May 2018 Babies Club

LegacyUser

So,

Myself and the other half decided I should come off the pill, and try to have a baby.
I've been on the pill over 10 years.
so thought I'd have a hard time conceiving (doc agreed it could take a while)

Fast forward 6 weeks, and here i am now, with 4 pregnancy tests saying positive!

Very Very early days, but needed to talk to people!!


Shocked, worried, Happy, Nervous, Afraid, all of the feelings!

LegacyUser

Registered poster here but going anonymous!
Pregnant with our third, due very early May. I won't claim to be an expert, but ask away if you have any questions!

LegacyUser

I'm the same, regular user! so under a different name!!

Least its not just myself!
Got my scan date the other day, late october!

My main worry is leaving work! weird one eh!

And pooing during labout hahahha all ive read is horror stories!!

Toots

If you poo in labour you may not even find out! They won't tell you I was terrified that I'd poo and the midwife says to me "you're here to take home a baby, not the sheets! Don't be worrying!" Apparently pooping can be a good sign because it shows that labour is progressing as it should.

LegacyUser

As Toots, said....it tends to happen as baby is descending so you have other things on your mind!Labour kind of takes over your entire body and mind, and you really cease to care what is going on around you, your whole being is focused on what's happening inside you.It's hard to explain because there's nothing like it.But it really isn't something too big to worry about.

Worrying few days here, am having some spotting and bleeding.Have spent a few hours in hospital emergency waiting rooms.It's started and stopped shortly after each time.It's happened on the last two, but I always assume the worse until I know otherwise.Appointment in the early pregnancy unit in a couple of weeks, so fingers crossed everything stays intact and the scan looks ok.Hate the waiting and wondering.

Isolt

Hey girls, thrilled to be joining the May thread.

I am due May 9th. This is my 4th pregnancy but I only have one child so far. I have lost two babies so can't really enjoy this pregnancy yet.
Everyday I am convincing myself it is already over. Both of my losses were missed miscarriages, so no bleeding or cramping. Just no heartbeat at the scans.

I have my viability scan on the 19th and am terrified. I keep imagining different scenarios in my head.

One thing that has really made me nervous is that the GP test is still negative. It was negative at 4 weeks and again a week later at 5+1. Has anyone else experienced this? Can't help but fear it is a sign of hormone levels being low.

Had pregnancy confirmed by EPU at 4+0 by HCG bloods. They would not repeat text after 48 hours though as they said it was feeding into my anxiety. Alrighty then!

Claire1987

Hi girls. I am in the same position as the original poster. We decided to come off the pill back in mid July. Was expecting it to take 3+ months to get my cycles sorted, but I'm over the moon to have had 5 positive tests, each day the line getting slightly darker, tomorrow is when my period is due, so just going to wait until next week to get a doctors appointment This will be both of our first baby

Yes.Please.

Hi everyone,

Due May 2018 and currently 4 weeks + 2 days. This is my first pregnancy and we had been trying for several months. Been reading endless posts on pregnancy and freaking myself out that something will go wrong. First doctors appointment tomorrow!
Interested to follow this and see how everyone progresses 😊

LegacyUser

Hi all

No idea where to ask my question so decided I'd stick it in here as my wife and myself have just found out she is pregnant and due our first baby in the middle of May! Very early days I know.

My question is in relation to symptoms. She has had a really bunged up nose the past few days, sneezing and runny. She has previously suffered with hay fever but not for a year or two. We checked with the pharmacy who advise she can't take decongestants or antihistamines now while pregnant.
Any advice for symptom relief?

Isolt

I am bleeding today so unfortunately it looks as though I am having a miscarriage. Hospital said there's no point going in as I am so early (5.5 weeks) but with my other two miscarriages I was scanned early. I assume I just wait a few days until I have neg test? Should they not at least make sure it's a miscarriage? I find it a bit weird although she did say they have no early pregnancy scanning facilities on the weekend.

LegacyUser

Are you in Dublin Isolt?

