Online Dating

Jim Bob Scratcher

Do they have any intention of actually meeting someone from it or are they just on it for an ego boost ?

Does anyone else feel the same from their experiences with it ?

Samuel T. Cogley

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

Do they have any intention of actually meeting someone from it or are they just on it for an ego boost ?

Does anyone else feel the same from their experiences with it ?

Married ten years this year and together over 15.

hairyslug

Has it changed from what it was 10 years ago,
Back then, it was, from my own experience definitely for dating and not what tinder is for now. You damn kids had to ruin everything with your easy sex.

Met my wife on POF about 10 years ago.

Kimbot

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

Do they have any intention of actually meeting someone from it or are they just on it for an ego boost ?

Does anyone else feel the same from their experiences with it ?

Plenty of people meet up on them, some don't but sure don't let that put you off.

SnitchingBubs

Currently sitting in a pub in Wales celebrating one-year anniversary with a lady I meet on match.com

Jim Bob Scratcher

jonnycivic wrote: »

Plenty of people meet up on them, some don't but sure don't let that put you off.

I'm close to giving up on it. I could easily send out up to 10 messages and not hear nothing back. Is it that women have so much choice on dating sites or what ?

Samuel T. Cogley

hairyslug wrote: »

Has it changed from what it was 10 years ago,
Back then, it was, from my own experience definitely for dating and not what tinder is for now. You damn kids had to ruin everything with your easy sex.

Well over 15 years ago, I haven't used it since - honest!

I was very unusual in having a photo as digital cameras weren't really a thing and scanners - well who could arsed - very little need to put a photo online for something WTF would you want to do that for :pac:

Met my second husband on a dating site.

Donald Trump

hairyslug wrote: »

Has it changed from what it was 10 years ago,
Back then, it was, from my own experience definitely for dating and not what tinder is for now. You damn kids had to ruin everything with your easy sex.

Met my wife on POF about 10 years ago.

Snap. I met her on there too. About 6 months ago.... Tell her I said hi

Armchair Andy

@ SnitchinBubs
You gotta let her go sometime soon son.
Get a short.

hairyslug

Donald Trump wrote: »

Snap. I met her on there too. About 6 months ago.... Tell her I said hi

Is it you I blame this dose if crabs on, ya dirty fecker

Kimbot

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

I'm close to giving up on it. I could easily send out up to 10 messages and not hear nothing back. Is it that women have so much choice on dating sites or what ?

I believe the ratio is approx 10 men to every woman for online dating. So they seem to have plenty of choice.

buried

Anytime I went on one it was enjoyable enough, nothing ever came out of any of them but enjoyable and exciting to meet some new people. Any of them what weren't enjoyable at least you got a story about it anyways

Jim Bob Scratcher

jonnycivic wrote: »

I believe the ratio is approx 10 men to every woman for online dating. So they seem to have plenty of choice.

Jeez, not good. Think I'll probably have to jack it in so.

Burial.

Tinder has gotten pretty much an ego stroke fest. Finding more and more women with boyfriends on it as well as general women looking for follows on their instagram. Never found things like POF any good. Quality of women seemed poor enough.

Kimbot

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

Jeez, not good so. Think I'll probably have to jack it in so.

Well instead of 10 messages up your game to 100 messages :P

buried

I was on match.com, you pay for it, pay for it bigtime in the pocket, but most of the people on it are genuine enough, probably because of that exact reason

Burial.

jonnycivic wrote: »

Well instead of 10 messages up your game to 100 messages :P

This. Dating is a numbers game. If you expect a hook out of a random bunch of 10 women then you'd be doing very well.

jamesbere

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

I'm close to giving up on it. I could easily send out up to 10 messages and not hear nothing back. Is it that women have so much choice on dating sites or what ?

It's a bit of a clusterf**k, met a few women off it and told me how they would be bombarded with messages from fellas.

