Sibling getting married

Smily38

What is the norm when it comes to a brother or sister getting married re wedding gift. Will be giving cash but not sure how much to give. It's the first sibling to get married.

Thsnks

GingerLily

It really depends on your financial situation, don't spend what you can't afford.
Neither of my siblings spent significantly more then the average guest BUT, I know they put a lot of thought and effort into the gift and they were both super helpful in the run up to the wedding.

Cakerbaker

Smily38 wrote: »

What is the norm when it comes to a brother or sister getting married re wedding gift. Will be giving cash but not sure how much to give. It's the first sibling to get married.

Thsnks

Whatever you can afford. We got cash gifts ranging from €150 to €400 from siblings (all in similar circumstances). Didn’t have any expectations one way or the other.

seamus

I'm not sure if there is a "norm", though typically at the very least I would expect all siblings to come together and discuss it. This ensures that nobody feels aggrieved because one sibling makes a statement with a huge present, or another one cheaps out with a small present.

It's also common for siblings / families to club together and pay for a single expensive gift between them, like a big payment off the honeymoon or a new TV or whatever.

DaeryssaOne

On my own side my siblings gave gifts worth between €400 and €500 while on my husband's side I would guess the gifts were worth around €300 - no expectations at all either way and we were embarrassed by how much they all spent.

If I were you I would just increase what I would normally give it a friend's wedding by perhaps €100, it's all relative though and depends hugely on how close you really are, whether you can comfortably afford it etc. I don't think I even gave one of my siblings a gift as I was basically a broke student and there was no expectation on me to do so at the time.

GingerLily

seamus wrote: »

I'm not sure if there is a "norm", though typically at the very least I would expect all siblings to come together and discuss it. This ensures that nobody feels aggrieved because one sibling makes a statement with a huge present, or another one cheaps out with a small present.

Each family to their own but I wouldn't expect that and I don't know many friends who would. I wouldn't discuss the cost of gifts with anyone anyway so they wouldn't know if someone "cheaped out"

lorcand1990

Definitely depends on your own situation.

I got married in 2016. My younger sister was still in college at the time so I was not expecting a big gift from her as she could't afford much more than say €100. My brother/best man gave more as he has a good job etc. So €250 to him would probably be easier to get than €100 for my sister.

Coming from a Groom's point of view I didn't really worry about the monetary value of presents from my siblings, as I wouldn't have wanted them putting financial strain on themselves to get me a wedding gift

lazygal

When we got married none of our siblings gave us a gift. It rankled slightly to be quite honest, as generous gifts had been given to some when they got married.
We gave a cash gift of what we could afford.

missmatty

We have one sibling each (neither are married yet), one gave us 400e and the other didn't even stretch to a card. I was shocked at the 400e to be honest, was definitely not expected.

A gift of whatever you can afford is fine.

Dee01

My two sisters were in a similar financial situation to me and we all gave the same for each wedding (€400). My brother was in college and gave a personalized gift. Delighted with the cash and delighted with the gift 😊