Another Invitation Question Thread

mcgiggles

Hey all,
Sorry if this has been asked before, can't search properly on my phone. I have an aunt and uncle in law who have 2 kids who are both engaged themselves, would it suffice to send one invitation to "Tom", "Mary" & family or would it be better to send one to "Tom and Mary" and one to daughter plus partner and 3rd one to son plus partner?

love_love

I would say it depends on who you're inviting. If you intend to invite Tom, Mary, and their kids, then just one invite to Tom & Mary would be fine (imo). If your intention is to invite Tom, Mary, kids, plus partners, I'd say separate invites would mean the least confusion.

Only my opinion, and speaking from experience when invites to cousins' weddings have been addressed to my parents, and included me and my sibling but not plus ones.

stargazer 68

If you are inviting the partners too then individual ones to their homes - assuming they don't still live at home.

mcgiggles

Dovies wrote:

If you are inviting the partners too then individual ones to their homes - assuming they don't still live at home.

Yeah they are welcome to bring their partners so I'm guessing the 3 invites would be the clearest to let them know that.. I know their daughter and her partner are going away travelling this year so I will probably send hers to her parents house also.

Addle

Separate invites to adults please.

mcgiggles

Addle wrote:

Separate invites to adults please.

I've seen this said before but I don't know why its so black and white! I'd take no offence to being (and have been) invited through a "& family" invite sent to my parents home and I'm an adult.. Save the bride and groom a few euro on a rake of invites going to the same family I would think :-)

rainbowtrout

mcgiggles wrote: »

I've seen this said before but I don't know why its so black and white! I'd take no offence to being (and have been) invited through a "& family" invite sent to my parents home and I'm an adult.. Save the bride and groom a few euro on a rake of invites going to the same family I would think :-)

Yes, but your options are ambiguous. If you are inviting the cousin and their partner send them an invite of their own so they know that. Tom, Mary and family is not clear, and you will end up getting a phone call asking you what you meant. The partners are not currently family.

That and adults are able to RSVP for themselves. Do you want to be chasing up Tom, Mary and family to find out if the various members of the family are attending when they tick the yes box to attend?

Addle

To me 'and family' reads like the hosts don't know the prospective guests names.

mcgiggles

Addle wrote:

To me 'and family' reads like the hosts don't know the prospective guests names.

Get where you're coming from. They are family so we know all the names :-) For clarity I'm gona go with the 3 separate invites. I was told yesterday by the aunts sister to just write the 6 names on the one invite! Haha the ocd in me alone could not handle the messiness of that. :-)

JayRoc

mcgiggles wrote: »

I was told yesterday by the aunts sister to just write the 6 names on the one invite!

That seems by far the most clear and simple option.