Got Attacked abroad

LegacyUser

Hi all

i was attacked on Sunday night abroad. I wasn't hurt thank god but my phone and wallet are gone. I feel absolutely sick. I have a work phone so I will have to wait for them to get it sorted for me. I am so incredibly sick. Feel like I can't leave the house and can never go back to work. And now with the snow coming I don't know what I'll do.

Don't know how to make myself feel better. I feel like crying.
Don't know what advice I am looking for. But needed to wirte it down.

ash xxx

I'm so sorry to hear this and hope you were not hurt badly during the attack. First things first, you need to talk about how you are feeling with a close family member or friend, even just speaking about the details releases a little bit of the power it may have over you. There's nothing quite like a cup of tea and a hug from someone close to make it a bit better.

Secondly, go to your GP, you are in shock. Your GP can give you a sick cert off work for the week. Just to let your nerves settle and so you are not worried about the snow on top of everything else. You can go back to work on Monday and the routine of that may provide a bit of a distraction for you. Too much time at home thinking about the event over and over will do you no good.

Finally, your job may offer an Employee Assistance Scheme, look into this. It is a free and confidential counseling service, which usually offers you 6 sessions. Your employer does not find out you have attended them, just in case you are worried about anonymity.

I hope you feel better, don't let the person have that power over you, you are stronger than that! xx

Rubberchikken

Sorry this happened. It must be an awful thing to experience. There are victim support helplines that people can call. It can help to talk to someone who has experienced something similar.
Does your work have any employee support?

Cry if you feel like it. I know id be upset. I hope you feel better soon.

LegacyUser

I feel a bit better today.. got a phone sorted and and am feeling a bit better but just down

I don't know it's hard to explain how I am feeling. Hating the snow as I was hoping to get back to work to clear my head.

Thanks so much for replies.

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neonsofa

Sorry to hear that op. It will pass, everything you're feeling, it will pass. It's normal to feel worried and anxious right now and that you will never feel safe or secure again, but that won't last forever. Talk about it with people who care about you. Be kind to yourself.

Rebecca Gilligan

Hi OP,

It's completely normal how you're feeling. I would feel the exact same way in that situation. I'd agree that talking to someone is the best thing you can do, whether that means a close family member or friend, or a professional counsellor. At the moment, you're shook up but this will pass so try not to worry too much.

GreeBo

It will get better, the secret is to not lock yourself away...hard with the snow I know, but even go for a quick walk, just to get outside.

Not to trivialize it, but its a bit like falling from a horse.

HumbleBumble

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It's quite normal to feel completely shook up. When I was younger my mother and I were in a car jacking abroad and she was shot. We both came out the other end okay but you do experience a lot of post traumatic shock.

I would highly recommend going to see your your GP and go for counselling. Obviously when the snow clears. They might just give you something to take the edge off and you can work through this in your own time.

Unfortunately there's no quick fix to just get over it. But it's totally normal to feel the way you do and there's no need for you to try manage hints on your own without help. If you feel like you just need to talk to someone immediately then call Samaritans or speak to your friends and family.

All the best. Thinking of you x

LegacyUser

Hi all

just an update...

went home (country) to my GP to get a check over and all is fine. He gave me some meds to tie me over when I am overly anxious etc. which are helping (take as needed and haven't taken them in a few days). Things got worse as I was then stuck at home while my OH was in Dublin by herself. That along with the country being on a stand still I felt that I couldn't rebuild and move on.

Got a few things sorted in work today (staff card, phone etc) so feeling a bit more myself. It was a violation and I feel like I am just a bit down now... down because the guys who mugged me were prob only 18/19 and I am 10 years older. Just felt like a baby.

I am already in counselling for anxiety so have already touched base with my counselor and going to have a session in the future on it if necessary but what I am going through right now is normal.

Thanks all for the lovely messages and signs of support. People are generally great and I always feel let down when people show their ugly sides...?

Some people above have gone through much crazier stuff so I am going to just move on and deal with the emotions as they come as advised.

Thanks again

gmisk

OP a horrific thing to happen to anyone.

I don't really want to go into details here about what happened to me but I was randomly attacked basically on my door step, I still carry the scars, physical and non physical.

It sounds like you are doing everything you can. It is still obviously very fresh as it is so recent, give it some time it will get better, trust me.

BUBBLES1978

I am so sorry this has happened to you, you seem to be taking the right steps to try move on from this

Just be kind to yourself and don't let those ba*terds win,

NIMAN

Were you attacked or pickpocketed?

You say you weren't hurt, but its obvious it has had a big effect on you and your confidence. Would you generally be an anxious person?

I was the victim of a similar type of thing in Spain before. In fact twice. Once I was pickpocketed of my wallet, and another time I was physically held down in the street by 2 guys and robbed of my phone. This was in Madrid, and these cities can be very dangerous places late at night when you are walking on your own.

I hope you make a recovery and get back to yourself, but bear it in mind if you ever have to go abroad again, try to keep in company.

never_mind

NIMAN wrote: »

Were you attacked or pickpocketed?

You say you weren't hurt, but its obvious it has had a big effect on you and your confidence. Would you generally be an anxious person?

I was the victim of a similar type of thing in Spain before. In fact twice. Once I was pickpocketed of my wallet, and another time I was physically held down in the street by 2 guys and robbed of my phone. This was in Madrid, and these cities can be very dangerous places late at night when you are walking on your own.

I hope you make a recovery and get back to yourself, but bear it in mind if you ever have to go abroad again, try to keep in company.

The OP said above that he has probs with anxiety...

NIMAN

never_mind wrote: »

The OP said above that he has probs with anxiety...

???

OK, I see that, but getting attacked or robbed also needs to be talked out, no?

He didn't post here to say he was anxious, he posted to say he was robbed.

never_mind

NIMAN wrote: »

Were you attacked or pickpocketed?

You say you weren't hurt, but its obvious it has had a big effect on you and your confidence. Would you generally be an anxious person?

.

and he said

"I am already in counselling for anxiety so have already touched base with my counselor and going to have a session in the future on it if necessary but what I am going through right now is normal."

So yeah...