Think you need a lot of luck really

Donald Trump

hairyslug wrote: »

Is it you I blame this dose if crabs on, ya dirty fecker

Ah jaysus, don't remind me about the poor oul' crabs. Sure I was happy to keep them. Kinda like pets. I was fierce sad when they died off. Not from any kind of medical treatment or direct intervention, I think they just picked up one of the many other tropical diseases I have going on down there.

hairyslug

I always believed it came down to your opening line and that made a massive difference, just saying hi didnt cut it, you had to start things off in a nuetral yet not boring way.

Saying I want to bang you 6 ways from Sunday may work on some but not all.

ThinkProgress

I was always of the impression that it was only losers, aesthetically challenged people and psychopaths looking for their next victim that used online dating sites...!? Has this changed in recent times?? :P

wakka12

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I was always of the impression that it was only losers, aesthetically challenged people and psychopaths looking for their next victim that used online dating sites...!? Has this changed in recent times?? :P

You wouldnt say tinder is a relatively common app hmm..?

eeguy

Have you tried Bumble, where women make the first move.
Stops them being flooded with messages.

You have to understand that Tinder and the like are far more casual than real life. I'd often forget to reply to people and then say "feck it, sure I'll match up with someone else later".

Met a few women from it. Most dates have been interesting and led to some flings, I haven't met anyone from it that I'd want to settle down with though. It helps if you live in Dublin city though.
I was living in the city centre and set my radius down to 3k. Got loads of matches and it's easy to ask people out to the local for a drink and chat.

Jim Bob Scratcher

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

I'm close to giving up on it. I could easily send out up to 10 messages and not hear nothing back. Is it that women have so much choice on dating sites or what ?

Lol, that's nothing.

Insect Overlord

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I was always of the impression that it was only losers, aesthetically challenged people and psychopaths looking for their next victim that used online dating sites...!? Has this changed in recent times?? :P

Sure they've been saying that about Boards.ie for nearly two decades now.

irishguitarlad

I met a great girl on lovoo here in spain, we've been together now for almost a year and a half. She is fantastic.

fatknacker

How it usually works is...

If you're not getting a reply...they're not interested.

If you're getting a few sparse replies...they're maybe a little interested but not much, or else they're being polite.

If you're getting regular replies, they may be interested but still measuring if it's worth the effort to actually go and meet you.

Widdershins

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I was always of the impression that it was only losers, aesthetically challenged people and psychopaths looking for their next victim that used online dating sites...!? Has this changed in recent times?? :P

That's how I imagine it to be.

I would never do online dating. I just have a horror of it.

riemann

SnitchingBubs wrote: »

Currently sitting in a pub in Wales celebrating one-year anniversary with a lady I meet on match.com

And you're on boards, lol

maudgonner

ThinkProgress wrote: »

I was always of the impression that it was only losers, aesthetically challenged people and psychopaths looking for their next victim that used online dating sites...!? Has this changed in recent times?? :P

Well yes, I think you're a good 5 years behind the times

From what I can see you're considered unusual now if you're single and not using a dating site/app.

AllForIt

I use online dating to nosey on people in my area. Or used to and much prefer the old days when there was some mystery to who is out and about in your area.

There are two types of people on online dating sites. Either, one is showing themselves off for their own gratification with a link to their Instagram, or there are ppl using it to get a quick f*k.

I still have my dating apps but if they didn't exist I couldn't care less. I much prefer going out on the pull where you can actually see ppl's personalty rather that a one dimensional pic that doesn't say much about you at all bar some superficial attributes.

Edit: I don't go out solely to go on the pull, but I think you see what I meant.

