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Friend?

  • 31-08-2018 2:22am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm not sure what I want from this post. I suppose some advice please. I was friends with someone or over 15 years and eventually he just decided to stop being friends with me. He said he didn't like it when I pulled him up on things like being mean to homeless people or not getting into a taxi because the driver was of a different nationality. He is sometimes a nice guy but I feel let down that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore and am kind of lonely.


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  • #2
    mistress_gi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 964 ✭✭✭mistress_gi


    I think you may be lucky here, he is the one who is mean and intolerant, if you pulled him up on these things it's because you are clearly not OK with them (I agree with you by the way :))
    I would suggest mourne the loss of an old friend and move on, your standards are clearly above his. Chin up!


  • #3
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    Nobody likes being pulled up on things, especially if it's happening a lot. Perhaps if you'd not known him for 15 years and met him now, you'd not even like him because of his views?

    Reading between the lines, I get the impression you may not have many other friends in your life. Did you put all your eggs in one basket when it came to this guy? All you can do is try to make new friends.


  • #4
    Smegging hell
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 468 ✭✭Smegging hell


    I'd concentrate on making new friends and cultivating the friendships you have. He sounds like an eejit and nothing you pulled him up on was unreasonable.


  • #5
    ManOfMystery
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,394 ✭✭✭ManOfMystery


    a little advice please wrote: »
    I'm not sure what I want from this post. I suppose some advice please. I was friends with someone or over 15 years and eventually he just decided to stop being friends with me. He said he didn't like it when I pulled him up on things like being mean to homeless people or not getting into a taxi because the driver was of a different nationality. He is sometimes a nice guy but I feel let down that he doesn't want to talk to me anymore and am kind of lonely.

    In other words, what he meant was : "I don't want a friend as such, I want someone who will approve and validate my behaviour - no matter how unethical it is - and never question me". 

    You're better off without someone like this in your life. Once you start giving in and ignoring his behaviour, you'd be sacrificing your own morals and integrity and essentially becoming someone you aren't.


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