lodger and access to living room

mille100piedi

Every winter I take a lodger to stay in my house. I usually live with them one month but then I travel abroad for 3-4 months and I leave the lodger by himself in my property. I am having a problem with my current lodger because I informed her that I am going abroad (I told this to her in the past) but a friend of mine is coming to live in my bedroom. The lodger got very upset and said since I told her I was leaving for four months she was not expecting she would share the house with somebody else. She just pays for the room so I don't know why she is complaining. Anyway I am thinking in the future to lock the living room and my bedroom because I don't know what are the lodger's intention when I am not around. Will be reasonable to lock part of my house and deny the access to the lodger when I am not around? The lodger's bedroom is a good size with a double bed, desk chair, table and plenty of storage. The lodger has her own bathroom. The kitchen is well equipped. The house is decorated in a very unique way. And the rent is lower compared to similar rooms in the area. The lodger had invited several guests and her boyfriend is here every weekend. She never asked permission but for me was not a problem. I was thinking also to install the ring video doorbell to be aware who is coming in my house when I am not there. I had several lodgers and they were nice person, but now I don't know what they might do when I am not at my property.

LuckyLloyd

If you're so uncomfortable with the lodger that you feel it necessary to take these steps maybe you should consider terminating the arrangement with them and finding a different licensee?

mille100piedi

LuckyLloyd wrote: »

If you're so uncomfortable with the lodger that you feel it necessary to take these steps maybe you should consider terminating the arrangement with them and finding a different licensee?

my friend is coming to living in my place when I am abroad so I don't think there is going to be any problem with the current lodger, I am just trying to plan for the future lodgers

Tigger99

What you've described is completely ott.

Maybe your tenant was looking forward to having space to themselves and isn't thinking anything untoward. If I was moving in with someone and all of a sudden another person was being imposed on me I'd be pretty pissed off too.

Hibrasil

She is not sharing the house - she is in rent a room so to speak with access to the kitchen. You did not expect she would have guests staying over when you took her in never mind several others visiting if I get the picture. While you are away your house would be a very handy "hangout" for her friends - unfettered by the presence of the owner or anyone else if she get's her way. The additional arrogance / brazeness of complaining that she did not think she would be sharing (your house) with anyone else (especially a friend of yours) is good enough reason to review the arrangement and give notice to leave. Remember the conduct over the last while will most likely escalate when you are not there. Good luck !!

James 007

It depends if the other tenant was sold the room on the basis that you were going to be away for a lot of months of the year and the other tenant paid some kind of extra premium to this arrangement.

However in your case it seems that you have offered it at lower market rent value, and now she has got comfortable to the idea of living there on her own, has her boyfriend over, probably stays over all the time when you are not in the house etc.

She has seen a soft landlord, took advantage of you being away alot of the time and now wants to hold onto that advantage and not loose it. The very fact that she has friends over etc and didn't ask you the Owner, tells me she sees you as a soft touch. You say you did not see this as a problem, no, make it a problem and prevent it happening, take an inch, take a mile.

If your in the right area I would terminate her contract and start afresh with a new tenant. Put the necessary restrictions in place then.

mille100piedi

Tigger99 wrote: »

What you've described is completely ott.

Maybe your tenant was looking forward to having space to themselves and isn't thinking anything untoward. If I was moving in with someone and all of a sudden another person was being imposed on me I'd be pretty pissed off too.

she just pays the rent for one of room, we are not friends and she didn't know me before to come and living in my home. It is not the fact that there will be another person in my room but the fact that she will be not living by herself. She wanted to live by herself in my own house

Corkgirl18

If the lodger only rents the room there is no reason why you can't lock your own room and whatever else you don't want the lodger accessing.
Definitely sounds fair.

wally1990

mille100piedi wrote: »

she just pays the rent for one of room, we are not friends and she didn't know me before to come and living in my home. It is not the fact that there will be another person in my room but the fact that she will be not living by herself. She wanted to live by herself in my own house

