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People on Boards who judge other people

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  • #152
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    I thanked that post because I agree about the begrudging comments...no idea about Eddy's success, none of my business


  • #153
    whoopsadoodles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,058 ✭✭✭whoopsadoodles


    Permabear wrote: »
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    I think you might find that's the attitude that will bring begrudging comments.


  • #154
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    That would depend if eddy came back round boasting how his successful and carrying a very arrogant attitude because of his new found success and rubs peoples faces in it.

    The vast majority of people would be happy to see someone doing well i think, but some "successful" people bring it on themselves just based on how they carry themselves.


  • #155
    Yourself isit
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,256 ✭✭✭Yourself isit


    Permabear wrote: »
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    lol. Ignoring the fact that you've described a man doing useful scientific work as unsuccessful how does anybody in donegal know your "success" unless you tell them?


  • #156
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #157
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Success is defined by the individual, you cant really say someone isnt successful because you don't value there achievements.

    Id rate having a phd and founding a company as a person who would be doing quite well for themselves thats alot of hard work.


  • #158
    KERSPLAT!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    I'm certainly judging some in this thread.


  • #159
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #160
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Well both in that case would be considered successful, unless you are trying to make being successful into a competition of some sort??

    That d lead people to begrudging u aswell, going around one upping people and sizing them up to see if you re "more successful" than them.


  • #161
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #162
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,565 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Pbear you do realise the only person begrudging success here is you.


  • #163
    neverever1
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 864 ✭✭✭neverever1


    I find that many who judge success on how much money you earn are deep down very unhappy people. They can never be content.


  • #164
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Not at all, they are both doing well so they are both successful, you seem to think success should = bragging rights and if you cant brag over someone else's success then you arent that successful...

    Which is prob why people are "begrudging" you


  • #165
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #166
    Solomon Pleasant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 542 ✭✭✭Solomon Pleasant


    There seems to be a definite split in opinion. I'm not sure where the other (rural vs urban division perhaps?) posters are from, but I would be of a similar opinion to Permeabear, who, like myself, is from Donegal (Judging by a recent post on this thread). Perhaps, people's views and opinion surrounding this topic are heavily influenced by their past experiences, the majority of which are determined by where a person comes from.

    If you take YouTube sensations for example. Many of them put themselves out there, strive to achieve and get suffer incredibly high levels of abuse as a result. It's just one example but people despising other people for being successful, or attempting to become successful, definitely exists. I'm not saying that it's a majority of people but I've heard and witnessed it far too many times to simply act like it doesn't exist. It generally stems from a bitter jealousy that someone is trying to achieve, or has achieved what you can't.


  • #167
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,565 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Probrably not going on Boards getting upset when people consider themselves successful.


  • #168
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #169
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Success is achieving a goal you have.

    But why do you feel the need to compare your success up to other peoples success?


  • #170
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #171
    Carmen Mushy Spokesperson
    Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Carmen Mushy Spokesperson


    Achieving a phd is a big goal and a long hard slog :confused:
    Fair play to anyone who has


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  • #172
    ceadaoin.
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,712 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Is getting a PhD and having further aspirations not an achievement in itself? Especially if that person comes from a deprived background where the odds of even attaining a higher education are against them?


  • #173
    steddyeddy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 27,565 ✭✭✭✭steddyeddy


    Permabear wrote: »
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    P I'll give you one thing. You proved me wrong. There are people who begrudge success.


  • #174
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #175
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    A Phd is a massive deal for most people..

    I think you ll find people will begrudge you less, when you stop using your own version success to belittle other peoples success.


  • #176
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #177
    Solomon Pleasant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 542 ✭✭✭Solomon Pleasant


    I think what's being indicated here is that while getting a PhD is an achievement and a successful one at that, it does not automatically make the recipient of the PhD an outstanding success. Education, without application, is just education.

    That being said fair play to anyone who has got a PhD, it's an admirable achievement.


  • #178
    rustynutz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 808 ✭✭✭rustynutz


    Permabear wrote: »
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    I would say Eddie has already proven himself a success, he set out to obtain a PhD and has succeeded, not an easy undertaking, particularly coming from a disadvantaged background. Anyone who can set a goal, especially something as big as a PhD (presumably funded by himself), and achieve that goal, is a success in my eyes.

    But that is just my definition of success, yours, is obviously different, and I'm sure Eddy has a different view again. And that's the point I think, if you feel you are successful, then you are, who cares what others think.


  • #179
    Permabear
    Closed Accounts Posts: 39,019 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • #180
    222233
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,114 ✭✭✭222233


    steddyeddy wrote: »
    There's a strong element of looking down on other people present on these pages. Be the targets poor people, single mothers or working class people as they put it. The thing is I rarely rarely hear those views among real people. Are more people than I think judgmental or does Boards bring out the extremes in society?

    That's the anonymity of the internet for you, people say what they are probably really thinking, when that might not be as acceptable in their opinion in a social setting.

    Also I have noticed an element of looking down on posters from other posters, maybe it's just a cyber cultural thing.


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  • #181
    Cupatae
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,915 ✭✭✭Cupatae


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Is the lad you just mentioned working in a college not applying his education? yet you consider him unsuccessful.

    Tbh i think you ve missed the point on alot of this..


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