Her Day is Finally Here.

LegacyUser

I met a girl over seven years ago, I wasn't looking for anything, i was at an age i was happy meeting up with friends, going out on the weekends, having fun and enjoying myself. This girl had a grip on me from the first night we meet, the moment she walked through the doors of a pub. The night was short but we talked and laughed so much, it was blissful, it was fun, it was exciting, it happened at a time in my life i didn't expect it to, but it wasn't going to work, without problems, one been long distance, very long too.

I look back now and I knew it never going to work, but she talked me into at least trying, I didn't need much convincing, it would be hard because she asked I was already falling for her. We had many calls every day, talking about everything and anything, texting all the time. It was like she was here but she wasn't. For a number of reasons it didn't work, I blame myself. I went over to her for while, but I wasn't myself, I was trying too hard with her, I was trying to impress her friends, I wasn't the same person she talked to on the phone, the person she laughed with all the time and on our first night. She is the only girl who I have ever felt I have really loved and she is getting married this weekend. I knew the day was coming from social media but now it is here, and of all weekends for it to fall on feels like the last twist in my back. I look back on the time and have so many regrets of what happened between us , how it all finished. I really should have just cut ties with her on the day but I didn't, she had a grip. The it ended was very hurtful, I couldn't believe it was her, doing this to me after everything we had talked about.

To this day, we still haven't spoken on the phone, we still send each other the odd text but that's it . I got an invite to the wedding, but that was through text but I knew she didn't mean it. I had no interest in going at all, why would why, knowing how i still feel, she knows too I am sure so it was only her being nice nothing more.

I look at my life the last seven years and I have done nothing with, I am standing still waiting for it take off but I know it's me, I can only blame myself, so many regrets looking back at everything from a young age of 17. I don't think I should feel I have that many regrets, I don't think anyone should but I do.

This is more me ranting, putting it all down.

Thanks boards.

Airyfairy12

She's moved on, by the sounds of it she moved on a long time ago but youve still got her on a pedestal and youre holding on to this fantasy you created in your head. The sooner you allow yourself to let go of the past and focus on yourself and the future the sooner you can get yourself back on track and things will take off. Why dont you make a list of things youd like to do or ways youd like to better yourself and start working on that.

Scarinae

Since you met her more than seven years ago (when you were teenagers?), chances are that both of you have grown and matured and aren't the same people that you were when you met. The girl that you're in love with is in your head and doesn't exist.

What have you been doing over the last seven years, have you had other girlfriends? Are you unhappy with other areas of your life, such as your job etc? I think you should accept that both of your lives have moved on, and concentrate on doing things that make you happy.

Big Bag of Chips

If you're not really in contact anymore you should delete her from social media. She's now just someone you used to know. You'll always probably have a grá for her, she was your first love. I still have very fond memories of someone I was very in love with at that age too. But life moves on. The best thing you can do is to try not be do interested in her life, and to not have her life 'in your face' on social media. So either delete her, or hide her.

I would guess she hasn't a clue that you still feel like this 7 years later.

A purge of the aul friends list can be therapeutic at times!

Rubberchikken

it's natural to look back and wonder, what if.
the fact that she's getting married is making these feeling worse but i think they will lessen in the coming days. could you let her go on social media? keeping up with her life is only making yours go nowhere and you deserve better than that.

acknowledge the regret and memories and then move on with living.
good luck

Hannibal_Smith

Are you upset that it's her day and her life is moving on and yours hasn't? Why hasn't your life moved on since you were 17?

Ursus Horribilis

Maybe her getting married is the best thing that could happen to you. It's the door finally slamming shut and a wake-up call to you. Nobody can say for sure if you and her would have sailed off into the sunset together. Chances are you wouldn't have done. Everyone still has a hell of a lot of growing up and changing to do. What made you compatible at 17 might not have been there 7 years later.

Lex Luthor

you are just 24. You will meet someone else and move on. Time is on your side

LegacyUser

OP here - thank you for the replies. I wish i was 24, but unfortunately i am older which means i should be wiser and know better. The replies were great to read for me after writing down my thoughts, which is what i have been telling myself for so long, It's time to move on and forget her, remove her from my life, as one poster said, she's my first love, which is why i find it hard. I sent her on my congratulations and best wishes, but now it's time i moved on, which i will do by removing her from all my social media and deleting her number over the next few days.

Thanks again.

rondog

I had a very similar situation with a girl from Oz only I was living over there and had to come home when my Vias ran out.She came to London for work for a year and we met up.We half heartedly looked into how we could stay together some where and always discussed that we loved each other and wanted to stay together.Thing is with long distance relationsips,its a case of out of sight out of mid.Although we tried,the inevitable happened and we both started careers,the contact became less and less and it fizzled out.
I got a message on facebook stating that she had met someone and moved on,i wasn't surprised at all,i have since moved on and am very happy.I always wonder what could have happened but unfortunately circumstances got in the way.We kept in contact albeit very rarely ie happy birthdays etc but unfortunately distance proved to much for us.
You will meet someone else and you will probably always have what if thoughts but you can be very happy again.