Energy Vampires

DublinHun72

We all have a few or have had at some stage in our lives !

I hate to cut people off but a couple of my friends are literally so negative and it is draining , love drama and complain about the same things over and over. Same problems , different day !

Generally I would try to give advice on stuff and be kind about it / be sympathetic then you realise the other person doesn't want to or is incapable of trying to change anything to better their situations.

How do you find best to deal with people like this? Do you just say it out straight and be done with it or distance yourself by being non committal when the drama or whining start and does this tend to work easier?

evil_seed

click on their username and add them to my ignore list :pac:

biko

Blast them with fire

super_furry

Eat lots of energy garlic.

Cleopatra_

Cut them out. Life is too short.

Giraffe Box

Cleopatra_ wrote: »

Cut them out. Life is too short.

Oh, I thought then OP was talking about children.

Giraffe Box

DublinHun72 wrote: »

We all have a few or have had at some stage in our lives !

I hate to cut my children off but a couple of them are literally so negative and it is draining, love drama and complain about the same things over and over. Same problems, different day !

Generally I would try to give advice on stuff and be kind about it / be sympathetic then you realise the child doesn't want to or is incapable of trying to change anything to better their situations.

How do you find best to deal with children like this? Do you just say it out straight and be done with it or distance yourself by being non committal when the drama or whining start and does this tend to work easier?

This..

cantdecide

People who whine and ask advice and when it's given take it as a personal challenge to enthusiastically debunk everything you suggest. I suppose they think they're critical thinkers but it's a pure sign of a complete gowl.

The Bollocks

Tell them a funny joke and if they do not laugh tell them to ask your bollocks and walk away,

jimgoose

Place the coal-scuttle carefully on your head, wrap a blanket around you as a sort of cape, affect a ridiculous Japanese accent and shout "Now, kill them, my Ninja! Kill them all!!".

NOVA MCMXCIV

Staking is the most common way. Ash works perfectly fine, contrary to popular belief – but a branch from the Hawthorn tree, in my opinion – works better.

valoren

The best advice when dealing with people like that can be condensed into the following quote.

The only way to deal with toxic people is to not deal with toxic people.

There is plenty of wisdom in that, the meaning being that such people will never change despite your wasted energy in attempting to deal with, relate to, understand and engage with them. So if the interaction you have with such people, whether they be long term friends or even family, is intolerable then for your own peace of mind stay away from them as much as possible.

Graces7

valoren wrote: »

The best advice when dealing with people like that can be condensed into the following quote.

The only way to deal with toxic people is to not deal with toxic people.

There is plenty of wisdom in that, the meaning being that such people will never change despite your wasted energy in attempting to deal with, relate to, understand and engage with them. So if the interaction you have with such people, whether they be long term friends or even family, is intolerable then for your own peace of mind stay away from them as much as possible.

Interesting how often a cell phone on vibrate can go off..... This way you can cut short but stay friends..

One thought occurs; make sure you take enough "time out" to renew energy

s7ryf3925pivug

People like that recognise and latch on to people that pander to people like that.

They themselves are easy enough to recognise because they tend to tell people they're not very acquainted with weird dramatic personal stuff.

When vague acquaintances or strangers start telling you personal stuff don't respond by trying to be helpful. Just disengage and keep uour distance.

Bredabe

Giraffe Box wrote: »

This..

Are your children, teens or young adults? if so, this attitude is common amongst their peers. I've found tho, once they have a few of their privileges/illusions shattered they tend to see things differently.

Hard going either way.

Boom_Bap

Answer them in questions:


And how does that make you feel?
What does your inner spirit animal tell you to do?
What's a tracker mortgage?




They will get pee'd off answering questions about themselves and stop with the blatherring.


Or take jimgoose's ninja approach.

Keepaneye

You're all so perfect.

Star Bingo

s7ryf3925pivug

About half of people are vampires like this or fodder for them. Slightly more guys are vampires than food. Slightly more women are food than vampires. But about the same number of each are normal.