Tough , it is not her house
It is your house
She rents a room from you
You can do what you want with the other rooms even when your away
She isn't entilited to have the house all to herself unless she is willing to pay for all rooms
Simple (it's your house and you can chose what to do)

mille100piedi

mille100piedi wrote: »

she just pays the rent for one of room, we are not friends and she didn't know me before to come and living in my home. It is not the fact that there will be another person in my room but the fact that she will be not living by herself. She wanted to live by herself in my own house

But if you told her that she would be living by herself, and then after she moved in dropped it on her that she in fact would not be living by herself, I can fully understand why she would be annoyed, to be fair.

mille100piedi

Hibrasil wrote: »

She is not sharing the house - she is in rent a room so to speak with access to the kitchen. You did not expect she would have guests staying over when you took her in never mind several others visiting if I get the picture. While you are away your house would be a very handy "hangout" for her friends - unfettered by the presence of the owner or anyone else if she get's her way. The additional arrogance / brazeness of complaining that she did not think she would be sharing (your house) with anyone else (especially a friend of yours) is good enough reason to review the arrangement and give notice to leave. Remember the conduct over the last while will most likely escalate when you are not there. Good luck !!

thank you, I am very disappointed because she seemed a very nice person. My friend will be living in my place and nothing bad will happen under her supervision

mille100piedi

Deleted User wrote: »

But if you told her that she would be living by herself, and then after she moved in dropped it on her that she in fact would not be living by herself, I can fully understand why she would be annoyed, to be fair.[/QUOTE

if she really wants to live by herself she could pays more money and get her own place I don't force her to stay here

mille100piedi

Deleted User wrote: »

But if you told her that she would be living by herself, and then after she moved in dropped it on her that she in fact would not be living by herself, I can fully understand why she would be annoyed, to be fair.

if you have a friend that needs a room and you have one available in your house you wouldn't offer your room to your friend just because the lodger is complaining?

mille100piedi

mille100piedi wrote: »

if you have a friend that needs a room and you have one available in your house you wouldn't offer your room to your friend just because the lodger is complaining?

I never commented on the situation, in fairness. Just that I can completely understand why the lodger is complaining (and I would, too).

Lead

mille100piedi wrote: »

if you have a friend that needs a room and you have one available in your house you wouldn't offer your room to your friend just because the lodger is complaining?

Did you tell her before she moved in the house would be free for a few months? Or did you tell her after she moved in?

mille100piedi

Corkgirl18 wrote: »

If the lodger only rents the room there is no reason why you can't lock your own room and whatever else you don't want the lodger accessing.
Definitely sounds fair.

I am definitely going to this for all the next lodgers

mille100piedi

Lead wrote: »

Did you tell her before she moved in the house would be free for a few months? Or did you tell her after she moved in?

I told her I will be abroad for 4 months before she move in

Lead

mille100piedi wrote: »

I told her I will be abroad for 4 months before she move in

That’s why she’s pissed off so. She thought she’d have the place to herself. I don’t think it’s fair to lock the sitting room but it’s fair to have whoever you like move in.

mille100piedi

mille100piedi wrote: »

I am definitely going to this for all the next lodgers

Just make sure you inform them well in advance.

Hibrasil

if she really wants to live by herself she could pays more money and get her own place I don't force her to stay here[/QUOTE]

Exactly, but - from a prudent point of view - a rent revision would not appear to be the right avenue to explore in the present situation. There are a lot of nice people who, when they get their feet under the table, change and become proverbial pains in the "posterior". I don't know what your timetable is - but the sooner you decide the better if your option is to terminate the present arrangement. While she may appear nice and may not do anything that would damage you house, she may not be in a position to control the conduct of visitors who see the house as a "free gaff". Weighing possible cost of damage against loss of rent - i know what I would select - have your friend "house sit" on her own and change the front door locks!!!!

