Urge to father a child-concerns

LegacyUser

Hi all,

I have just turned 29 and I've been having a very strong urge to have a child as of late. I'm sure a part of this is built in to my evolutionary clock but I also feel that I am ready to take on the huge responsibility and all that goes with it. I am great with my nieces/nephews but do feel great relief when I get to walk away from minding them after a few days/hours. From your experiences, does this relief disappear when the child is your own?

I also worry that I may have a child with a disability or that they'd maybe inherit some of my traits such as anxiety and depression (which are mild but do come and go). I know I'd feel guilty bringing a child into the world who'd inherit some of my attributes. Has anyone here regrets due to such issues?

Apologies if this is muddled but I'd like to hear others perspectives

Thanks

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smaoifs

Anon789123 wrote:

I am great with my nieces/nephews but do feel great relief when I get to walk away from minding them after a few days/hours. From your experiences, does this relief disappear when the child is your own?

I can't speak for anything else you've mentioned but I can on this. I have a 9 month old daughter. The relief when her dad or her nana bring her off for a walk and I have the house to myself or I get to go get my hair done or meet friends for dinner is great. It's not as great as seeing her again though after being away from her for a few hours. She lights up when she sees me and I just love scooping her up for a cuddle. It's very different when it's your own.

kerryjack

Anon789123 wrote: »

Hi all,

I have just turned 29 and I've been having a very strong urge to have a child as of late. I'm sure a part of this is built in to my evolutionary clock but I also feel that I am ready to take on the huge responsibility and all that goes with it. I am great with my nieces/nephews but do feel great relief when I get to walk away from minding them after a few days/hours. From your experiences, does this relief disappear when the child is your own?

I also worry that I may have a child with a disability or that they'd maybe inherit some of my traits such as anxiety and depression (which are mild but do come and go). I know I'd feel guilty bringing a child into the world who'd inherit some of my attributes. Has anyone here regrets due to such issues?

Apologies if this is muddled but I'd like to hear others perspectives

Thanks

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First off you need a women of some sort and than go for it sure no one is perfect we have all some defect small or large,

catrionanic

Are you in a stable relationship?

Gatling

You litterally have the rest of your life to Father a child ,and it's certainly not an easy thing to do raise an actual child ,it can be even worse when suffering any mental health issues ,
Stressful and isolating too.
This coming from a dad who's been the stay at home dad ,

Find a partner to share a meaningful relationship first and foremost .