Hiv+

LegacyUser

hi,i was diagnoised last october with hiv,im really struggling to keep my life on track,work,wife,family etc,i have tried counselling but have felt judged by 2 different counsellors,any advise greatly appreciated

Emme

Have you got advice from your doctor about this? Can you talk to your doctor? I would advise you to talk to a professional with experience in the area of STIs. Try the GUIDE clinic in St James's Hospital and if you can go private Dr Freedman in Ranelagh might be able to help you. They should be able to direct you to counsellors who will not judge you.

LegacyUser

i am linked in with the GUIDE in st james,my nurse is not a pleasant woman to deal with.

Emme

unregistered wrote: »

i am linked in with the GUIDE in st james,my nurse is not a pleasant woman to deal with.

Would you be willing to go to counselling with your wife? If so she may be able to find a suitable counsellor for you both through the Well Woman clinic.

TheBoyConor

HIV is not the horrible disease it once was.

With proper modern treatment you will, for the most part, live a long healthy life like anyone else.

It's a serious infection still, but if you treat it properly you will be fine.

Plenty documentaries on youtube about how people with well treated HIV can go on with life as normal and even manage to have the virus reduced to practically undetectable through use of modern medication.

Still, definitely go for counselling tho. You really should.

Steviesol

Wonderful support out there , try link in with Aids Alliance in Dublin

Best of luck

Bos taurus

Hi. Was diagnosed HIV+ myself last July, so understand what you are going through and the roll-a-coaster of emotions that this diagnosis brings.

I found that the Terrance Higgins Trust and the online community forum connected to the site, was the biggest help for me in learning about the virus, be that medically, mentally and socially.

Forum is accessed once you create an account and log in.

A lot of excellent advice from folks that are going through or have been though similar scenarios. Well worth taking the time to read all the various topics and post from various members of that forum. Even a small snippets of advice over time can help join the dots back together.

I discovered it was my own stigma of the virus that initially hindered me from making peace with the diagnosis.

Counselling wasn't for me, just made me a blubbering mess.

Undetectable since December 2017, and the CD4 count is slowly creeping up in the right direction. On Efavrienz and generic Truvada.

Chin up - it does get better.

BTx.

LegacyUser

I think I can guess who this is as I used to work there. You can complain about her to management and ask to deal with someone else. No one should have to have a difficult situation made more stressful by this behaviour.

unregistered wrote: »

i am linked in with the GUIDE in st james,my nurse is not a pleasant woman to deal with.

LegacyUser

thanks,i have been in touch with the terence higgins foundation in england,they said they wouldnt deal with me because i live in ireland,i didnt know about the online forum,but will check it out,thanks,iv been undectable since febuary on odefesey,havnt had sex with my wife now in a year.

Emme

OP did you contact Dr Freedman in Ranelagh?

TheBoyConor

Did your wife get tested aswell?

Kuva

What age are you? How did you get it?

dudara

Posters - ease off please. That’s three sets of questions in a row which is not fair on the OP. Do not ask questions or look for updates unless it is part of the advice you are giving.

dudara

LegacyUser

my wife is negative