mille100piedi

Deleted User wrote: »

Just make sure you inform them well in advance.

yes I will make very clear in the future so there will be not people disappointed

mille100piedi

Hibrasil wrote: »

if she really wants to live by herself she could pays more money and get her own place I don't force her to stay here

Exactly, but - from a prudent point of view - a rent revision would not appear to be the right avenue to explore in the present situation. There are a lot of nice people who, when they get their feet under the table, change and become proverbial pains in the "posterior". I don't know what your timetable is - but the sooner you decide the better if your option is to terminate the present arrangement. While she may appear nice and may not do anything that would damage you house, she may not be in a position to control the conduct of visitors who see the house as a "free gaff". Weighing possible cost of damage against loss of rent - i know what I would select - have your friend "house sit" on her own and change the front door locks!!!![/QUOTE]

maybe you are right, I am thinking to ask her to leave. I don't feel comfortable with her anymore

SwimFin

mille100piedi wrote: »

maybe you are right, I am thinking to ask her to leave. I don't feel comfortable with her anymore

Absolutely agree.
I have been in this situation, hindsight is 20/20. You will not regret your decision. The Licensee has illustrated by their behaviour that they are not an 'agreeable' tenant. The writings on the wall, already.

April 73

So when the tenant moved in they were told the LL would be absent for four months.
Now the LL wants to move their friend in while they are away (I'm guessing the friend & tenant don't know each other?), thinks the tenant is being unreasonable when they raise an objection, and then also thinks it it's ok to lock access to the sitting room for the tenant.

Sorry - but I think the tenant has been badly treated here. Why not clear the air & apologise for the change in arrangement during your absence & arrange for your friend & tenant to meet so they can decide if they want to share the space together?

Of course it is your house, your rules but that doesn't mean you can ignore someone else's expectations & feelings - especially when they are handing over money every month to live there. There should be a bit of give & take on both sides.

Hibrasil

April 73 wrote: »

. Why not clear the air & apologise for the change in arrangement during your absence & arrange for your friend & tenant to meet so they can decide if they want to share the space together?

The fact that the owner said they would be away at some future date has no bearing on the rental agreement - the lodger is renting a room with seperate bathroom facilities and possibly use of the kitchen - that arrangement did not include the lodgers boyfriend and friends occasionally "taking over the house" making it uncomfortable for the owner - the only apology to be issued is a simple "I'm sorry this isn't working out and I'd like you to move out by such and such a date"

mille100piedi

April 73 wrote: »

So when the tenant moved in they were told the LL would be absent for four months.
Now the LL wants to move their friend in while they are away (I'm guessing the friend & tenant don't know each other?), thinks the tenant is being unreasonable when they raise an objection, and then also thinks it it's ok to lock access to the sitting room for the tenant.

Sorry - but I think the tenant has been badly treated here. Why not clear the air & apologise for the change in arrangement during your absence & arrange for your friend & tenant to meet so they can decide if they want to share the space together?

Of course it is your house, your rules but that doesn't mean you can ignore someone else's expectations & feelings - especially when they are handing over money every month to live there. There should be a bit of give & take on both sides.

I understand she can be a bit upset, but from my point of view she was too upset for that situation, most of the people rent a room and live with people they don't know, and new people come and go all the time, this is very common. She was so upset that I started thinking that she wanted to sublet to a new tenant when I was abroad. At this point I really I do her a favour if I am going to ask her to leave, for sure she will find a better place for her needs. No point to be in a place if you are not happy, and for sure I don't want to have unhappy people around.
I actually was thinking the lodger would be happy to have some company, because my friend is a female, same nationality and same age. We meet and discuss all the three of us, but of course since we know she was happy not having anybody around her, me and my friend felt and we are still feeling a bit uncomfortable around her. We try to discuss and understand her point of view but my friend and I really don't understand her and we found she is a bit weird.

