Crazy things that blogs suggest...

baby and crumble

Ok, so those of us planning a wedding tend to get sucked in, at some point, to the planning blogs. I know I have. And some of the advice and inspiration is great.

But sometimes you look at a suggestion and think... eh what? This one came up in my FB feed this morning from OffBeat Bride and I actually said "f*ck off" under my breath on the bus...

"On your wedding day, ask someone to collect some rain water for you in a cup, and then funnel it into these tiny vials for tiny sentimental mementos of your very gorgeous, very rainy wedding day."

Like WTF are you meant to do with a tiny vial of random water?

Anyone else any good ones?

GingerLily

Not exactly suggestions, but I find some of the wedding blog photo shoots really odd.

I just don't think you should take pictures of your wedding shoes filled with fresh berries (what if they burst for one thing), or risk hanging your wedding dress outside on a tree for the sake of a picture?

*I'm really sorry if I've offended anyone

lazygal

Most of the 'shabby chic outdoor stuff', like having what's basically living room furniture in a field. I don't know anyone who did that in real life.
Photos where the couples aren't smiling and don't look like they even like each other, never mind just got married.

Greenduck

lazygal wrote: »

Most of the 'shabby chic outdoor stuff', like having what's basically living room furniture in a field. I don't know anyone who did that in real life.
Photos where the couples aren't smiling and don't look like they even like each other, never mind just got married.

HA! I always say that. I really dislike photos were the couple just looked pissed off. Too serious for my liking! Sure while were at it why don't we collect the tears from our parents and put it into vials for keeps sake

baby and crumble

lazygal wrote: »

Photos where the couples aren't smiling and don't look like they even like each other, never mind just got married.

That one always gets to me too! I honestly doubt you'll wipe the stupid grin off my face all day no matter how hard you try!!!

Addle

Agree re the shoes above. I don't get the dressing gowns either.
But it's all down to personal choice.
Personally, I think anything other than great band and food is excessive.

baby and crumble

Ah I don't want to rag on anyone for their choices- I know there's lots of things we're doing that people would find totally OTT and excessive. I just wonder if there's ANYONE who would like to bottle the rainwater from their wedding day??

HeidiHeidi

baby and crumble wrote: »

Ah I don't want to rag on anyone for their choices- I know there's lots of things we're doing that people would find totally OTT and excessive. I just wonder if there's ANYONE who would like to bottle the rainwater from their wedding day??

But but but..... what if the Child of Prague did his thing and you got a sunny day with ne'er a drop of rain???

Where would your grand plan be then, eh?

GingerLily

Addle wrote: »

Agree re the shoes above. I don't get the dressing gowns either.
But it's all down to personal choice.
Personally, I think anything other than great band and food is excessive.

I love excess hehe

SpillingTheTea

baby and crumble wrote: »

Ok, so those of us planning a wedding tend to get sucked in, at some point, to the planning blogs. I know I have. And some of the advice and inspiration is great.

But sometimes you look at a suggestion and think... eh what? This one came up in my FB feed this morning from OffBeat Bride and I actually said "f*ck off" under my breath on the bus...

"On your wedding day, ask someone to collect some rain water for you in a cup, and then funnel it into these tiny vials for tiny sentimental mementos of your very gorgeous, very rainy wedding day."

Like WTF are you meant to do with a tiny vial of random water?

Anyone else any good ones?

I seen that post and I cracked up! Haha. I suppose there are some people who do stuff like that (hope I don't offend anyone!) but why?? Haha I'd rather it not rain on my wedding day so why would I want a tiny vial of rain water as a keepsake hahaha

meeeeh

Anyone sensible tasked with collecting rain would fill in some tap water weather it's raining or not.

SpillingTheTea

meeeeh wrote: »

Anyone sensible tasked with collecting rain would fill in some tap water weather it's raining or not.

Exactly who would know the difference? Haha

meeeeh

Betty, your hair and makeup is finished. Go out​ and collect some rain!

LirW

Talking about craziness there: I know that one of the ladies of probably the most famous wedding site in Ireland spent over 60k on her wedding, borrowed lots of money and she had a good bit of regrets the following week.

mcgiggles

LirW wrote:

Talking about craziness there: I know that one of the ladies of probably the most famous wedding site in Ireland spent over 60k on her wedding, borrowed lots of money and she had a good bit of regrets the following week.

