Ireland for single mid- thirties women.

Amy81

Hi
I am back in Ireland after living abroad for the last ten plus years. I feel a bit out of place. I ended my last relationhip before I came home and am single. To be honest Ireland seems to be a bit of a wasteland for a single mid thirties woman. Everyone in my age group is married with kids. There seems to be limited options for socialising or dating. I have a good job in a mainly female profession and only the young early twenty somethings go out. My parents are getting older and I would like to stay here but not fulltime if I'm going to be miserable. I still felt young when I lived abroad, but here I feel a bit past it, like all the ships have sailed. Maybe I am not seeing things clearly and things will improve. Any insight or advice appeciated esp in regard to being this age in Ireland.

Persephone kindness

Amy81 wrote: »

I have a good job in a mainly female profession and only the young early twenty somethings go out.

Why not join in?:) Age is a number. I'm 26 and not really looking but I think age doesn't matter when i do socialize it's all ages . It's being confident.

Addle

It's like anywhere and anything; it's what you make of it yourself.
You have to be proactive. Key is finding friends in the same situation.
There are plenty of people in the same situation.

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Amy81 wrote: »

Hi
My parents are getting older and I would like to stay here but not fulltime if I'm going to be miserable. I still felt young when I lived abroad, but here I feel a bit past it, like all the ships have sailed. Maybe I am not seeing things clearly and things will improve. Any insight or advice appeciated esp in regard to being this age in Ireland.

I think you are not seeing yourself clearly. You are NOT past it. You are as fab as ever. Please don't feel down about you.

I think you are being hard on yourself. And not recognizing your value. Maybe it's low self esteem? Don't let the environment get you down. There are some backward thinking people ignore them.

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Addle wrote: »

It's like anywhere and anything; it's what you make of it yourself.
You have to be proactive. Key is finding friends in the same situation.
There are plenty of people in the same situation.

Guys too I am sure. Anyway OP good luck and remember age is a number.
If you feel fab you are.
HUGS x:P

Narcissus

Hi, I feel for you OP, i'm a single guy in my thirties and it can be a bit hard sometimes as I suppose your interests change compared to being in your twenties. I know mine have

However there are lots of things you can do socially.

Meetups are really great, there are different events on pretty much every day. Dublin has a very active meetup scene (compared to other cities I have been in). I've used meetup regularly the past year or so and find it great for meeting people and making new friends. There are good events on at the weekends where you can go out and have a drink and a chat with people. There are also singles groups that do events regularly too.

Internations is another similar to meetup that is mainly for ex-pats but there are some Irish that join that have lived abroad also. Whereas meetup is mostly free I think you have to pay for membership for this one.

There are facebook groups also you can join that do social events or you can ask for advice or even set up your own event I think. Girlcrew is one of these.

Have you ever tried salsa dancing? can be a bit fun and is on nearly every night in River Bar near O'Connell bridge. Nice way to meet people too.

None of these things are limited by your age. They are all very casual and people are friendly.

Have you ever tried speed dating? can be a bit of a laugh and perhaps daunting the first time you do it but good fun and a different way to meet people.

Boards is also a good way to meet people

Also, 10 years is a long time to be away, can take time to re-adjust and find your rhythm again. Dublin has a nice vibe, there are lots of nice restaurants, bars, cafes and events on regularly too.

Best of luck

edit: sorry, just thinking if you weren't in Dublin, there are similar things like meetups in other places too.

SarahMollie

I find sometimes that when people come home, they expect where they grew up to be in a bit of a time warp - as if people havent moved and their same social life should still be available to them.

This is in contrast to living overseas whereby purely out of necessity you have to make an effort to develop a social circle for youself.

Point is, coming home and expecting that trying the same things with the same people will yield the same results as 10 years ago, probably won't work. Treat Ireland as you would any new country and put the effort into meeting people.

Also, this may not be your bag, but its a sad fact of life that many people in your age bracket might well be finding themselves single after relationship breakdown. There are plenty of single people in their mid thirties, but they may not be in the pubbing/clubbing phase of their lives.

sullivlo

I'm early 30's and single. I have a wide range of friends of different ages and different relationship statuses. I have plenty of single friends around my age but we don't define ourselves by our relationship status or age.

What are you looking for over the next few months - is it friends or dating?

If it's friends - have you any hobbies? Do you play any sports? Have you a burning desire to do a night course? I joined a cycling club two years ago and it was the best thing that I ever did. We're a welcoming bunch (ask robyntmorton - we dragged her in) so if you have any desire to cycle, thats always an option.

You're not alone here by the way, but a social life doesn't just happen. It just takes time and effort and pushing yourself from your comfort zone.

If it's dating that you're looking for - would you consider online?

robyntmorton

sullivlo wrote: »

I joined a cycling club two years ago and it was the best thing that I ever did. We're a welcoming bunch (ask robyntmorton - we dragged her in) so if you have any desire to cycle, thats always an option.

I agree with the above statement. I was dragged in as an outsider, knowing nobody, and from day 1 was part of the group. I now consider a number of the group to be my friends.

Join a group you have an interest in. It's an instant icebreaker.

Jobs OXO

Narcissus wrote: »

Hi, I feel for you OP, i'm a single guy in my thirties and it can be a bit hard sometimes as I suppose your interests change compared to being in your twenties. I know mine have

However there are lots of things you can do socially.

Meetups are really great, there are different events on pretty much every day. Dublin has a very active meetup scene (compared to other cities I have been in). I've used meetup regularly the past year or so and find it great for meeting people and making new friends. There are good events on at the weekends where you can go out and have a drink and a chat with people. There are also singles groups that do events regularly too.

Internations is another similar to meetup that is mainly for ex-pats but there are some Irish that join that have lived abroad also. Whereas meetup is mostly free I think you have to pay for membership for this one.

There are facebook groups also you can join that do social events or you can ask for advice or even set up your own event I think. Girlcrew is one of these.

Have you ever tried salsa dancing? can be a bit fun and is on nearly every night in River Bar near O'Connell bridge. Nice way to meet people too.

None of these things are limited by your age. They are all very casual and people are friendly.

Have you ever tried speed dating? can be a bit of a laugh and perhaps daunting the first time you do it but good fun and a different way to meet people.

Boards is also a good way to meet people

Also, 10 years is a long time to be away, can take time to re-adjust and find your rhythm again. Dublin has a nice vibe, there are lots of nice restaurants, bars, cafes and events on regularly too.

Best of luck

edit: sorry, just thinking if you weren't in Dublin, there are similar things like meetups in other places too.

Hey ! Why don't you and the OP........you know yourself.......carpe diem......and all that !

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Jobs OXO wrote: »

Hey ! Why don't you and the OP........you know yourself.......carpe diem......and all that !

THIS WOULD BE SO CUTE IF THAT HAPPENED ! :P