I don't know, to be honest. As I said, I've had a bloody discharge (twice, TMI!) in the last few days and been in a couple of times. I don't care, the first time it happened I just went in. The EPU is only open mon-fri mornings and seems to be by referral only (that's my past experience anyway), but I go to the emergency room in the hospital. I just want to know that everything is where it should be, if that makes sense, and that there's nothing else going on. They do a quick scan in the emergency room. They then send me an appointment for the EPU, for about 2 weeks later. I know they said to me this week whether I miscarry at home or in there doesn't make a difference, they can't do much for me. I know it sounds cold, but in the context of the conversation, it wasn't, and I know it anyway.

If you are fairly sure you are miscarrying, I think maybe an appointment with your GP might be worth it? Just thinking of other miscarriages I know friends have had. At the very least your GP I'd say. For emotional support if nothing else.

Neyite

Isolt wrote: »

I am bleeding today so unfortunately it looks as though I am having a miscarriage. Hospital said there's no point going in as I am so early (5.5 weeks) but with my other two miscarriages I was scanned early. I assume I just wait a few days until I have neg test? Should they not at least make sure it's a miscarriage? I find it a bit weird although she did say they have no early pregnancy scanning facilities on the weekend.

That's what I found the hardest with mine - it's a policy but goes against your instinct to try to do something, to try to stop the mc. It is awful.

From a hospital resources point of view I can see the logic, but from an emotional point of view I was upset and angry for a long time at the do-nothing policy they have. I've come to understand that an early mc is just a waiting game for everyone, medics can't stop it once it's started they can only wait and see as well. It's a wait to see if the bleeding stops. A wait to see if your tests stay positive. A wait and see if the blood HCG rises or falls. It doesn't make it any easier knowing that though

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's sh!t, really it is.

LegacyUser

James003 I think she may be able to take paracetamol (check with pharmacist) otherwise a saline spray may help.There's nothing in those only salt and water.And maybe olbas oil at night??I had a dose with my second and it took ages to shift, doc said that was normal, it's slow to clear in pregnancy.

Neyite, I agree.....I got a shock with my first when I went in with a bleed and realised they could do nothing.I suppose I expected they could give me an answer at least as to whether things would go well or badly (thankfully they went well).I only really realised then how little control they have over nature at that stage, despite all the machines and scanners etc.It's such a hard thing to experience.The waiting is the worst.

Isolt

I actually passed pretty much everything today in the bathroom. Had a scan a few hours later which verified that even the sac was gone. The only glimmer of hope in all of this is that now I have been referred to the miscarriage clinic

Claire1987

I am so sorry Isolt, I have no words.

LegacyUser

Very sorry Isolt :-(. I hope they can help you and fingers crossed for a healthy pregnancy for you soon.

Yes.Please.

James0003 wrote: »

Hi all

No idea where to ask my question so decided I'd stick it in here as my wife and myself have just found out she is pregnant and due our first baby in the middle of May! Very early days I know.

My question is in relation to symptoms. She has had a really bunged up nose the past few days, sneezing and runny. She has previously suffered with hay fever but not for a year or two. We checked with the pharmacy who advise she can't take decongestants or antihistamines now while pregnant.
Any advice for symptom relief?

I'm currently going through the same. Just lemsip unfortunately!

Toots

James0003 wrote: »

Hi all

No idea where to ask my question so decided I'd stick it in here as my wife and myself have just found out she is pregnant and due our first baby in the middle of May! Very early days I know.

My question is in relation to symptoms. She has had a really bunged up nose the past few days, sneezing and runny. She has previously suffered with hay fever but not for a year or two. We checked with the pharmacy who advise she can't take decongestants or antihistamines now while pregnant.
Any advice for symptom relief?

I found steaming to be the best thing - sit in the bathroom and run the shower as hot as it will go so the room fills with steam. If you have an over-bath shower then put a few drops of olbas oil in the bath beforehand so it mixes with the steam. There's also a product called NeilMed which is a saline sinus rinse (you get it over the counter in the chemist) and it's good for clearing out a blocked nose. Oh, and it goes without saying, invest in those nice balsam tissues so her skin doesn't get all raw from blowing her nose.