I don't get this.. okay if you can afford to spend that much on a wedding go for it, but otherwise do it within your means! I got asked the other day how people arent in debt for years after their wedding... Eh.. cos they save for it or do it within their means! #keepingupwiththejoneses

MissShihTzu

You would've had plenty on our wedding day! Bright sunshine in the morning, started raining when I got back from the hairdresser's and that was it. Goodnight Vienna! :pac:

Maybe I should've collected some too?

westernlass

LirW wrote: »

Talking about craziness there: I know that one of the ladies of probably the most famous wedding site in Ireland spent over 60k on her wedding, borrowed lots of money and she had a good bit of regrets the following week.

Do you mean she's a bride on it? I know so many people are obsessed with being featured on a blog

Toots

meeeeh wrote: »

Betty, your hair and makeup is finished. Go out​ and collect some rain!

No, that'd be one you'd assign to one of the groomsmen - sure they've no makeup to be worrying about! You'd either have one very disgruntled groomsman who'd be standing out in the rain with a jam jar, getting absolutely drenched, or one very crafty groomsman who would fill said jam jar with tap water and sprinkle a tiny bit on his hair and shoulders so it looked like he stood outside collecting it.

OR! The very very very crafty groomsman, who props the jam jar at the bottom of the drainpipe and collects the rainwater (and a bit of slime) that way :pac:

LirW

westernlass wrote: »

Do you mean she's a bride on it? I know so many people are obsessed with being featured on a blog

No she is one of the women actually working there. Friend of mine was her bridesmaid and she confirmed it was absolutely nuts.

SarahMollie

LirW wrote: »

Talking about craziness there: I know that one of the ladies of probably the most famous wedding site in Ireland spent over 60k on her wedding, borrowed lots of money and she had a good bit of regrets the following week.

I know a good few people who have spent/are spending that amount and frankly it blows my mind a little. Its not that anyone is bankrupting themselves exactly, but definitely stretching in my view.... ie all disposable income from the period of their engagement being ploughed into one day and also using all their savings. Granted they're not putting themselves in debt but they're basically wiping themselves out, no savings for a rainy day etc. Simply having to have 200+ guests, and having to have an absolutely top end venue, and having to have every additional extra going. Its just too much, unless of course 60k is pocket change to you, then why not, but for most people its a significant amount.

Maybe I'm just highly unsentimental and too sensible but I can't get my head around one day being that important.

baby and crumble

I'm not going to lie, if I had access to that kind of money, I would definitely spend a hell of a lot more than I am on the wedding. For most of my life it was illegal for me to get married, so f*ck yeah I'm having a damn big party! But, I'm also delighted to have the party and the wedding we're having. Horses for courses and all that.

Malari

westernlass wrote: »

Do you mean she's a bride on it? I know so many people are obsessed with being featured on a blog

Really?! I spent orders of magnitude less than the sums mentioned here and was asked by a wedding blog if they could feature our wedding :pac: I'd never even heard of it before that.

GingerLily

I find the whole etsy style table decorations, while cute, are ridiculously unrealistic when you actually price it, you'd be looking at hundreds per table to have these quirky vases etc (I was looking at bride2force a YT bridal channel when the rage started).
You could do it for a party of 20, but it's just so unrealistic once the group size is over 50ppl!!!

I just can't afford an additional 15e pp plus for table dressing

baby and crumble

Malari wrote: »

Really?! I spent orders of magnitude less than the sums mentioned here and was asked by a wedding blog if they could feature our wedding :pac: I'd never even heard of it before that.

Did you go for it? I'd secretly love to be asked, not going to lie. Yes, I am a show-off. No, I don't care.

GingerLily wrote: »

I find the whole etsy style table decorations, while cute, are ridiculously unrealistic when you actually price it, you'd be looking at hundreds per table to have these quirky vases etc (I was looking at bride2force a YT bridal channel when the rage started).
You could do it for a party of 20, but it's just so unrealistic once the group size is over 50ppl!!!

I just can't afford an additional 15e pp plus for table dressing

That's the thing. It's grand if you can afford it or are handy with crafting yourself. We like a good challenge so we're (hoping to) DIY-ing a fair bit, but we have a deadline for crafting stuff. If it's not done by October, it's not getting done. We both start back to college (her 2nd year of a masters, my first year of a PhD) then and I'm buggered if I'm wasting my time sequining crap when I need to be studying! :pac::pac::pac:

Addle

SarahMollie wrote: »

I know a good few people who have spent/are spending that amount and frankly it blows my mind a little. Its not that anyone is bankrupting themselves exactly, but definitely stretching in my view.... ie all disposable income from the period of their engagement being ploughed into one day and also using all their savings. Granted they're not putting themselves in debt but they're basically wiping themselves out, no savings for a rainy day etc. Simply having to have 200+ guests, and having to have an absolutely top end venue, and having to have every additional extra going. Its just too much, unless of course 60k is pocket change to you, then why not, but for most people its a significant amount.

