Does Space ever workout well?

LegacyUser

Hi,

My girlfriend and I have been having a lot of trouble lately and currently we're broken up. It's all down to her needed space to just sort her on head out and I'm just wondering does this ever work out well?

I wanted to work on our issues together but she wants time to sort her own head out etc.

I agreed to this obviously and haven't had any contact since. But still feel like we're in 'limbo' yet going through the process of a break up.

Just wondering in peoples experiencing does 'giving space' ever work out?

Thanks.

retro:electro

I don't think anyone can comment on your personal situation without knowing it, but if you're broken up that's more than just "having space", right? You're not together anymore.
People take breaks from each other and then get back and resolve things but for me breaking up is pretty final, and if not then it's just a horrible thing to do to someone for the sake of some "space".

Vicxas

In my personal experience, space is just a precursor to a break up. And seeing as you're broken up i think you've gotten your answer.

I wouldn't hold out too much hope unfortunately, if they were looking for space they got what they wanted.

LegacyUser

Isn't it funny how when people tell you they need space, they always mean the exact amount of space occupied by you?

You don't have a girlfriend, she's your ex now and if she decides she's had enough space and comes back, then you'll have a choice to make. Space is a euphemism for not wanting to be in a relationship with you and all you can do is respect that choice. Personally, I would interpret that as the end of things and let her go.

Sephiroth_dude

Not in my experience anyway. How long is it since ye spoke?

Aspadeaspade

LookingforAdviceSpace wrote: »

As every individual case is different it's hard to tell you, from so little background on your situation, OP. Personally I did ask my SO for space even though I knew deep down that I loved him dearly and still do, but I just had a lot going on in my life at that time. The only thing you can do is wait and see if your partner will come back but obviously this is hard and not everyone is willing to wait in limbo for an undetermined amount of time. Best of luck OP.

LegacyUser

We spoke yesterday but that was likely our last time speaking for the foreseeable future.

She said she does want the relationship but mentally can't right now. There's no malice or hatred involved.

I was a lazy boyfriend for awhile and didn't realize and when it was too late only then I started making the effort. I got comfortable essentially and didn't realize it myself.

It's a huge regret of mine so i'm just trying to give her the time she needs. She knows how much I want this.

We're suppose to be going to a gig in April and also on holidays next month. The Holiday will likely be cancelled but nothing has been mentioned about anything further what to do with tickets etc. I've offered the tickets to her anyway.