Beanybabog

Can't believe I'm posting here already but I got a positive test and have calculated I'm due mid to late May. I have a 9 month old baby and going back to work soon!!! Crazy and totally unplanned but it took over a year to conceive my daughter, and this time I had one period since I stopped breastfeeding and got pregnant, so it's the opposite

LegacyUser

Aww congrats Beanybabog!!Delighted for you!There's 21 months between my two and (I won't dress it up!) it's hard as hell the first few months but now they are chatting and playing together and it's lovely. They are close enough that the same toys and games are of interest to each other (I have culled a LOT of toys as a result of this) and no.2 just wants to do everything no. 1 does.It's (mostly) very cute!

I realised the other day that if all goes ok and this baby comes as expected I will have 3 under the age of 4 for a few months.😱I hope we all survive!!

BELL135

Hi all, also just found out my partner and I are expecting.This will be our second we have a nearly 3 trail old. Due late May. I have done 5 test all positive but and a GP visit yesterdy showed a negative. He advised this may be because I'm soon early on amd their test are not as sensitive as clear blue that I took. I am to go back.in 10 days for another test with GP. Needless to say I came straight home and did another test which was positive! So frustrated

LegacyUser

So happy others are at the early stage too, not just myself!!

So sorry to hear about the loss Isolt

its the one thing i worry about too

Claire1987

Have you been to your GP yet 'preggersandbrickinit'? I have my appointment tomorrow.

In the other ladies experiences, when do you get the first scan? Im considering booking a private one.

spottybananas

Claire1987 wrote: »

Have you been to your GP yet 'preggersandbrickinit'? I have my appointment tomorrow.

In the other ladies experiences, when do you get the first scan? Im considering booking a private one.

First scan is usually at 12 weeks approx at booking in appt at hospital.

Claire1987

Thank you spotty bananas!

LegacyUser

Claire1987 wrote: »

Have you been to your GP yet 'preggersandbrickinit'? I have my appointment tomorrow.

In the other ladies experiences, when do you get the first scan? Im considering booking a private one.

My first scan is October 24th

Id love a private scan, but is there a point?

Beanybabog

Claire1987 wrote: »

Have you been to your GP yet 'preggersandbrickinit'? I have my appointment tomorrow.

In the other ladies experiences, when do you get the first scan? Im considering booking a private one.

I need a dating scan so I'm going have one around 6-7 weeks. It'll be good reassurance too I think as I know someone who just found out they had at MC weeks earlier at the 12 week scan. Apparently your miscarriage rate is lower if you've already got a good heartbeat on a scan so it made me feel better last time

tea_and_cake

preggersandbrickinit wrote: »

My first scan is October 24th

Id love a private scan, but is there a point?

Yes there is in my opinion. Such piece of mind. Two friends had silent mc and only found out at the 12 week scan. I couldn't wait that long to know. Very reassuring to know early. Also helps if you want to tell close family.

LegacyUser

Ive just booked the early scan for Saturday morn (I will be almost 9 weeks on Sat)
Id love it done sooner, but id prefer my other half with me if its bad news

Ive been reading up on Silent MC and its scaring me

My symptoms have subsided with only tiredness (which is normal for me !!!)

I am probably over reacting but its worth the reassurance.

Ill let you all know how it goes!

AttentionBebe

Just found out I'm due the 25th May, aaahh! I think I'll go to the Coombe this time, looks like I can book in directly without a GP visit, anyone done the same?

Katie1_14

Hi everyone, first pregnancy and 5 weeks today. Been to GP and sent off letter for first appointment, going to the Rotunda. Does anyone know how we book the antenatal classes? All new to me!

shesty

No need to worry about them yet, they will answer all your questions and give you all info at your 12 week appointment :-)

bee06

preggersandbrickinit wrote: »

Ive just booked the early scan for Saturday morn (I will be almost 9 weeks on Sat)
Id love it done sooner, but id prefer my other half with me if its bad news

Ive been reading up on Silent MC and its scaring me

My symptoms have subsided with only tiredness (which is normal for me !!!)