Maybe I'm just highly unsentimental and too sensible but I can't get my head around one day being that important.

Are they blowing the budget with the expectation of receiving generous cash gifts in return though?

Honestly, how many people would spend X amount without expecting Y amount in gifts?

Malari

baby and crumble wrote: »

Did you go for it? I'd secretly love to be asked, not going to lie. Yes, I am a show-off. No, I don't care.

I'm the opposite, but yes, we did it as a favour (for someone not actually working for the blog...but they got a plug)

SarahMollie

baby and crumble wrote: »

I'm not going to lie, if I had access to that kind of money, I would definitely spend a hell of a lot more than I am on the wedding. For most of my life it was illegal for me to get married, so f*ck yeah I'm having a damn big party! But, I'm also delighted to have the party and the wedding we're having. Horses for courses and all that.

Fair enough and I can certainly empathize with your want to celebrate after it not being possible for so long, but I really think that what matters to the guests is good food, music and atmosphere and that a lot of the finer details that some people stress about/spend a lot on go largely unnoticed.

I feel like I made a few key decisions back when we first started planning (venue, dress, mucic etc) but I've been basically chilling ever since. I am looking forward to the day and I'm happy with all my choices, but its not something I'm thinking about in depth on a daily basis (unlike some of my friends having these big weddings). I'm far more looking forward to being actually married and being able to call himself my husband than the wedding itself TBH.

SarahMollie

Addle wrote: »

Are they blowing the budget with the expectation of receiving generous cash gifts in return though?

Honestly, how many people would spend X amount without expecting Y amount in gifts?

I mean, yes, I think there is an expectation that they will get a certain amount in gifts so will have some cash afterwards, but none of the weddings I'm talking about could realistically hope to recoup their costs IMO. Even if you assumed that you'd get €100 per guest (only an assumption!) that still wouldnt even cover the cost per head of the meal in either venue, let alone all the other costs.

GingerLily

Lol, it's all turned into a thread about money -what happened to laughing at blogs, haha

baby and crumble

GingerLily wrote: »

Lol, it's all turned into a thread about money -what happened to laughing at blogs, haha

Getting back to it...

I have to say I cringe at some of the stuff they suggest for grooms... I have to wonder who writes this stuff. Some of the photos they use to illustrate what they mean are just wrong. Like when I see something like "quirky things to put your groom in!" like he's a toddler. Those kinds of posts invariably suggest wearing braces, and they usually show a pic of a guy wearing a belt and braces together.

RAGE!

GingerLily

Okay so you don't wear braces and belts together? Lol, I did not know that!!

Where can I get sock braces? My OH would love a pair or appreciate the novelty!

baby and crumble

GingerLily wrote: »

Okay so you don't wear braces and belts together? Lol, I did not know that!!

Where can I get sock braces? My OH would love a pair or appreciate the novelty!

Definitely not. You only need one thing to keep your trousers up! It'd be like wearing a pocket watch and a wristwatch. (Another peeve of mine!)

Do you mean the ones to keep socks up only or that attach to your shirt from your socks to keep it tucked in? Online might be your best bet, and I'd say places like Louis Copeland would have them too. They're called sock garters.

GalwayGirl26

Anything with burlap/twine/yellowed lace. Birdcages with no bird. ''Hilarious'' bridal party poses. Sparklers for the staged ''send off''- Guests are not props. Shabby-chic table decor that actually cost a fortune. Favours. Kids carrying signs- like ''Here Comes Aunty Mary!''- I really don't know why this bugs me so much to be honest. The floral headpieces that may as well be a bush planeted on your head. Literally anything involving the word ''vintage''.

Also, every single invite I've got over the past two years has used the exact same font (That I have dubbed ''2016 Wedding Sans''). Kind of a chunky, swirly font- 99% of the time in gold.

There is a a serious Americanization/Pinterestization of weddings here at the minute.

Sorry if I've just described your wedding.

baby and crumble

GalwayGirl26 wrote: »

Sorry if I've just described your wedding.

