Moving In Boyfriend

fieldsforever

I am very conflicted on what to do. My boyfriend lives thirty minutes away on his family's farm but has a CE scheme in the town I live in so he is now often here. Before, he was just here on the weekends.

The landlord has shown up unannounced twice and both times, he was here. I am on HAP and I am on jobseeker's.

We get along okay, been seeing each other for two years, but I've asked him to move in but he doesn't want to. So, now I am wondering...

1. How many days can he live here before he is a cohabitant?

2. Will our state benefits be linked together or can I still get it separately? I mean, I don't rally care to have him on the lease and I don't care to be officially cohabiting, but I may have to tell welfare/HAP we are since he is here often.

I'd keep things the way they are but if I do, I may get in trouble/get HAP taken and that's what I want to avoid.

splinter65

fieldsforever wrote: »

I am very conflicted on what to do. My boyfriend lives thirty minutes away on his family's farm but has a CE scheme in the town I live in so he is now often here. Before, he was just here on the weekends.

The landlord has shown up unannounced twice and both times, he was here. I am on HAP and I am on jobseeker's.

We get along okay, been seeing each other for two years, but I've asked him to move in but he doesn't want to. So, now I am wondering...

1. How many days can he live here before he is a cohabitant?

2. Will our state benefits be linked together or can I still get it separately? I mean, I don't rally care to have him on the lease and I don't care to be officially cohabiting, but I may have to tell welfare/HAP we are since he is here often.

I'd keep things the way they are but if I do, I may get in trouble/get HAP taken and that's what I want to avoid.

If the SW Inspector comes to the conclusion that he’s living there then you will be classed as cohabiting and your JSA will be meanstested against his CE scheme in the usual way.
It would be up to you to appeal the desicion of the Inspector.
There isn’t a laid down amount of nights days or hours that he can stay over.
Likewise if he’s regularly sleeping over at yours then the LA can come to the conclusion that he is living there and they will send you a form to complete which will ask you to include the names of everyone living there and their financial means. Yes your contribution to hap will increase, usually by €30.

Joshua J

Tell your landlord not to be showing up unannounced.

vectorvictor

Joshua J wrote: »

Tell your landlord not to be showing up unannounced.

+1 on this.

Dear Mr Landlord,

Following your two unannounced visits I would like to request that you comply with the terms of the Residential Tenancies Act for all future visits / inspections.

Inspections and access must be carried out at mutually agreed times with sufficient notice. I am entitled to peaceful enjoyment of my home and would appreciate my private life not being disturbed by unannounced visits.

Xterminator

vectorvictor wrote: »

+1 on this.

Dear Mr Landlord,

Following your two unannounced visits I would like to request that you comply with the terms of the Residential Tenancies Act for all future visits / inspections.

Inspections and access must be carried out at mutually agreed times with sufficient notice. I am entitled to peaceful enjoyment of my home and would appreciate my private life not being disturbed by unannounced visits.

Sorry maybe you didnt read the op's post but she DOESN'T want the landlord to report her.

Op seriously even if the landlord did not have an issue with you and you sent that letter, then he most likely would after receiving it.

Why don't you call the landlord up, invite him over for coffee and ask him is he has any concerns. Y'know face to face like a good human being.

You can reassure him your a good tenant and your keeping up your end of things and mention that you were surprised y the unannounced visits and see what the reason was, and head off any future events.

Joshua J

Xterminator wrote: »

Sorry maybe you didnt read the op's post but she DOESN'T want the landlord to report her.

Op seriously even if the landlord did not have an issue with you and you sent that letter, then he most likely would after receiving it.

Why don't you call the landlord up, invite him over for coffee and ask him is he has any concerns. Y'know face to face like a good human being.

You can reassure him your a good tenant and your keeping up your end of things and mention that you were surprised y the unannounced visits and see what the reason was, and head off any future events.

Don't agree with this at all, the OP has done nothing wrong and has no need to go cap in hand to landlord to ask him to do something he absolutely has to do by law i.e not show up unanounced. Both the landlord and boyfriend are having their cake and eating it. Boyfriend has a bed close to course with no responsibilities/bills was asked to move in said no. Landlord can come and go as he pleases and extract rent without letting her enjoy her privacy.

OP if you're worried about LL grassing you then tell bf to chill with the staying over for awhile until this blows over and absolutely tell LL not to be calling around unannounced.

Squatter

We get along okay, been seeing each other for two years, but I've asked him to move in but he doesn't want to.

I don't really care to have him on the lease and I don't care to be officially cohabiting

I'd keep things the way they are


Are you quite sure that you know what you really want?

vectorvictor

Squatter wrote: »

We get along okay, been seeing each other for two years, but I've asked him to move in but he doesn't want to.

I don't really care to have him on the lease and I don't care to be officially cohabiting

I'd keep things the way they are


Are you quite sure that you know what you really want?

Think alot of that is in context of not caring to have social welfare / hap issues rather than in relationship context

Though I do hope you get on better than "okay" with someone before asking them to move in.