Kids Birthday parties!

freshpopcorn

I am into the second half of my twenties now. When I was in primary school I got invited to parties of close friends and people grew out of having them in the later years in primary school. Invitations were given out in school and I never heard of people being left out. Now I hear some schools having policies saying you've to invite everybody if you want to give invitations out in school.
I take it invitations are given outside school or do people invite everybody?
Could this result in people having to invite people that treated them badly to their party.

Electric Sheep

No. It means that if you want to exclude some of the children in the class, you hand out invitations outside of school hours or invite by email/text. This way the uninvited are not publicly excluded from invitations in the classroom.

When someone says "I never heard of anyone being left out" it often means "I was never left out, so I didn't notice if anyone else was".

freshpopcorn

Electric Sheep wrote: »

When someone says "I never heard of anyone being left out" it often means "I was never left out, so I didn't notice if anyone else was".

I was left out of loads of parties in primary school but why would people I have nothing in common with or rarely talk to invite me to their party?

McMurphy

Back in the day, I found myself invited to certain party's that some of my other friends weren't, and vise versa, usually the ones I wasn't invited to, I had little or nothing in common with the party thrower, we weren't friends, or moved in different circles, so it bothered me not in the slightest.

Some of these Kids/Parents/schools need to toughen the fcuk up if you ask me.

Lorelli!

Seriously op?

You would cry too if it happened to you...

Electric Sheep

I think most parents these days are aware of how some children can use party invitations as a weapon against other children, and are happy to mitigate it. Of course, that still won't stop the sort of child who loves to say "You're not invited to my party" from saying it anyway, if they still want to.

I've heard of "all the boys" or "all the girls" more often than the whole class, though.

freshpopcorn

Lorelli! wrote: »

Seriously op?

You would cry too if it happened to you...

It did happen why would I cry tough if I wasn't friends with the person?

Tigger

freshpopcorn wrote: »

It did happen why would I cry tough if I wasn't friends with the person?

Well you could cry if you want to

ceadaoin.

I invited the whole class to my daughters party last year because a) she wanted to and b) there's only 12 kids in the class, lol and they all get along. Everyone was invited to all the other parties too. In that case there's no way we could leave someone out.

As she gets older I'm sure she will have people she isn't that close with but for primary school, I would try to invite everyone if it was a reasonable number unless they were an actual bully or something.

If you just said to your kid you can only ask 10 people out of a class of say 30 or so then it's not too bad. . It would be bad to leave just a few out and ask the rest IMO, not everyone will go anyway but at least they were asked.

salmocab

I think it’s reasonable to say to parents if your handing out invites in school it should be for every child in the class, if your only inviting a few it’s quite likely they are your child’s friends and you will already know them and their parents so don’t need to use the school for this. The school aren’t trying to force parents to invite every child because they really don’t care about that they are minimizing the risk of a child being left out socially within the classroom.