I am probably over reacting but its worth the reassurance.

Ill let you all know how it goes!

My only symptom was the tiredness in the first trimester as well. Currently 27 weeks pregnant. It's impossible not to worry though. The early scan is brilliant to put your mind at ease.

Claire1987

What is your estimated due date at the moment? I just had my first GP visit. Estimated 5 weeks gone, due 18th May. Going to book a private scan to coincide to about 8 weeks i think.

LegacyUser

My estimated date is May 1ST,
but i 100% know it will prob be 2nd-3rd week of may after the scan.


Sounds mean, but my birthday is end of may, hope its not that day!!!!

Beanybabog

preggersandbrickinit, on my first pregnancy I panicked every time I thought I felt "normal" 😂. Now on number 2 I'm hoping to feel grand! Just try not to worry. Remember there's people who don't find out until 3/4 months because baby they feel nothing.

shesty

Going to 'out' myself here...I am the poster troisbaba.No.3 is due, early scan this week due to a small bleed and all looks good.Still very early days though so crossing my fingers that it continues this way.

I worried so much through both my pregnancies.The difference being that the presence of one (and now two) children has greatly reduced my mental space and time for concentrating on the worry.Best of luck preggersandbrickinit, hopefully it will look good.Also......stay away from Google for the duration....for your own sanity. :-)

LegacyUser

Hey Shesty!

Congrats!

Its getting really annoying having to sign in and out hahah! ill prob be out soon too!

not that anyone here knows me! i dont know why im so worried!

Yes, google isnt my best friend right now,

About the vitamins? i seem to forget about them alot
il have to set a reminder on my phone!!

shesty

I usually just have them with breakfast, handiest way to do it!

AttentionBebe

Would you be a bridesmaid if all going well you'd have a 6 week old infant by then? Or would you step aside? My instinct is telling me it'd be much less stressful to attend as a guest...

LegacyUser

AttentionBebe wrote: »

Would you be a bridesmaid if all going well you'd have a 6 week old infant by then? Or would you step aside? My instinct is telling me it'd be much less stressful to attend as a guest...

hmmm, questionable....
It more how you think you'll feel?
6 weeks out is very early, but this is my first, maybe its all well and good by then!!

Will you be breast feeding?
Have you someone to mind the little one whilst youre busy ALL day?
Just a few things to think of!!
How close is the friend?




My other half told me he wanted our extension done next summer, (baby due May as you may know!)

I didnt even comment on it. just gave him the eyes.. hahah!

shesty

Are you assuming six weeks based on the due date?If you went over would it be four weeks?Is it your first?

Personally,I'd step aside.It could be done but it depends on how you feel and you won't know til you get to that point.But experience would tell me personally that no, I wouldn't do it.

Beanybabog

I am leaking colostrum, I'm only around 5 weeks! Is this ok? I only stopped breastfeeding two months ago and my milk was hanging around for a while so maybe this is why, but it's 100% colostrum not BM. Freaking me out a bit

Beanybabog

AttentionBebe wrote: »

Would you be a bridesmaid if all going well you'd have a 6 week old infant by then? Or would you step aside? My instinct is telling me it'd be much less stressful to attend as a guest...

I was at a wedding recently and the bridesmaid had an 8 week old. She looked fabulous in her dress and had a ball, maybe a few glasses too many but she deserved it .

spottybananas

Beanybabog wrote: »

I am leaking colostrum, I'm only around 5 weeks! Is this ok? I only stopped breastfeeding two months ago and my milk was hanging around for a while so maybe this is why, but it's 100% colostrum not BM. Freaking me out a bit

It's probably because you've just stopped feeding recently. I never leaked at all in my first pregnancy, stopped feeding my two year old in June and was leaking a tiiiny bit by August (31 weeks now).

