Housesharestrife

LegacyUser

There are six in our house and we rent per room from the landlady. It’s a lot of people for a houseshare but it’s a huge house and we got on fine and no issues. I’d say we late 20’s, early 30’s, all working. There is no official cleaning roster, just “clean as you go” and the occasional weekly clean and it works perfect

A girl moved out and an intern student moved in two months ago and he seemed a nice chap. We included him in bbqs, drinks and went cycling. The landlady rents per room, she arranges tenants. It’s gone downhill since them

I share a downstairs toilet with him and the bathroomwith shower upstairs. I could see my toilet paper constantly being used but I let it go and said nothing. I hid paper in my room sometimes and get to see dry piss stains on the seat, eugh!! I put the paper back and left a note saying “hi I’ve put paper here for several weeks can you sort your own thanks”. My note was thrown on the ground, my toilet paper used and the toilet not flushed, a real fook you! Yeah it was him as we share the downstairs WC.

I sorted bin bags and recycling bags and had to change the system as he was messing it up. I let it go, he’s new I thought. I wrote a friendly schedule of days of the week for putting bins out, ignored. He’s first back in the evenings but no, will never bring in the wheelie bin. Spits in the kitchen sink and throws teabags out the back garden are just more of the habits. I believed I imagined the spitting as nobody would do that but yep it happens, I hesr it as my room is by the kitchen

He’s a college student on an internship for a few months , I even met his parents when he moved in. Maybe he lived at home all his life and doesn’t know the real world.

I’m no good at confrontation and usually let things build and then explode one day, not healthy. I knocked on his door to have a chat but got ignored and I didn’t knock later. I said to my housemate who was angry over lots and wanted him gone but we rent per room so not up to us. Another housemate said they would they would email the unofficial house rules.

I could say to the landlady but she won’t care I think once rent is coming in. I don’t think we will get anywhere with the chap. He’s an intern student and leaving in a few months while we rent long term. I can confront or best to leave to the landlady?

Cash_Q

100% say it to the landlady

Imagine he pissed off all 5 long term tenants enough to make you all leave, she wouldn't be too happy I'd imagine

You pay her so that she can deal with this crap

Arrival

I don't know how you are so patient/timid to not have confronted the ****ing scrote after the toilet paper thing and spitting in the kitchen sink, is this guy an animal or what. Since you're afraid of confrontation, why try and do it alone? Bring all of this up with the others around to embarrass him because he sounds so ignorant and oblivious that that's probably the only thing that will actually drive home how badly mannered he is. All of you need to email the landlady explaining this and let her know that you're considering moving specifically because of this one person. She will have no choice but to take the situation seriously then

Rubberchikken

If all of you speak to the Ll maybe something will happen.
His behaviour is disgusting and immature and he needs to be pulled up on it.
If youre not up for approaching him and the Ll doesnt do anything then maybe the others need to have a chat with him. His behaviour long term is going to have a very negative effect on you and the others.

AllForIt

I think as far as nightmare housemates are concerned this one is fairly trivial. I'd say wait it out till he leaves. I don't know how he gets access to your loo roll, just keep yours in your room and bring it with you when you need it. And use the other toilet. Think of it as a little revenge and just ignore him till he's gone.

kylith

AllForIt wrote: »

And use the other toilet. Think of it as a little revenge and just ignore him till he's gone.

I wouldn't do this; you'll just wind up cleaning a huge mess after he's gone.

Seriously, OP, one of ye needs to put on some grown up trousers and take this in hand. Try a quick 'Dude, you need to clean up after yourself, buy your own toilet paper, and stop gozzing in the sink, it's gross.'

If that doesn't work you can take it to the LL and honestly say that you tried to sort it yourself.

Idle Passerby

I think where you fell down was with the notes. Why would someone so inconsiderate listen to your concerns when you don't have the assertiveness to confront him face to face. Notes in sharehouses are the epitomy of patronising passive aggression. You need to deal with him head on.

power pants

Idle Passerby wrote: »

I think where you fell down was with the notes. Why would someone so inconsiderate listen to your concerns when you don't have the assertiveness to confront him face to face. Notes in sharehouses are the epitomy of patronising passive aggression. You need to deal with him head on.

Yes the notes is rather weak and pathetic when you could easily have this sorted out by chatting to him

I don’t think the landlady will care too much if the rest of you leave. She will rent the rooms out in a second and probably at a rent increase too

You lot on the other hand will have problems finding somewhere I would imagine and more than likely even more rent to pay


You are all adults, don’t see why you need to go telling Tales to the landlady

Whilst annoying, none of the faults listed would be enough for a landlord to step in

jimgoose

He's an uncivilized, dirty little bastard and you need to raise this loudly and repeatedly with both him and the landlady until he straightens himself or leaves, and if I were you I would have a preference for the latter since he should not need such correction at this hour of his life. Let his mother deal with him.

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NiceFella

Go to the land lady if you can't sort it with a house mate intervention. Someone said the land lady won't care but she definitely Will if all of you long term renters raise an issue especially for someone who is only temporary and likely to cause issue with other renters. She's not going to let you all walk while letting this ignorant little fooker act like he owns the place.