Can my mother technically kick me out on the street if she wanted to?

lovelife92

I am a 25 female. I have been through A LOT of hardship in my life anyway I am hoping to get a job this week so I can start earning again.

I am living at home and have very few savings due to paying for costs of living and not being on the social system, I was depressed and not thinking straight.

I was in college two years ago, had the opportunity to repeated this year but completely messed it up due to the depression, I just couldn't get it together no matter how hard I tried. At this point if I wanted to go back to the first year of that course it would cost an arm and a leg since I already used the grant for the first year, and I really don't think they would appreciate how I didn't make anything of the opportunity to repeat that they gave me. My mother also thinks it would be a terrible idea since college is not for me she says. So don't want my family to see me as more of a failure than they already do.

Anyway I am fine with working for now and just making my own way at this point, I don't really have any other choice either. I know rent is high in Dublin but think I also need to move out because there is so much stress and a lot going on at home.

Anyway my point is this, if my mother wanted to kick me out in the morning would it be her full right to do that? Because right now we are clashing terribly because she wants me to help her with her life and troubles and I am trying to sort out my own life and she does not appreciate that at all. I am worried what I would do if that did happen?

bisset

lovelife92 wrote: »

I am a 25 female. I have been through A LOT of hardship in my life anyway I am hoping to get a job this week so I can start earning again.

I am living at home and have very few savings due to paying for costs of living and not being on the social system, I was depressed and not thinking straight.

I was in college two years ago, had the opportunity to repeated this year but completely messed it up due to the depression, I just couldn't get it together no matter how hard I tried. At this point if I wanted to go back to the first year of that course it would cost an arm and a leg since I already used the grant for the first year, and I really don't think they would appreciate how I didn't make anything of the opportunity to repeat that they gave me. My mother also thinks it would be a terrible idea since college is not for me she says. So don't want my family to see me as more of a failure than they already do.

Anyway I am fine with working for now and just making my own way at this point, I don't really have any other choice either. I know rent is high in Dublin but think I also need to move out because there is so much stress and a lot going on at home.

Anyway my point is this, if my mother wanted to kick me out in the morning would it be her full right to do that? Because right now we are clashing terribly because she wants me to help her with her life and troubles and I am trying to sort out my own life and she does not appreciate that at all. I am worried what I would do if that did happen?

Unless there are exceptional circumstances, e.g.your mother inherited the house with an order that you were entitled to live there, then yes your mother can force you to leave

lovelife92

bisset wrote: »

Unless there are exceptional circumstances, e.g.your mother inherited the house with an order that you were entitled to live there, then yes your mother can force you to leave

Thank you for this. My grandmother put the house in me and my 4 siblings name due to a bitter situation between my mother and father and his family. But she has a right of residency in the house. So what does this mean?

TomOnBoard

lovelife92 wrote: »

Thank you for this. My grandmother put the house in me and my 4 siblings name due to a bitter situation between my mother and father and his family. But she has a right of residency in the house. So what does this mean?

That sounds like you have a shared ownership in the house, although your Mom's residency rights may override your right to live there if ye're at each others' throats. Its a difficult situation for both/all of ye, that needs some Adult behaviour on all sides to avoid a situation that wont help anyone.

That said, for your own mental health and wellbeing, you would probably benefit most from getting out and take a job so that your horizons can widen out beyond your own 4 walls.

goat2

lovelife92 wrote: »

Thank you for this. My grandmother put the house in me and my 4 siblings name due to a bitter situation between my mother and father and his family. But she has a right of residency in the house. So what does this mean?

She can stay living there, but not sell it,
there are more towns in this country that would be much cheaper to rent in than Dublin, why not move to one of these, and work by day, do evening classes at night, It would be much better than staying in a strained environment, you would find new friends and new social life, separation would do ye both good, give a bit of breathing space, would do your confidence a lot of good, to get away and do it on your own, you would be too busy with work and evening education to think of the troubles at home, no point sitting around in the same old thing, not good mentally or physically, healthier in the long run, there are houses with rooms to rent in towns I am Shure, everyday you are stuck in the situation you describe, you are not living to your full potential,

lovelife92

TomOnBoard wrote: »

That sounds like you have a shared ownership in the house, although your Mom's residency rights may override your right to live there if ye're at each others' throats. Its a difficult situation for both/all of ye, that needs some Adult behaviour on all sides to avoid a situation that wont help anyone.