April 73

mille100piedi wrote: »

I understand she can be a bit upset, but from my point of view she was too upset for that situation, most of the people rent a room and live with people they don't know, and new people come and go all the time, this is very common. She was so upset that I started thinking that she wanted to sublet to a new tenant when I was abroad. At this point I really I do her a favour if I am going to ask her to leave, for sure she will find a better place for her needs. No point to be in a place if you are not happy, and for sure I don't want to have unhappy people around.
I actually was thinking the lodger would be happy to have some company, because my friend is a female, same nationality and same age. We meet and discuss all the three of us, but of course since we know she was happy not having anybody around her, me and my friend felt and we are still feeling a bit uncomfortable around her. We try to discuss and understand her point of view but my friend and I really don't understand her and we found she is a bit weird.

I didn't realise that you had all met to discuss it & she is still very unhappy with the situation.
Then you have to have the "do you want to stay or do you want to go" conversation? She either accepts the situation as it is now or she moves on or you have to ask her to go.
If you've tried to resolve it but it hasn't worked out then there aren't many options left.

rainbowtrout

This is still your primary residence and ultimately rent a room scheme for a shorter period of time.

If you decided to cut short your travels after two weeks and come home, what would she do then? It's your home, she doesn't get a say in how many bedrooms you rent out.

I'd also be concerned that if it's a place where she has her friends taking over the place on occasion, what is it going to be like when you are away? That's probably the bit she's not happy with, she doesn't want someone in the house keeping an eye on things.

mille100piedi

mille100piedi wrote: »

I understand she can be a bit upset, but from my point of view she was too upset for that situation, most of the people rent a room and live with people they don't know, and new people come and go all the time, this is very common. She was so upset that I started thinking that she wanted to sublet to a new tenant when I was abroad. At this point I really I do her a favour if I am going to ask her to leave, for sure she will find a better place for her needs. No point to be in a place if you are not happy, and for sure I don't want to have unhappy people around.
I actually was thinking the lodger would be happy to have some company, because my friend is a female, same nationality and same age. We meet and discuss all the three of us, but of course since we know she was happy not having anybody around her, me and my friend felt and we are still feeling a bit uncomfortable around her. We try to discuss and understand her point of view but my friend and I really don't understand her and we found she is a bit weird.

April 73 wrote: »

I didn't realise that you had all met to discuss it & she is still very unhappy with the situation.
Then you have to have the "do you want to stay or do you want to go" conversation? She either accepts the situation as it is now or she moves on or you have to ask her to go.
If you've tried to resolve it but it hasn't worked out then there aren't many options left.

yes we all discussed about this. I think the lodger now is embarrassed about what has happened and we are not having the nice conversations we use to have in the evenings, as a matter of fact now she spend most of the time in her bedroom. At the other end my friend feel the lodger has been unwelcoming and she doesn't feel comfortable around her. Since I am going to leave very soon I've just told the lodger that she can find another place because I am not going to change my mind and my friend is going to stay here. The lodger told me she will start looking for some other place. This was a stressful situation and next time I will make clear that I rent just a room with access to the kitchen, the rest of the house is off limits especially when I am abroad. I think many people don't know the difference between being a lodger and being a tenant.

737max

Is this a wind up?
The lodger is paying for accommodation and had inspected the landlord/landlady and decided they felt comfortable to live under a roof with them. The landlord/landlady now informs them that they will be moving in someone else temporarily who might be Harvey or Harriet Weinstein for all the lodger knows and the Landlord/Landlady can't understand why the lodger feels put out.
I hope the lodger finds somewhere where they feel more comfortable/safe soon and that the lodger doesn't have to pay for upkeep of this Landlord/Landlady's home while they are off swanning around over winter.

mille100piedi

737max wrote: »

