Am I mad to turn this down?

Ave Sodalis

Just looking for a few opinions on this from an outsider prospective.

I'm finishing up my current job on Friday, having handed in my notice last Monday. I've started a part time postgraduate and, along with a multitude of other problems (some of which I've posted about before) I couldn't get weekends off in order to do the course, which will require a lot of travel. I plan on taking a week off after Friday, which leaves me two weeks from today to plan on starting work.

I was planning on doing a day or two in various places in order to pay back my loan and pay for petrol etc. In the last week, I've had essential three job offers however. The first one is in a shop, which has good pay. However, I've had to refuse due to a person who works next door that uses the shop on a daily basis, and has been a cause of major trauma in the recent past.

The second "offer" would be ideal. It would be flexible, and would allow me to study during the day. The problem is that it's not set in stone. It is a business that wants to set up a drop off/collection service in a neighbouring town (along with a limited amount of sales) but it hasn't been set up yet and, knowing the business owner, may not be for a while as she is quite a busy woman.

The third is one I am stuggling over. Upon approaching one of the places to work a day or two, the woman told me about a part time job in another shop. It would also be fairly flexible, and the woman said she would let me work with her the days I'm off in order to make up the week. In terms of finance and work/study ratio, it seems pretty ideal. There's a few moral dilemmas however.

My brother has behavioural issues. He was very ill when he was 2, the key age for developing right from wrong. Although we try not to let it be used as an excuse for continuing behaviour problems, it is the main reason for their existence. These have massively improved through the years, particularly when he changed primary school and are now more like typical teenager behaviour. In his old school, there was a parent who was particularly vocal about what she would do with him if he was her child. She would often sneer at my mother at the school gates (this is despite mum having 3 older, very well behaved children), and her young children would even get involved in berating my brother when in school. This woman owns the shop.

I wasn't aware she did until I spoke with my mother about it. It was to the manager the other woman was talking to. My mother has explained who the woman was, but she has also told me to make up my own mind on her and not to carry intergenerational prejudices. On the one hand, I need a job, and despite three potentials in a week, it will be difficult to find one that suits. I also just need one until the second offer becomes available, but there's no telling how long that will be. On the other hand, could I really work for someone who carries such obvious issues regarding my family? Would it be reasonable to allow for a certain degree of family loyalty here, or should I just swallow my pride and take the job when I get one (especially after the other woman going out of her way to make sure I wasn't stuck)?

myshirt

You have over analysing it.

Go with your gut.

Lux23

Take a job that suits and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out - its not like you're moving across the world or anything.

Mango Joe

This is not an 'intergenerational prejudice' - this woman was an odious little **** and is most likely still an odious little ****

- When things don't go her way in time then this underlying mindset and behaviours will resurface.....

Don't knowingly put yourself in a situation where you are around for this inevitability, especially when you have alternative options.

Ave Sodalis

myshirt wrote:

Go with your gut.

You see my gut is saying...

Mango Joe wrote:

This is not an 'intergenerational prejudice' - this woman was an odious little **** and is most likely still an odious little ****

But my head is saying...

Lux23 wrote:

Take a job that suits and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out - its not like you're moving across the world or anything.

aaaaaaaahhhhhh

I'm in the exact same boat right now.
I'm in a FT job two years where I am now, I've been headhunted for a senior role with a finance company.

If I stayed where I am I wouldn't get the money, holidays or benefits I'm being offered in the new job in the next ten years or be promoted to a senior role cos the business only has around 60 employees.

Its also the fact that I will have to do 6 months probation also and the fact that my boss is so sound doesn't help.

Dont know what to do.

Lux23

Why don't you take one of the other jobs?