Addressing parents by first name

Ahhhh for forks sake!

Whats' your thoughts on it?

I went out with a girl years ago (we were both late teens and early 20's at the time). She always addressed her mam and dad by name from her late teens until her early twenties (I don't know if she still does, I haven't heard from her in years).

I'd never do it out of respect and besides it's just weird.

Did you ever address your parents by first name or would you tolerate your children doing it? I've no kids but they'd be red raw if they ever addressed me by name :P

SureYWouldntYa

No, they’re mam and dad

If you call them by their first names then you’re a twat

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

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To each their own. I had a friend in the 50s who did it and it just seemed to work. I never did it, nor did my kids, but I've no fundamental objection to it.

My little one stood at the bottom of the stairs a few months ago when she was 2.5 years old and shouted up to me using my first name and with her hands on her little hips throwing me daggers with her eyes and then burst out laughing when I arrived down. It's just a hilarious pisstake of another female in the house!

HalloweenJack

Use first name terms

What's disrespectful about calling people by their first name?

AnneFrank

I've called my parents by their name since I was about 20, it's their name! My own kids don't but they're still young. Mam and dad is for kids imo

mdwexford

Anyone who calls their parents by their actual name is a complete weirdo.

It's the most bizarre sounding stupid thing ever, ever!!!

Use first name terms

It alternates. I find I use my parents first names when I'm annoyed at them, any other time is Dad/Mum.

iamwhoiam

AnneFrank wrote: »

I've called my parents by their name since I was about 20, it's their name! My own kids don't but they're still young. Mam and dad is for kids imo

I am a senior citizen and I call my mother Mam !! She is still my mam and always will be

boombang

I call my folks by their names and always have done. I feel it's more personal (though I know they are the only people I could call mum and dad).

boylecm

Always called my parents by their actual names, thats what names are for.

TG1

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For some reason I never call my mom hers, but I have called my dad a pet name version of his first name for about 10 years now. Growing up he was always daddy though.

odyssey06

Each to their own.

This is an indication of everything that is wrong with society.

pleas advice

Only when im very angry with them,

baylah17

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Ahhhh for forks sake! wrote: »

Whats' your thoughts on it?

I went out with a girl years ago (we were both late teens and early 20's at the time). She always addressed her mam and dad by name from her late teens until her early twenties (I don't know if she still does, I haven't heard from her in years).

I'd never do it out of respect and besides it's just weird.

Did you ever address your parents by first name or would you tolerate your children doing it? I've no kids but they'd be red raw if they ever addressed me by name :P

Based on your lady two threads you appear to have serious issues with children.
Have you considered joining the Christian Brothers?

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

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baylah17 wrote: »

Based on your lady two threads you appear to have serious issues with children.
Have you considered joining the Christian Brothers?

Calls the Mam 'pigeon'.

Ahhhh for forks sake!

Each to their own.

baylah17 wrote: »

Based on your lady two threads you appear to have serious issues with children.
Have you considered joining the Christian Brothers?

Lady or woman?

alchemist33

My neighbours' kids do this. It sounds weird

odyssey06

Each to their own.

alchemist33 wrote: »

My neighbours' kids do this. It sounds weird

Call the cops... obviously they kidnapped them.

RhubarbCrumble

Mr Crumble (and all his siblings) call their father Dad, but call their mother by her first name.
She's a massive attention seeker so I wouldn't be surprised if it was her idea in the first place.

Dog walker 1234

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I call my father Dad. It is used as a term of affection. He would be upset if I used his actual name. Each to their own though.

StillThinking

Always call them by their given names, was about 10 when I started. Always figured if their parents went to the trouble of naming them I should use their names. My sister always called them mum and dad but her children call them by their names instead of nan or granda

Mutant z

No its always mom and dad to me it would be very weird for me to call them by their actual names as i would expect it would be for most people.

Alf Veedersane

Ma. Or sometimes Mam. She's dead but she was Ma/Mam.

Not mum or mom. If you call your mother 'mum' or 'mom', it's a sure sign you watched a load of shíte tv as a kid.

And Da, obviously.

Ahhhh for forks sake!

Each to their own.

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

Ma. Or sometimes Mam. She's dead but she was Ma/Mam.

Not mum or mom. If you call your mother 'mum' or 'mom's, it's a sure sign you watched a load of shíte tv as a kid.

And Da, obviously.

Anyone who uses mom or mum should be boiled to death in oil. Publicly.

Billy86

I'd use ma/mam, but never understood the obsessive hate some people have towards mom/mum... that's f'king weird!

Defunkd

Yeah, i use their names in public and vary between nicknames and mom/dad in private.

I think the older you get and the less reliant on them you are, the more you see them as personalities independent of being your primary caregiver. I got my hole kicked for calling my dad by his name as a teen but that was a snide move by me.