AttentionBebe

preggersandbrickinit wrote: »

hmmm, questionable....
It more how you think you'll feel?
6 weeks out is very early, but this is my first, maybe its all well and good by then!!

Will you be breast feeding?
Have you someone to mind the little one whilst youre busy ALL day?
Just a few things to think of!!
How close is the friend?

I'll be breastfeeding and the dresses are bought and not BF friendly It's my sister and I'm the maid of honour! So my family will all be busy in the wedding party too. My husband will be there, but it'll be a lot to ask to mind the toddler and an infant all day!

shesty wrote: »

Are you assuming six weeks based on the due date?If you went over would it be four weeks?Is it your first?

No, not my first. I went 2 weeks early the first time so assuming I won't be hugely overdue if at all.

Beanybabog wrote: »

I was at a wedding recently and the bridesmaid had an 8 week old. She looked fabulous in her dress and had a ball, maybe a few glasses too many but she deserved it .

It's a hard call. On one hand I think I should do it, on the other I'm thinking pull out now and let her find a stand-in! Instinct tells me that trying to manage my toddler and a newborn as a guest will be challenging enough...

shesty

My take on it would be don't be the maid of honour. You just won't be able to do it. Maid of honour duties, baby feeding and watching a toddler (despite family). Let me put it this way.....since no. 2 arrived I have resigned myself (actually, we have) to not being able to have a conversation in any type of large gathering....or any gathering! We are constantly running from pillar to post watching kids, feeding kids, wiping kids, extracting kids from places they shouldn't be and (at the toddler age) breaking up rows. Thankfully all our friends are at the same stage in life and understand. Even if family are there, your eyes are on stalks constantly checking what they are doing, especially in a strange environment. It's marginally easier when one of them is non-moving, but at 7 weeks and BF, that would be tough too.

I did have a baby only at a wedding at 7 weeks, and ok it was fine and all but the reality was that I walked outside the church for the duration of the mass because she was tired and cranky, I breastfed in the car while the registry was being signed, I spent most of the reception breastfeeding in a room upstairs (no private areas and my dress was not designed for BF), and while she did sleep the whole meal in the carseat (unbelievable luck!!), I had to leave the room once the band started, as I didn't want to keep her in the room with all the noise. At that point I was well ready to go home anyway. And no. 1 wasn't with us that day, she was being minded elsewhere!!!

Two small kids is a hell of a lot more than just 1 + 1. Somedays it feels more like it's....1 + a lot!!!

AttentionBebe

I think you're right. At least if I'm a guest I can disappear off to the room to feed etc

Beanybabog

AttentionBebe wrote: »

I think you're right. At least if I'm a guest I can disappear off to the room to feed etc

If it makes you feel better I'm suppose to be a bridesmaid too... on my due date!! How to figure that one out I have no idea.

RubyXI

Hi all. Been lurking for a while. I've done a few tests which were all positive. By my calculations I should be due mid to late May. I have an appointment with my gp on Monday so hopefully she will confirm them. I am thinking- will she ask me whether I want to go public or private... Basically I don't understand hospital care as I have never been in one. I have Healthcare with LAYA. My plan says it covers €3500 Maternity in-patient hospital delivery/homebirth costs. Does this mean I will be covered if I go private?
Sorry- very out of my depth here and trying to gather any info I can.

shesty

Your GP probably will ask you but really it's up to yourself.i have rung and scheduled my own hospital appointments for all mine.Actually I haven't been to see my GP yet, but I have a 12 week hospital apptmt booked.
You sound like you may have cover, but check if it says for a private or semi-private room.That will tell you.If you go private or semiprivate you will still have to pay the consultant's fees up front at your first visit.It depends on the hospital, for the rotunda private is circa 3500k amd semi-private is 1100.That's it then, as long as your insurance covers the bed.You can't go private and have no insurance, unless you are prepared to pay the fees, plus the cost of your bed at the end.