Using condoms for oral sex

LegacyUser

Hi

I have started seeing a new guy and I haven't been with someone in a long time.
In my own circle of friends they wouldn't use condoms for oral sex. However, I am apprehensive about not using them as I am worried about catching something.
From a guys perspective in general how would you feel if a girl refused to give you oral sex without a condom?

thanks in advance.

sexmag

to be honest most guys would just be happy a girls going down on them so they wont complain.

Its completly up too you if you want to use condoms or not, probably best if this is a new partner and then after while once your comfertable with this person you can discuss it further.

Diversity for Hire

I'd be disappointed.

ahnow

Could always ask him to get a check up before oral, put your mind at ease?

GingerLily

ahnow wrote: »

Could always ask him to get a check up before oral, put your mind at ease?

Offer to go together maybe? Both get checked out, I'd see it as necessary step anyway before getting serious.

heretothere

It's always good to get tested before going into a 'non condom' relationship.

WarpAsylum

I'd tell you not to bother. And I wouldn't mean that in a mean way. You'd be totally within your rights, and I'd respect that.
...but I wouldn't be arsed getting head with a condom.

seamus

WarpAsylum wrote: »

I'd tell you not to bother. And I wouldn't mean that in a mean way. You'd be totally within your rights, and I'd respect that.
...but I wouldn't be arsed getting head with a condom.

This man probably speaks for the majority. Creative use of the hands without a condom would be 1,000 times more enjoyable than oral sex with one.

blue note

It's not the same, not even close. But the last thing you want is the girl doing something she's not comfortable with. There's no enjoyment in that for the guy.

It's still nice though, I wouldn't tell her not to bother.

Wesser

Actually, oral STI s are massively on the rise. Oral chlamydia, gonorrhea and larngeal polyps and cancer from HPV.

JackTaylorFan

If you're unsure of where he has been, and want to stay STI free, play safe. The risk these days is too high...

And if he has a problem with that, then excuse my French, but **** him... (but not literally... Oh dear, what an unfortunate time to use that turn of phrase)

corkgsxr

If right was right then yes use a condom.

But I've tryed it. There is very little feel even with thin condoms. Might as well not bother.

The Princess Bride

Surely it'd be easier going into a new relationship to say,
that you've had a full sexual check up and all is well.
And that you expect that from a new partner too?

khaldrogo

Maybe he's not into oral sex...................

GarIT

TBH I'd tell her not to bother there's no point.
From you're perspective you're better off using condoms or waiting until you are exclusive and tested.

LegacyUser

Nervous1991 wrote: »

Hi

I have started seeing a new guy and I haven't been with someone in a long time.
In my own circle of friends they wouldn't use condoms for oral sex. However, I am apprehensive about not using them as I am worried about catching something.
From a guys perspective in general how would you feel if a girl refused to give you oral sex without a condom?

thanks in advance.

oral with a condom is like going for a shower with your clothes on, if a girl told me to put one on, i would tell her not to bother as id find it insulting.

get to know him better, get to know if you could a little bit about him and build up a trust, then go for it, theres no rush.

EmptyTree

To be honest if I was so concerned that someone might have an STI that I insisted they use a condom for oral sex then I probably wouldn't want to do anything like that with them in the first place.

Either ask them to get checked (you too if it helps) or else keep it platonic and find someone else to have fun with.

_Whimsical_

EmptyTree wrote: »

To be honest if I was so concerned that someone might have an STI that I insisted they use a condom for oral sex then I probably wouldn't want to do anything like that with them in the first place.

Either ask them to get checked (you too if it helps) or else keep it platonic and find someone else to have fun with.

You're talking as if STI's were something that only happened to people who you'd spot immediately and were so cheap and nasty that you'd avoid. That's just not the case, if you've ever had sex, even with a condom, you could have one. It's very irresponsible to assume that any partner will be 100% clean. As it happens your best chance of avoiding something would be with someone like the OP who is fastidious about using protection, even with testing you have to remember that HIV can remain in the blood but undetectable for 18 months.

Arrival

giveitatry wrote: »

oral with a condom is like going for a shower with your clothes on, if a girl told me to put one on, i would tell her not to bother as id find it insulting.

get to know him better, get to know if you could a little bit about him and build up a trust, then go for it, theres no rush.

You're very unreasonable if you would find someone looking out for their personal health insulting...

ted1

Arrival wrote: »

giveitatry wrote: »

oral with a condom is like going for a shower with your clothes on, if a girl told me to put one on, i would tell her not to bother as id find it insulting.

get to know him better, get to know if you could a little bit about him and build up a trust, then go for it, theres no rush.

You're very unreasonable if you would find someone looking out for their personal health insulting...

He is not being unreasonable, it’s simply nowhere near the sane experience and can lead to frustration. He is being honest

sexmag

ted1 wrote: »

He is not being unreasonable, it’s simply nowhere near the sane experience and can lead to frustration. He is being honest

Same can be said for having sex with condoms then, Whats the point of having sex with them at all if thats the case

ted1

sexmag wrote: »

ted1 wrote: »

He is not being unreasonable, it’s simply nowhere near the sane experience and can lead to frustration. He is being honest

Same can be said for having sex with condoms then, Whats the point of having sex with them at all if thats the case

Have you been talking to my wife? She also agrees with no condoms for sex

Dial Hard

ted1 wrote: »

Have you been talking to my wife? She also agrees with no condoms for sex

In fairness, I don't know anyone who actually enjoys using condoms. I certainly don't, and I'm female. They're a necessary evil for most people and when I'm seeing someone the "exclusive and tested" day when we can ditch them is a happy one indeed. However, as the OP is discovering, they're not particularly commonplace for oral sex. I'd enjoy giving head with a condom about as much as the man would enjoy receiving it. Ultimately, though, it's for the OP to decide whether or not this is a deal-breaker for her, and the new guy to decide if it's a deal-breaker for him.

EmptyTree

_Whimsical_ wrote: »

You're talking as if STI's were something that only happened to people who you'd spot immediately and were so cheap and nasty that you'd avoid. That's just not the case, if you've ever had sex, even with a condom, you could have one. It's very irresponsible to assume that any partner will be 100% clean. As it happens your best chance of avoiding something would be with someone like the OP who is fastidious about using protection, even with testing you have to remember that HIV can remain in the blood but undetectable for 18 months.

Agreed.

But my comment was based on on my impression that there was something specific to this partner that made the OP concerned and that they hadn't implemented this with previous partners.

But I agree, you can't judge a book by their cover, anyone can catch an STI.

QueenRizla

Would you not use a Dental Dam, they sell them in sex shops and are a better option for oral that a condom.

JackTaylorFan

QueenRizla wrote: »

Would you not use a Dental Dam, they sell them in sex shops and are a better option for oral that a condom.

Jesus...

Dental dams are not suitable for fellatio in the slightest. They are designed in mind for cunnilingus and anilingus.

OP, ignore this advice, seriously... It's just plain dangerous.