Always number 1

I call my parents Mam and Dad unless my son is present when I call them Nanny and Grandad for his benefit.
My son (hes 4) calls my husband and I Mammy and Daddy but he's aware of our first names too.
God forbid he got separated from us in a crowd, it's better for him to ask someone to locate "Always Number 1" than asking them to locate Mammy..

Mutant z

Ahhhh for forks sake! wrote: »

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

Ma. Or sometimes Mam. She's dead but she was Ma/Mam.

Not mum or mom. If you call your mother 'mum' or 'mom's, it's a sure sign you watched a load of shíte tv as a kid.

And Da, obviously.

Anyone who uses mom or mum should be boiled to death in oil. Publicly.

Why?

hot buttered scones

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Ahhhh for forks sake! wrote:

Anyone who uses mom or mum should be boiled to death in oil. Publicly.

We always called our mother mom and we grew up with f all tv so no american influence there. Seems to be more common the further south you go.

mohawk

Ahhhh for forks sake! wrote: »

Anyone who uses mom or mum should be boiled to death in oil. Publicly.

Culchie here. Down my neck of the woods very few mams to be heard. There is a bit of regional variation.

hot buttered scones

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Well the Irish for mammy is "MamaÃ႒­" which (if remember my primary school Irish properly) is pronounced more like mommy, so perhaps there is a lingering influence there.
Edit: the capital A with the squiggle should be an i with a fada over it but it comes out all weird when using the app on my phone

GreeBo

Using their names seems very impersonal to me, I use father and mother.

Graces7

Each to their own.

odyssey06 wrote: »

This is an indication of everything that is wrong with society.

Not clear which way you mean?

Graces7

Each to their own.

Alf Veedersane wrote: »

Ma. Or sometimes Mam. She's dead but she was Ma/Mam.

Not mum or mom. If you call your mother 'mum' or 'mom', it's a sure sign you watched a load of shíte tv as a kid.

And Da, obviously.

In my English childhood and ater it was always "mum" or "mummy"

MAMMY had b and w minstrel associations.

And Dad or Daddy

Mr. CooL ICE

mohawk wrote: »

Culchie here. Down my neck of the woods very few mams to be heard. There is a bit of regional variation.

#metoo

Whenever I hear "mam", I just think wtf is this, Fair City?

valoren

We refer to them as 'Me Mam' and 'Me Dad'

topper75

My tutor insisted that only Pater and Mater are acceptable.

banie01

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I'm Dad, until I start tuning him out!
When he twigs he doesn't have my full attention, there will be an auld 1st name thrown in just to catch my attention

fergiesfolly

Each to their own.

I'm pretty sure if I called my mother by her first name, she wouldn't answer.

Actually called round one time, let myself in and as I didnt see her, called for her. Used first name rather than mam( don't know why, I never normally do) and got no reply.
She didn't recognize my voice not calling her mam and thought I was a burglar.
She took the head off me

OneOfThem Stumbled

Do you parents address you by your first name or refer to you as daughter or son? If you don't it's just plain weird. I have a brother so I'm referred to as son 2. Occasionally myself and my sister refer to each other as "son" and "daughter". :rolleyes:

jimgoose

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Some people do that, most don't I think, but it doesn't/wouldn't bother me either way.

Ficheall

I call my parents by their first names. I'm guessing it was because my parents called each other by their first name when I was growing up, and I picked that up - there was none of my mother saying "We'll have dinner when Daddy gets home", etc.

My cousin, on the other hand, would call our granny "Mum", because that's what she heard her referred to as.

I don't understand how anyone could deem it disrespectful to address your parents by their name. Do you address your significant other as "Husband" and "Wife", and have your children address your brothers and sisters as "Auntie" and "Uncle"?
Do you feel not being addressed by your children as "Mam" and "Dad" casts some doubt as to their parentage?

LirW

I vary, sometimes mother, sometimes her name, my dad prefers being called dad but I vary too and he's fine with it.
Partner calls his by their names.
Our kid(s), since the baby isn't talking properly yet, varies too. Doesn't bother me either.

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PandaPoo

Each to their own.

I call my dad by his name, because my siblings always called him by his name. They're dad passed away so he would be their step dad.

I call my mam mam because they called her mam, I was/am a foster child so I probably should have used her name.

My kids call me mom, probably too much American tv I like it though, mam sounds too old for me.

Graces7

Each to their own.

iamwhoiam wrote: »

I am a senior citizen and I call my mother Mam !! She is still my mam and always will be

Made me see that I still think of mine as Mum.. and she was killed in 1982.

garbo speaks

Once my stepdad hit me so hard when I called him "Ian" that I had to have my jaw wired shut for four weeks. He would always insist I addressed him as "Sir".

eviltwin

My eldest sometimes calls us by our first names. So what, it's our names. I don't consider it disrespectful.

andekwarhola

Each to their own but I just think of Malcom and Cressida in The Modern Parents.

andekwarhola

Mutant z wrote: »

Why?

800 years etc