Is this a wind up?
The lodger is paying for accommodation and had inspected the landlord/landlady and decided they felt comfortable to live under a roof with them. The landlord/landlady now informs them that they will be moving in someone else temporarily who might be Harvey or Harriet Weinstein for all the lodger knows and the Landlord/Landlady can't understand why the lodger feels put out.
I hope the lodger finds somewhere where they feel more comfortable/safe soon and that the lodger doesn't have to pay for upkeep of this Landlord/Landlady's home while they are off swanning around over winter.

she didn't chose the room because she fancied the landlord, she chose the room because she knew she was going to stay for 4 months by herself. If I have to come back to my home for some reason she would be upset in the same way

737max

No, every lodger and person in a house share sizes up the people they will be interacting with before entering the house share. You didn't present this person to her as someone who would have access to enter the front door any time of the day or night with only a hollow interior door between her and them for the next four months.
Your inability to place yourself in their position and see things from their POV speaks volumes about you.

mille100piedi

737max wrote: »

Is this a wind up?
The lodger is paying for accommodation and had inspected the landlord/landlady and decided they felt comfortable to live under a roof with them. The landlord/landlady now informs them that they will be moving in someone else temporarily who might be Harvey or Harriet Weinstein for all the lodger knows and the Landlord/Landlady can't understand why the lodger feels put out.
I hope the lodger finds somewhere where they feel more comfortable/safe soon and that the lodger doesn't have to pay for upkeep of this Landlord/Landlady's home while they are off swanning around over winter.

I really hope she find a nice place but if she keep behaving like this she is not going to create a better situation. I found out that the last landlord didn't give her the deposit back because she was subletting in Airbnb. Dishonest people never have a easy life

737max

There is no arguing with you. Better off out. I do still suspect that you are trying a wind-up here.

737max

737max wrote: »

No, every lodger and person in a house share sizes up the people they will be interacting with before entering the house share. You didn't present this person to her as someone who would have access to enter the front door any time of the day or night with only a hollow interior door between her and them for the next four months.
Your inability to place yourself in their position and see things from their POV speaks volumes about you.

People change around in houseshares all the time, just because you move in and are living with say 3 others doesn't mean that all 3 won't move out and new people in after a month or 3 months or 6 months.... who knows and you won't necessarily have a say either in a houseshare never mind in an owner occupier house where you have zero rights.

All part of living in shared accommodation.

gctest50

mille100piedi wrote: »

but now I don't know what they might do when I am not at my property.........

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lucat

Serenity Spicy Zinger wrote: »

People change around in houseshares all the time, just because you move in and are living with say 3 others doesn't mean that all 3 won't move out and new people in after a month or 3 months or 6 months.... who knows and you won't necessarily have a say either in a houseshare never mind in an owner occupier house where you have zero rights.

All part of living in shared accommodation.

But you basically do 'vet' anyone who wants to become your housemate when you meet them/get references etc., and if you're looking for somewhere to live you're naturally going to meet the people renting out the room so you too can decide if you'd like to live there or not. Each party can make their own decision.

I'd be really shocked if a housemate of mine left for a few months and then just informed me that a friend of hers was moving in, without giving me any say in the matter. As if the fact that they're friends should be enough to satisfy me that we'd get along well and that they're trustworthy. Have they ever even met before? If she didn't like your friend, do you think she would feel comfortable telling you? And would you listen? Probably not, because it's your friend.

FWIW, I did have this happen before when I was living with 2 others. I moved away for 4 months and my housemate's friend stayed in my room. But the 3rd housemate was happy with the arrangement (she had a say), and we all had locks on our doors so if she didn't feel like the person was trustworthy for some reason she could lock her stuff in her room at least.

rainbowtrout

lucat wrote: »

I'd be really shocked if a housemate of mine left for a few months and then just informed me that a friend of hers was moving in, without giving me any say in the matter. As if the fact that they're friends should be enough to satisfy me that we'd get along well and that they're trustworthy. Have they ever even met before? If she didn't like your friend, do you think she would feel comfortable telling you? And would you listen? Probably not, because it's your friend.

