I have mild psychic visions that always have come true, now my friend is pregnant and

Sugar12345

Hi, so I have to say I am not a psychic by profession, I have never disclosed my abilities to anyone other than my parents who both knew since I was little as I would tell them what would happen (innocently as you as a child) and they would come true. I don’t control my visions and I don’t see vision for myself; it only comes for other people and it’s sporadic. Now my friend is pregnant and I have had the vision where she will have a miscarriage at 6months. She is in her late 30s and even though she’s so pleased she’s finally pregnant, the pregnancy wasn’t planned. I know she wants to keep the baby, however just after I had my vision, I noticed how often she’s smoking, smoking weed & nicotine and the “odd” glass of wine. She also just eats junk food because she’s in the middle having a new kitchen fitted so she uses that excuse to buy pizza & burgers everyday. So my vision became more of a certainty when I observed her habits, not to mention she’s had a miscarriage already before some years ago. I tried talking to her about her habits but she isn’t having any of it.

How do I begin to explain to her about my ability and about my vision?? I know it will sound so stupid to some people but I have lived with my ability for a long time and I have never been wrong.

Help:(

jacksie66

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Addle

Maybe just tell her to cop on and to look after herself and her baby.

Sofiztikated

Sugar12345 wrote: »

Hi, so I have to say I am not a psychic by profession, I have never disclosed my abilities to anyone other than my parents who both knew since I was little as I would tell them what would happen (innocently as you as a child) and they would come true. I don’t control my visions and I don’t see vision for myself; it only comes for other people and it’s sporadic. Now my friend is pregnant and I have had the vision where she will have a miscarriage at 6months. She is in her late 30s and even though she’s so pleased she’s finally pregnant, the pregnancy wasn’t planned. I know she wants to keep the baby, however just after I had my vision, I noticed how often she’s smoking, smoking weed & nicotine and the “odd” glass of wine. She also just eats junk food because she’s in the middle having a new kitchen fitted so she uses that excuse to buy pizza & burgers everyday. So my vision became more of a certainty when I observed her habits, not to mention she’s had a miscarriage already before some years ago. I tried talking to her about her habits but she isn’t having any of it.

How do I begin to explain to her about my ability and about my vision?? I know it will sound so stupid to some people but I have lived with my ability for a long time and I have never been wrong.

Help:(

Fyp

On your friend though, tell her to catch herself on. But if that doesn't work, nowt you can say.

omegab

And if they always come true how would it help to tell?

Maybe telling her is what sets off the chain of events that causes the miscarriage? You have to be careful with your powers. You don't know what you are dealing with.

Sunflower 27

I am not going to outright dismiss your abilities. What would telling her achieve? This is her life, let it happen as it is meant to.

2xj3hplqgsbkym

Your friend knows that smoking and smoking weed is dangerous for the baby, so you telling her you had a vision is not going to change anything.

NIMAN

Op lost all credibility in the first sentence.

Whatever powers you think you have, you haven't.

Don't go around ruining others lives with your nonsense.

Flippyfloppy

Plenty of people smoke cigarettes, and eat junk food during pregnancy. The former isn't good for the baby, but isn't a definitive cause of miscarriage. As for smoking weed, again not good for the pregnancy but not a definite predictor of miscarriage.

Talk to your friend about the smoking, in my experience, people will do what they want to do anyway and just hide it from people in future!

You telling your friend of your vision would be so cruel. If your 'visions' always come true, then you're just warning her of an impending miscarriage? Imagine the amount of stress that would cause. If this post is real you're just going to have to learn to bite your tongue.

Emme

If your friend isn't going to look after herself properly during the pregnancy how can she be expected to look after a child? All you can do is tell her that smoking weed is a no-no when pregnant and smoking cigarettes and alcohol are not advisable either.

Perhaps you unconsciously noticed her doing these things before you had your vision of the miscarriage and you only consciously noticed them afterwards.

Tell your friend to cop on if she doesn't want to lose this baby.

woodchuck

You don't need to be psychic to know that drinking, smoking and doing drugs is a very bad idea when you're pregnant! You could have a chat with your friend about it, but absolutely no need to mention the "vision". I'm not sure if there is anything you can do for her really though... she'd be a moron not to be aware of the dangers and yet she's doing them anyway.

TheBoyConor

Op I would think your "powers" are probably a consequence of your passive smoking of your friend's weed.

Tell your friend to cop herself on with the drink and drugs if she cares at all about her baby.

And I suggest you cop yourself on too with this "visions" nonsense.

ManOfMystery

Regardless of the authenticity of your claims, your friend seems unwilling to change her ways. So unless you can ask a family member of hers to have a word, or someone who has some persuasion with her, there's not a lot else you can do.

Neyite

The quickest way to get her to dismiss your concerns is to tell her about your vision.

Her habits are a concern, junk food least of all out of your list. A pregnancy is essentially parasitic in nature, the nutrition digested by the mother goes primarily to the foetus and whatever is left over, if any, the mother gets it. Certainly given a poor diet folic acid supplements is a priority, and more important than her eating takeaway.

