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Family breakdown :(

  • 10-12-2017 4:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Have been told tonight by the person I love that he’s not in love with me that we’ve nothing to talk about and no common interest any more. I don’t make him laugh and we have run out of things to talk about.

    Feel like I’ve been hit by a train but am going to have to cope with this and move on:( we have had a baby recently and I’ve never felt so happy but so alone in a relationship, I am heartbroken. I feel I was so close to happiness and it’s been shattered. I’m greatful every day for my beautiful children so need to be strong and get through this. I’ve lost my best friend and am extremely upset that I will not have any more children. I’m also so upset that I won’t be able to share the day to day enjoyment of new baby with him. I love him so much and he’s the kindest most caring person I’ve ever known.

    I’m Devastated.


Comments

  • #2
    Aspadeaspade
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68 ✭✭Aspadeaspade


    OP I'm so sorry that you are going through this right now at what should be a beautiful time for you and your new baby. Right now I guess you just have to focus on your baby and your other children (it sounds like you have more children from your post). Regarding your partner, from what you say he doesn't really sound that kind and caring to spring this on you right now after having his child to be honest. If your future means being without him you will be OK OP. No one knows what the future holds OP. Just take it one day at a time and know that with or without him your life can a happy and fulfilling one. Take care of yourself OP and enjoy your new baby at this precious time in their life.


  • #3
    SuperSean11
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    Who said you can’t have another baby? Could be a blessing in disguise, when you take the tinted glasses off I’d say you’ll identify that this is an opportunity to be happier than ever. You got a wonderful gift from the relationship, your children :)


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hit the brakes op, you've had one upsetting conversation and decided it's the end of everything, but I'd say you're a long way from that.
    If it hit you out of the blue, then maybe everything has been good up to now and he's had a sudden, overwhelming but temporary wobble, not uncommon for new fathers suddenly feeling the responsibility, or fathers starting again after a while getting the feeling of having to go through it all again, or fathers feeling pushed out by losing attention to the new baby.
    It's also possible that not everything was ok recently and this is him being more blunt about signs that weren't visible to grab your attention. There's no information about how he's really feeling in your post and I'm assuming that he didn't tell you, but rather just offered what seems to be the final chapter without the rest of the story, as a result of which you just heard his words and didn't delve any deeper.

    There's a lot to process for both parents at this stage, hence the first year of a child's life being one of the most common times for parents to split, but you have gone from symptom to funeral with no intervening treatment. The two of you might benefit from talking to each other a bit more, a bit of honest conversation even if it stings a little. You might get some counselling support with that and I guarantee you this will be nothing that most relationship counsellors haven't heard before.


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