage of your convictions I think.

You now run the risk of cheesing everybody off.

Engage with your dream job employer, but don't be too surprised if they've moved on without you.

Thanks for the advice. Yes I am so annoyed with myself for not being brave enough to make the jump.

OMM 0000

I wouldn't hire you if I was the manager in the dream job company. You sound like a risk. Someone who won't stick around.

The above may sound harsh, but hiring people is difficult, so any red flags are big problems.

But you have nothing to lose by reaching out to them.

1122ww

OMM 0000 wrote: »

I wouldn't hire you if I was the manager in the dream job company. You sound like a risk. Someone who won't stick around.

The above may sound harsh, but hiring people is difficult, so any red flags are big problems.

But you have nothing to lose by reaching out to them.

I know, I come across as flaky, but every job I've been in I've stayed for years!! It's just that I'm indecisive.

OMM 0000

1122ww wrote: »

I know, I come across as flaky, but every job I've been in I've stayed for years!! It's just that I'm indecisive.

I understand.

Give them a shout. Worst they can say is no...