GET OUT OF MY HEAD!!!

DaeryssaOne

GalwayGirl26 - my wedding was 2 weeks ago now and I am so relieved I didn't have any of the things you just listed! It was the most amazing, perfect weekend of my life and it all went better than I could have imagined - didn't need any birdcages or jars of rainwater to do that just had a wonderful venue with gorgeous food, a great band and a relaxed fun atmosphere.

Everybody who was there has commented on what a brilliant weekend it was and there certainly wasn't anyone noticing the lack of a sweets table or a photo booth!

While most of the stress was worth it, I definitely could have relaxed a bit more in the run up and I think all the pinterest / blog entries can only make you feel worse as if leaving out some silly fad will make any difference to the day itself!

SpillingTheTea

Sorry if this offends, but I really cannot get behind the cake projection.

autumnbelle

Whats a cake projection?!

SpillingTheTea

autumnbelle wrote: »

Whats a cake projection?!

Basically they have a white multi tiered cake and the company projects videos or images onto the cake

GalwayGirl26

Wait, I've got another one- The aisle runner that says "Dad, of all the walks we've taken together, this is the one I'll remember." Like the country is full of father/daughter walking teams.

LynnGrace

GalwayGirl26 wrote: »

Anything with burlap/twine/yellowed lace. Birdcages with no bird. ''Hilarious'' bridal party poses. Sparklers for the staged ''send off''- Guests are not props. Shabby-chic table decor that actually cost a fortune. Favours. Kids carrying signs- like ''Here Comes Aunty Mary!''- I really don't know why this bugs me so much to be honest. The floral headpieces that may as well be a bush planeted on your head. Literally anything involving the word ''vintage''.

Also, every single invite I've got over the past two years has used the exact same font (That I have dubbed ''2016 Wedding Sans''). Kind of a chunky, swirly font- 99% of the time in gold.

There is a a serious Americanization/Pinterestization of weddings here at the minute.

Sorry if I've just described your wedding.

Don't ask me why but the notion of the kids carrying signs had me laughing
I'm just raging that I have never seen it!

joeguevara

Bit like this

Purple Mountain

^ the kid with the sign hanging from around his neck looks like he should be selling ice cream at the Superbowl.

Atomic Pineapple

SpillingTheTea wrote: »

Sorry if this offends, but I really cannot get behind the cake projection.

Unless their done by Disney, the projections you can get on a cake if you get married at Disney World are ****ing unreal.

GingerLily

Atomic Pineapple wrote: »

SpillingTheTea wrote: »

Sorry if this offends, but I really cannot get behind the cake projection.

Unless their done by Disney, the projections you can get on a cake if you get married at Disney World are ****ing unreal.

But WHY would you project Disney at your wedding anywhere let alone a cake?

Atomic Pineapple

GingerLily wrote: »

But WHY would you project Disney at your wedding anywhere let alone a cake?

The imagineers work with you to come up with whatever projection you want. It doesn't have to be Disney related. And my point was that when it's done properly it looks stunning, not just projecting photographs or any of that, we're talking a proper custom animation that looks unreal.

baby and crumble

GingerLily wrote: »

But WHY would you project Disney at your wedding anywhere let alone a cake?

Eh, because Disney rules? :P

Neyite

GingerLily wrote: »

But WHY would you project Disney at your wedding anywhere let alone a cake?

Disney built a global industry on fate, true love, finding that soulmate, and happy ever after. Cinderella, Rapunzel, Snow White, Beauty & the Beast? All end with a wedding.

Romantic Rose

Purple Mountain wrote: »

^ the kid with the sign hanging from around his neck looks like he should be selling ice cream at the Superbowl.

Lol 😂.

It also looks like they're on a picket line. They need a union! Lifting those heavy signs, poor children.

Toots

Romantic Rose wrote: »

Lol 😂.

It also looks like they're doing a picket. They need a union! Lifting those heavy signs, poor children.

He looks like one of those dudes on Grafton St holding a sign for 10% off hot towel shaves at the barber around the corner. Or one of those "The End is Nigh" nutcases.

Purple Mountain

Toots wrote: »

Romantic Rose wrote: »

Lol 😂.

It also looks like they're doing a picket. They need a union! Lifting those heavy signs, poor children.

He looks like one of those dudes on Grafton St holding a sign for 10% off hot towel shaves at the barber around the corner. Or one of those "The End is Nigh" nutcases.

But the end is nigh.. Innit??