Worried about my brother's mental health

LegacyUser

My brother is 23 and has been extremely overly sensitive, snappy, and just overall always in a terrible mood for the last few years. Recently he has gotten so angry(over nothing) that he has pushed and nearly knocked down our mother, who is literally half his size.

Everyone is constantly walking on eggshells around him. No matter what we do to try and help him, he finds a way to throw it back in our faces and claims that no one wants him in the house (we do! no one has ever said otherwise!). He is just so rude and ungrateful about everything. He wasn't always like this and I do think he has some kind of mental health issues (depression maybe). I know that a suggestion of looking for help or anything like that will cause more shouting and angst.

His bedroom is disgusting. You can't even see the floor or any surfaces because they're covered in clothes and other things. I have offered to clean it or help him clean but he just shouts and slams the door in my face. If I ask him if he wants some of the dinner I cooked he says no and then complains an hour later about how there's never any food in the house.

He has a fulltime job and gets along great with his friends. He would always go above and beyond in his job and to help his friends. It seems to be just us he treats like crap. My parents and I don't know what to do.

lulu1

I think that he is just taking you all for granted and feels that he can treat you all like crap and get away with and maybe just a bit spoiled.

I would ask him if there is anything bothering him and if not try and treat people with a bit of respect.It's bound to be hard on your parents been treated like this

Sorry op maybe not what you want to hear

nigel_wilson

worriedaboutbrother wrote: »

My brother is 23 and has been extremely overly sensitive, snappy, and just overall always in a terrible mood for the last few years. Recently he has gotten so angry(over nothing) that he has pushed and nearly knocked down our mother, who is literally half his size.

Everyone is constantly walking on eggshells around him. No matter what we do to try and help him, he finds a way to throw it back in our faces and claims that no one wants him in the house (we do! no one has ever said otherwise!). He is just so rude and ungrateful about everything. He wasn't always like this and I do think he has some kind of mental health issues (depression maybe). I know that a suggestion of looking for help or anything like that will cause more shouting and angst.

His bedroom is disgusting. You can't even see the floor or any surfaces because they're covered in clothes and other things. I have offered to clean it or help him clean but he just shouts and slams the door in my face. If I ask him if he wants some of the dinner I cooked he says no and then complains an hour later about how there's never any food in the house.

He has a fulltime job and gets along great with his friends. He would always go above and beyond in his job and to help his friends. It seems to be just us he treats like crap. My parents and I don't know what to do.

Does he appear to be under the influence of any drug when he's at home? Might be the issues.

If not, was there a change in life circumstance that brought this on? Trying to wonder what would have caused it assuming he wasn't like that before.

Mr. Incognito

Why is your mother putting up with this behaviour?

I would have gotten a clip around the ear

never_mind

Kick him out if he’s in full time employment!! Def seems to be doing ok in life if he can hold down a job and friends. He is spoilt and needs to learn how to life Independently

the_syco

worriedaboutbrother wrote: »

No matter what we do to try and help him, he finds a way to throw it back in our faces and claims that no one wants him in the house (we do! no one has ever said otherwise!). He is just so rude and ungrateful about everything. He wasn't always like this and I do think he has some kind of mental health issues (depression maybe). I know that a suggestion of looking for help or anything like that will cause more shouting and angst.

By "you do", I assume you do want him to stay?
This sounds like he's being a manipulative prick; he's goading people to attack, and then playing the victim and saying that you want him out so that you'd feel bad if you asked him to leave.

Donnielighto

I got similar around the same age. Was due to depression excerbated by my smoking weed. Could be either, or neither.

Edit. For myself I was always easiest to approach over personal stuff soon after I calmed down. He mightn't open up to everyone. Once again personal experience but my brother and a cousin I was close to wouldn't set me off like others.