Drinking, smoking and weed are not good at all but all you can do is encourage her to quit or at least drastically cut down. But ultimately you can't stop her doing those things you can only point out how harmful they can be.

beveragelady

You're not psychic.
However, pretending you are psychic and attempting to insert yourself into your friend's pregnancy drama smacks of attention-seeking.

Ninjini

Please don’t tell your friend that she is certain to miscarry.
It’s unbelievably cruel to say that.

By all means, point out the risks of smoking etc. while pregnant, but, in this day and age, everyone knows those risks. If she chooses to continue that lifestyle, that’s sadly her choice.

Neyite

Actually, I should come back to you and share my experience of a relative who has visions like you.

She's one of the most genuine people I know. Warm and lovely and does actually work as a psychic. She is very in tune with her feelings and probably has a eidetic memory. I believe that she truly believes that what her dreams and imagination show her to be visions or foretelling the future.

I've never asked her for a reading, however one day in front of others she suggested a reading, and I was kind of cornered into it and didn't want to be rude. . It was during a time that was emotionally tough for me and her 'reading' threw me into even more distress and confusion and actually nothing she said was negative or gloomy in any way.

So you going to your friend with a vision of a still born baby (which at six months they are not termed a miscarriage) while she is in the very early stages of pregnancy will almost certainly cause you to lose a friend or several.

lulu1

Op You say that your friend is pleased she's finally pregnant. You would imagine if she was that pleased that she would be doing all she could to keep herself and the baby healthy. Someone in their late 30ies is old enough to know enough

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wiggle16

Assuming you are being genuine... No, OP, do not tell your friend you had a vision of her losing her baby.

Firstly, let's take it that the vision is significant: You clearly believe you have paranormal powers and no one here is likely to convince you that you don't. Confirmation bias is an easy trap to fall into and can lead to very strong convictions.

Your vision is pre-emptive, OP. Her lifestyle is putting her at higher risk of losing the baby than someone who looks after themselves. If you had a clear vision where your friend lost her baby, but instead of indulging in habits that put her pregnancy at risk she looked after herself, took folic acid and iron supplements, ate properly and refrained from drinking or smoking tobacco or weed, and then she did in fact miscarry anyway, your vision could be classed as a spooky coincidence and not much else, though you are free to believe it was clairvoyant knowledge. But in that case, telling her about the vision would not have made a difference because the miscarriage would not have been due to her behaviour. And would likely just freak the sh*t out of her.

But since she is putting herself at risk, your vision is irrelevant and should not have a net effect on your actions because there is NO DIFFERENCE between saying:

A) I had a vision you will miscarry, because of your bad habits while pregnant;

and:

I am afraid you are going to miscarry, because of your bad habits while pregnant.

... apart from the fact that one of those sentences is absolutely bonkers.

You would be telling your friend you are worried, for the wrong reasons. Anyway, you did say these things always come true - so what happens if you tell her? It's not psychic to know that poor habits and being 35+ will risk a pregnancy, it's common sense. It's the same as saying that it's psychic to know that someone who drives while blind drunk will likely end up dead.

Secondly: all the above aside, no do not tell your friend you had a vision. If you are concerned you can have a chat with her about her poor habits and the fact that you are concerned. I don't think she would take it on board tbh if she's been doing it this long but if you are really that worried you should say that you are worried.

To be honest OP, if I were expecting a child and a friend came to me and said they had a vision or even a dream where it ended in a still birth, I would say "thank you for telling me" and quickly have them sectioned.

kylith

I donmt think you have psychic powers, but you are probably intuitive and empathetic.

If you tell her that you’re psychic and had a vision she lost the baby at best she’ll think you’re nuts an at worst you’ll stress her out.

If I were you i’d Find a way to gently suggest to her that knocking the booze and smoking on the head for the duration would be a good thing, and say stuff like ‘I bet yiu’re Looking forward to having a proper kitchen so you can eat properly again and get baby the nutrition it needs’.

DEFTLEFTHAND

Does the father know she's smoking weed and drinking during the pregnancy?

I bet he'd be absolutely livid.

Tell her to cop the hell on.

As an older mum to be you'd think she'd be aware of the extra risks.

qwerty13

To tell your friend of your ‘visions’ would be incredibly cruel at worst, and incredibly naive at best.

She’s engaging in behaviour that is risky while pregnant. I think you may be equating your fears of the possible outcome as a result of her risky behaviour with a ‘vision’ or presumption that your worst fears will happen.

‘Visions’ are not real. They’re just not. I think your fear for the outcome of her behaviour is leading you to thinking about that / have bad dreams about that. All very logical stuff. To think that you have ‘visions’ of the future ... well that just has no foundation in reality. If you were my friend and you said that, to be honest I would disown you.

Express your genuine concerns about her behaviour. But don’t couch it in some mumbo jumbo crap about a ‘vision’ about the outcome of her behaviour. That’s cowardly, and likely to lead to the end of your friendship - and, more importantly, with no ‘need’ for her to change her behaviour