That said, for your own mental health and wellbeing, you would probably benefit most from getting out and take a job so that your horizons can widen out beyond your own 4 walls.

Thanks I appreciate that. I am trying to organize myself as much as possible this week with my goal being to move out, I actually put a post up because on a different forum about an issue related to this but me trying to sort out a way from being completely broke to me trying to get to a place where I can live a decent life alone away from this daily insanity! Anyway could I send you that post when it is okayed? Cause I really would like to hear your advice or opinion in that

lovelife92

TomOnBoard wrote: »

That sounds like you have a shared ownership in the house, although your Mom's residency rights may override your right to live there if ye're at each others' throats. Its a difficult situation for both/all of ye, that needs some Adult behaviour on all sides to avoid a situation that wont help anyone.

That said, for your own mental health and wellbeing, you would probably benefit most from getting out and take a job so that your horizons can widen out beyond your own 4 walls.

Thanks I appreciate that. I am trying to organize myself as much as possible this week with my goal being to move out, I actually put a post up on a different forum about an issue related to this but me trying to sort out a way from being completely broke to me trying to get to a place where I can live a decent life alone away from this daily insanity! Anyway could I send you that post when it is okayed? Cause I really would like to hear your advice or opinion on that would be great too!

lovelife92

goat2 wrote: »

She can stay living there, but not sell it,
there are more towns in this country that would be much cheaper to rent in than Dublin, why not move to one of these, and work by day, do evening classes at night, It would be much better than staying in a strained environment, you would find new friends and new social life, separation would do ye both good, give a bit of breathing space, would do your confidence a lot of good, to get away and do it on your own, you would be too busy with work and evening education to think of the troubles at home, no point sitting around in the same old thing, not good mentally or physically, healthier in the long run, there are houses with rooms to rent in towns I am Shure, everyday you are stuck in the situation you describe, you are not living to your full potential,

Maybe you are right about that I never really thought about moving out of Dublin really. I will do some research in different places this week and see which counties would be good. I agree that is what is getting me down as well is that the family situation is so toxic and dysfunctional no matter how hard I try I always succumb to depression over it cause I live here. By the way I know this might sound a bit silly, but the reason that I actually feel somewhat obliged to stay here is because of two pets I got years and years ago. I am very attached to them and feel extremely responsible for them. I am the one who mainly walks pets the dog, and he is very attached to me as well so would feel massively guilty to leave him. I don't know how he would be taken care of as well without me here. He is what actually kept me going through some very dark times and would feel I was abandoning him. Sorry for the rant but that really keeps me here more than anything and I don't see a way I could bring him with me.

lovelife92

goat2 wrote: »

She can stay living there, but not sell it,
there are more towns in this country that would be much cheaper to rent in than Dublin, why not move to one of these, and work by day, do evening classes at night, It would be much better than staying in a strained environment, you would find new friends and new social life, separation would do ye both good, give a bit of breathing space, would do your confidence a lot of good, to get away and do it on your own, you would be too busy with work and evening education to think of the troubles at home, no point sitting around in the same old thing, not good mentally or physically, healthier in the long run, there are houses with rooms to rent in towns I am Shure, everyday you are stuck in the situation you describe, you are not living to your full potential,

Maybe you are right about that I never really thought about moving out of Dublin really. I will do some research in different places this week and see which counties would be good. I agree that is what is getting me down as well is that the family situation is so toxic and dysfunctional no matter how hard I try I always succumb to depression over it cause I live here. By the way I know this might sound a bit silly, but the reason that I actually feel somewhat obliged to stay here is because of two pets I got years and years ago. I am very attached to them and feel extremely responsible for them. I am the one who mainly walks pets the dog, and he is very attached to me as well so would feel massively guilty to leave him. I don't know how he would be taken care of as well without me here. He is what actually kept me going through some very dark times and would feel I was abandoning him. Sorry for the rant but that really keeps me here more than anything and I don't see a way I could bring him with me.

goat2

You sound like a great person, anyone that love an animal that much, has a heart, does anyone of the family love them, and would they mind them for you, while you get set up