Jesus Wept

i can see your personality

BorneTobyWilde

DId anyone see that program on RTE 1 other night about webcams and how people make a living at it. It was some documentary type program some Irish guy doing a version of a louis theroux type program. It was about girls and couples who meet online and cam and get tipped tokens and tokens have a dollar value, one girl said she owned 2 houses now and makes up to 500 dollars a day. Anyway curiosity got the better of me and I googled the site, never heard of it before it was Chaturbate . And low and behold there were 100's of women, men, couples, so on all on cam in comfort of there own home getting tipped these tokens. Anyway one couple caught my eye, '' Florarodgers '' as she looked so young 19-23 I'd guess and he looked maybe 36-42.
Anyway to be able to chat in chat box beside cam you need to create a username and password, took 1 min, no email or info needed, it was a one click process. So I did and asked them a few questions, where did you meet, how did he end up with you, and they said they met on Tinder. She was so loving and caring of him, calling him her cute 18 year old BF and laughing together. This guy is bald on top and front and skinny with glasses and a beard, and she is young ,great body and could have anyone, but her love of him is beautiful and genuine.
SO they spend hours every day on there making money, naked and performing sex acts on each other. If that is what online dating has become then it really has hit rock bottom, not that it's the norm, but it's funny how some work 9-5 to make a living and some sit at home and make more in 5 hours that others in a week through this whole online world we live in now.

Think I'll stick with his cute Mormon girl I like who reads a lot and bakes cupcakes.

please helpThank YOU

I meet my 7 Wives online. the all get a night in heaven.

Grayson

Burial. wrote: »

Tinder has gotten pretty much an ego stroke fest. Finding more and more women with boyfriends on it as well as general women looking for follows on their instagram. Never found things like POF any good. Quality of women seemed poor enough.

OK cupid is pretty good. If you answer enough of their questions it comes up with pretty good matches.

TerrorFirmer

I think people who write all forms of online dating off instantly are just throwing a bit of a strop over their own lack of success! You have to a) make the proper effort and b) have a thick skin. It's incredible the amount of people who put zero effort in and then moan about how little attention they're getting.

I've met a lot of people through online dating, mostly Tinder actually, though I do consider it a dating app, not a hook-up one. I'm completely average looking by the way, but I do try and make an effort with people and it pays off.

Depends where you live of course but from experience the best to use are Tinder, POF and OKC in that order - at least with the free ones, anyway, never tried the paid options.

TerrorFirmer

TerrorFirmer wrote: »

I think people who write all forms of online dating off instantly are just throwing a bit of a strop over their own lack of success! You have to a) make the proper effort and b) have a thick skin. It's incredible the amount of people who put zero effort in and then moan about how little attention they're getting.

I've met a lot of people through online dating, mostly Tinder actually, though I do consider it a dating app, not a hook-up one. I'm completely average looking by the way, but I do try and make an effort with people and it pays off.

Depends where you live of course but from experience the best to use are Tinder, POF and OKC in that order - at least with the free ones, anyway, never tried the paid options.

You know what's worse? The smugness of those who met their partner the "old fashioned way". Edited to add that of course not all couples think this way.

imme

It can be very frustrating

Online is not a nice place to meet genuine people or to conduct business as it were

Online brings out the worst in people ('period' as Sean Spicer would say)

eeguy

[Deleted User] wrote: »

You know what's worse? The smugness of those who met their partner the "old fashioned way". Edited to add that of course not all couples think this way.

Old fashioned way? You mean sh*tfaced outside a club at 3am when she's only snogging you to get a handful of your chips?

Biscuitus

Your chances in online dating can be broken down by looking at these percentages. They can vary site to site but to actually get a date you need to cross out all these. Unless the 5th one is your thing but for most of us it all comes down to just one type of account.

% of accounts that are bots
% of accounts that are fake
% of accounts that are inactive
% of accounts that are the opposite sex posing as the other for curiosity, research or sexual enjoyment, use your imagination
% of accounts that have boyfriends/girlfriends/wives/husbands etc on for just chit-chat, affair/cheating etc
% of accounts that are actively seeing someone but still check in time to time again out of habit
% of accounts that have no interest in meeting. Reason? Boredom, ego boost, sexual enjoyment, scared, teasing, boasting rights etc

% of accounts that are single and interested in dating

Thats the % you are aiming for and it can be very low before you even account for what you are even looking for! So its a percent of that percent. Trial, error and persistence. Its an exhausting game thats not for everyone. Especially since females are bombarded 24/7 with messages from genuine interested guys to thirsty sex starved animals who send such explicit messages it only puts them off dating sites.