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RSVP question

  • 30-01-2017 2:58pm
    #1
    evil_seed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,450 ✭✭✭


    We sent out our RSVPs not too long ago, and they've been coming bac fine. Bar one. It went to a family member, with 2 names on the invite. The RSVP came back with 3.
    How would you handle telling these people that it's only the names on the list? This isn't a baby/child added, but their adult (older than I am) son.
    We're limited to 100 for our guests. Even if someone drops out I don't want them there.


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  • #2
    me_irl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,400 ✭✭✭me_irl


    Call or message and tell them explaining your situation.

    If they are biscuit ar$ed it's their fault and just cancel the invite ("should be happy they were invited to celebrate your day")

    Nothing like a good old Irish wedding to weed out the a$$hole relatives.


  • #3
    c6ysaphjvqw41k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 466 ✭✭c6ysaphjvqw41k


    This post has been deleted.


  • #4
    solerina
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,435 ✭✭✭solerina


    evil_seed wrote: »
    We sent out our RSVPs not too long ago, and they've been coming bac fine. Bar one. It went to a family member, with 2 names on the invite. The RSVP came back with 3.
    How would you handle telling these people that it's only the names on the list? This isn't a baby/child added, but their adult (older than I am) son.
    We're limited to 100 for our guests. Even if someone drops out I don't want them there.

    Text them/ email them that unfortunately you can only invite those names on the invitation due to venue issues. Beyond ignorant adding a name to the RSVP so I wouldn't bring on a verbal arguement by ringing them or calling to them !!


  • #5
    me_irl
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,400 ✭✭✭me_irl


    solerina wrote: »
    Text them/ email them that unfortunately you can only invite those names on the invitation due to venue issues. Beyond ignorant adding a name to the RSVP so I wouldn't bring on a verbal arguement by ringing them or calling to them !!

    I agree, but might be better to communicate by direct means (phonecall) than tiptoe around emails / texts... I mean you're only delaying the inevitable.

    Feck, yeah I suggested texting too. Changing that to "call them"!


  • #6
    JayRoc
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,638 ✭✭✭JayRoc


    evil_seed wrote: »
    We sent out our RSVPs not too long ago, and they've been coming bac fine. Bar one. It went to a family member, with 2 names on the invite. The RSVP came back with 3.
    How would you handle telling these people that it's only the names on the list? This isn't a baby/child added, but their adult (older than I am) son.
    We're limited to 100 for our guests. Even if someone drops out I don't want them there.

    The wedding forum never ceases to surprise, but I still reckon that's one of the cheekiest things I've ever heard of. Adding a name to an invitation? Absolutely unreal


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  • #7
    Toots
    Administrators, Business & Finance Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,957 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Toots


    evil_seed wrote: »
    We sent out our RSVPs not too long ago, and they've been coming bac fine. Bar one. It went to a family member, with 2 names on the invite. The RSVP came back with 3.
    How would you handle telling these people that it's only the names on the list? This isn't a baby/child added, but their adult (older than I am) son.
    We're limited to 100 for our guests. Even if someone drops out I don't want them there.

    I'm assuming this is an aunt or uncle? Would it be possible to get whichever parent is related to them to have a word?


  • #8
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,208 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    evil_seed wrote: »
    We sent out our RSVPs not too long ago, and they've been coming bac fine. Bar one. It went to a family member, with 2 names on the invite. The RSVP came back with 3.
    How would you handle telling these people that it's only the names on the list? This isn't a baby/child added, but their adult (older than I am) son.
    We're limited to 100 for our guests. Even if someone drops out I don't want them there.

    I'd actually say it to who's ever parents their connected to just in case they invited the person.
    I heard of a similar situation people were invited to a wedding they were talking to the farther/mother of the bride/groom and he asked would they see them on the day and the honest truth was they didn't want to leave their growing up child home alone. (Personal issues) the parent of the couple replied bring them along. It's no hassle. So I'd just check my in the first place!


  • #9
    lazygal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,644 ✭✭✭✭lazygal


    JayRoc wrote: »
    The wedding forum never ceases to surprise, but I still reckon that's one of the cheekiest things I've ever heard of. Adding a name to an invitation? Absolutely unreal

    It's another classic weddings bring out the weirdness one.


  • #10
    pconn062
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,370 ✭✭✭pconn062


    Ah weddings, really brings out the crazy in some people. We haven't sent out our invites yet but when we do, we are kinds expecting something like this to happen with one or two people. If it does the we will be following the sound advice below, can't go wrong with that.
    Adriel Unsightly Grocer wrote: »
    This post has been deleted.


  • #11
    Gatica
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,301 ✭✭✭Gatica


    The OPs post suggests to me they don't want the extra person there at all, so there's no need for him to acquiesce to having the grown up child of this rude couple at the afters.
    Give them a call saying the same but to be clear that only they were invited and can be catered for. The poor son will only look like a tool if he shows up and there's nowhere for him to sit.


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