FWIW, I did have this happen before when I was living with 2 others. I moved away for 4 months and my housemate's friend stayed in my room. But the 3rd housemate was happy with the arrangement (she had a say), and we all had locks on our doors so if she didn't feel like the person was trustworthy for some reason she could lock her stuff in her room at least.

But if you are just housemates who have taken on a lease together then you have a say in who lives there or how a room is rented out. When it is an owner occupier house, the owner occupier has the say, the lodger renting the room has zero rights because it is the main residence of the owner occupier. The OP could turf the lodger out tonight and the lodger couldn't do a thing about it.

If the owner occupier's plans change with regard to the house, it is up to the lodger to see if they are still happy to stay in the house, otherwise they can move on.

mille100piedi

lucat wrote: »

But you basically do 'vet' anyone who wants to become your housemate when you meet them/get references etc., and if you're looking for somewhere to live you're naturally going to meet the people renting out the room so you too can decide if you'd like to live there or not. Each party can make their own decision.

I'd be really shocked if a housemate of mine left for a few months and then just informed me that a friend of hers was moving in, without giving me any say in the matter. As if the fact that they're friends should be enough to satisfy me that we'd get along well and that they're trustworthy. Have they ever even met before? If she didn't like your friend, do you think she would feel comfortable telling you? And would you listen? Probably not, because it's your friend.

FWIW, I did have this happen before when I was living with 2 others. I moved away for 4 months and my housemate's friend stayed in my room. But the 3rd housemate was happy with the arrangement (she had a say), and we all had locks on our doors so if she didn't feel like the person was trustworthy for some reason she could lock her stuff in her room at least.

you don't understand I am not her housemate, I am her landlord. you really don't know the difference between lodger and housemate. A lodger is much more similar to a guest staying in a B&B than in a house shared by others housemate. Would you stay in a B&B and complaining to the host about other guests?

Mrs OBumble

mille100piedi wrote: »

you don't understand I am not her housemate, I am her landlord. you really don't know the difference between lodger and housemate. A lodger is much more similar to a guest staying in a B&B than in a house shared by others housemate. Would you stay in a B&B and complaining to the host about other guests?

Is thiis person really a lodger though: are you cooking their bteakfast and dinner and doing their washing? If not then they're a housemate and have rights.

Lead

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Is thiis person really a lodger though: are you cooking their bteakfast and dinner and doing their washing? If not then they're a housemate and have rights.

They have no rights at all living in an owner occupied house. Brush up on your facts.

mille100piedi

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Is thiis person really a lodger though: are you cooking their bteakfast and dinner and doing their washing? If not then they're a housemate and have rights.

I just rent a room, I don't have to serve breakfast and dinner or doing her washing, where did you get this information? I have been a lodger for many years and no way the landlord/landlady was cooking or doing my washing.
Meals are usually serve to young students also because the students are forbidden to use the kitchen and cook their meals and I can understand, I would never let a 15 years old boy using my kitchen

lucat

mille100piedi wrote: »

you don't understand I am not her housemate, I am her landlord. you really don't know the difference between lodger and housemate. A lodger is much more similar to a guest staying in a B&B than in a house shared by others housemate. Would you stay in a B&B and complaining to the host about other guests?

Sure I wouldn't have a contract with the B&B owner. Do you have anything in writing?
I know the legal set-up may be different, but the day-to-day living arrangement is broadly the same as with housemates, so it's probably more a courtesy issue than anything from her perspective. I would check with Threshold though to be sure.

Graham

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Is thiis person really a lodger though: are you cooking their bteakfast and dinner and doing their washing? If not then they're a housemate and have rights.

What rights do you think someone has renting a room in an owner occupied house?

lucat

lucat wrote: »

But you basically do 'vet' anyone who wants to become your housemate when you meet them/get references etc., and if you're looking for somewhere to live you're naturally going to meet the people renting out the room so you too can decide if you'd like to live there or not. Each party can make their own decision.

