relationship advice

Magenta90

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We split in the last 14 days due to needing some space. He's not bad (he doesn't help by cleaning or paying bills) and I love him so much. But he's caught between me and his friends . I've told him to even it not when he meets them he goes off for days on end (only started happening about 6months) and never replies if I text him (which I rarely do) when he's with them. He doesn't want to live at his mothers and come back home. Should I take him back. I'm afraid I'll be hurt and he hasn't changed for the better (so he says). I can either drop his things off and start fresh with my life completely on my own or try and make it work. I'd really appreciate some advice.

0ph0rce0

Magenta90 wrote: »

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We split in the past 14 days due to needing some space. He's not bad (he doesn't help by cleaning or paying bills) and I love him so much. But he's caught between me and his friends . I've told him to even it not when he meets them he goes off for days on end (only started happening about 6months) and never replies if I text him (which I rarely do) when he's with them. He doesn't want to live at his mothers and come back home. Should I take him back. I'm afraid I'll be hurt and he hasn't changed for the better (so he says). I can either drop his things off and start fresh with my life comoleteky on my own or try and make it work. I'd really appreciate some advice.

NO. Get rid and get someone who cares

Jrop

Magenta you seem like a lovely girl. If this ex boyfriend of yours really cared about you he wouldn't disappear for days at a time. I know it's tough right now but you will get through this.

You need to take care of yourself for a while. go out with your friends and let your hair down.

DontThankMe

Probably better off asking here OP.

http://touch.boards.ie/forum/1174

Uriel.

I'd agree on two things.
Best off heading to personal issues with your post, a mod can move it.

Secondly you were right to dump him and you'd be mad to take him back. This is an opportunity for a fresh start and to find someone who, you know, is actually mature enough to be in relationship and who will actually give a damn about you.

This is for the best, for both of you. He might grow up eventually cos of this

Lini1981

Magenta90 wrote: »

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We split in the last 14 days due to needing some space. He's not bad (he doesn't help by cleaning or paying bills) and I love him so much. But he's caught between me and his friends . I've told him to even it not when he meets them he goes off for days on end (only started happening about 6months) and never replies if I text him (which I rarely do) when he's with them. He doesn't want to live at his mothers and come back home. Should I take him back. I'm afraid I'll be hurt and he hasn't changed for the better (so he says). I can either drop his things off and start fresh with my life completely on my own or try and make it work. I'd really appreciate some advice.

He goes missing days on end? And doesn't reply to your messages when he is with his friends? I think before you think about taking him back lay down the conditions; respect you when he is with you and not with you that means when he is with his friends, he sounds a bit immature. The cleaning and bills is enough to get rid (so sorry but true) if ye live together everything needs to be equal, I couldn't live with someone who didn't do their part.

biko

If he is like this after 5 years then he won't change.

Drop him and get a nice guy instead.