I'd be really shocked if a housemate of mine left for a few months and then just informed me that a friend of hers was moving in, without giving me any say in the matter. As if the fact that they're friends should be enough to satisfy me that we'd get along well and that they're trustworthy. Have they ever even met before? If she didn't like your friend, do you think she would feel comfortable telling you? And would you listen? Probably not, because it's your friend.

FWIW, I did have this happen before when I was living with 2 others. I moved away for 4 months and my housemate's friend stayed in my room. But the 3rd housemate was happy with the arrangement (she had a say), and we all had locks on our doors so if she didn't feel like the person was trustworthy for some reason she could lock her stuff in her room at least.

I'm not sure what your point is, yes when you are looking for a houseshare you might judge it on the people living there but that can change very quickly and you might have no say in it. Some houseshares the people living there can choose the new arrival, some the person leaving picks the new person and in others the LL makes the decisions so only 1/3 situations do you have any say and even in that scenario you can be voted down by your other housemates.

Mrs OBumble wrote: »

Is thiis person really a lodger though: are you cooking their bteakfast and dinner and doing their washing? If not then they're a housemate and have rights.

Wrong is not a strong enough word....

andekwarhola

Is this a general thing, these days that lodgers aren't allowed to use the living room?

I definitely think since the era of larger mortgages, you have people that want financial help with their mortgage but literally begrudge every millisecond the lodger spends in the property.

mille100piedi

lucat wrote: »

Sure I wouldn't have a contract with the B&B owner. Do you have anything in writing?
I know the legal set-up may be different, but the day-to-day living arrangement is broadly the same as with housemates, so it's probably more a courtesy issue than anything from her perspective. I would check with Threshold though to be sure.

I don't have any contract with the lodger, I could ask her to leave tomorrow if I want and she could leave tomorrow if she want. Just as in a B&B.
I have been a lodger for many years and I have been living with several landlords and I never sign a contract, I am very surprise about how many people don't have idea what means to be a lodger
For sure you have some restriction if you live with the landlord and you have to observe their rule but usually the house is well maintained and you are not losing your deposit if you decide to leave at any time.

Foweva Awone

There are many disadvantages to living with an owner-occupier, but one advantage would be the fact that you have stability in who you're sharing with - you can be quite sure that the person you're sharing with won't move out and move someone else in, as often happens in regular houseshares. Another advantage is that, if something goes wrong in the house, you can be quite certain of it being addressed quickly, with the owner living right there.

The lodger may well have factored these things into her decision to move in with you. If I were her, I'd be annoyed, too, that the living situation wasn't going to be as advertised.

mille100piedi

andekwarhola wrote: »

Is this a general thing, these days that lodgers aren't allowed to use the living room?

I definitely think since the era of larger mortgages, you have people that want financial help with their mortgage but literally begrudge every millisecond the lodger spends in the property.

I don't have any mortgages to pay.
The lodger can choose to pay 300 euro more and go to live with my neighbour where she can use the living room. The place is available she can move there at any time

andekwarhola

mille100piedi wrote: »

I don't have any mortgages to pay.
The lodger can choose to pay 300 euro more and go to live with my neighbour where she can use the living room. The place is available she can move there at any time

QED

mille100piedi

Foweva Awone wrote: »

There are many disadvantages to living with an owner-occupier, but one advantage would be the fact that you have stability in who you're sharing with - you can be quite sure that the person you're sharing with won't move out and move someone else in, as often happens in regular houseshares. Another advantage is that, if something goes wrong in the house, you can be quite certain of it being addressed quickly, with the owner living right there.

The lodger may well have factored these things into her decision to move in with you. If I were her, I'd be annoyed, too, that the living situation wasn't going to be as advertised.

the lodger just thought she will stay in my place for four months by herself and pay just for a room. She was happy not having the landlord living with her, for sure she was not thinking about things go wrong in the house