Opinion please

campo

So I am a best man at a wedding and the bride has asked me to read lyrics from her father's favourite song who unfortunately is no longer with us.

But my fiancee who is also the chiefs bridesmaid on the day is a a very good singer and was thinking of maybe singing the first verse and chorus

So my question is should she sing it (I think it would be a lovely touch personally) or should I just read it

jellybear

Ooh I think if she's a good singer that would be lovely! A nice surprise for the couple too

tracey turnblad

I think you should do as the bride asks or maybe run it by her first

Meauldsegosha

If your financee is chief bridesmaid then the bride obviously knows she's a good singer. If she wanted her to sing a song that means a lot to her she would have asked her. She didn't. She asked you to read it so that's what you should do.

campo

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

If your financee is chief bridesmaid then the bride obviously knows she's a good singer. If she wanted her to sing a song that means a lot to her she would have asked her. She didn't. She asked you to read it so that's what you should do.

I had thought of this but she also knows she is a nervous singer and maybe would not want to put her in that position.

I'll probably go the reading route tbh

tuisginideach

It's the bride's day, not the bridesmaid's - do as the bride wishes.

kitten_k

Maybe you could speak to the groom and get his opinion as to whether the bride would like it.

campo

kitten_k wrote: »

Maybe you could speak to the groom and get his opinion as to whether the bride would like it.

Now that is an idea why didn't I think of that ...thank you

Big Bag of Chips

I think you can do both. It would be unusual for the bridesmaid to sing during the speeches, but she could have a chat to the band and sing the song later in the night.

To be honest, I think asking the bride directly would be acceptable. It'd be a nice thing to do that she would be touched by whether or not it was a "surprise" for her. Also it might be nice to get the words printed in a nice frame as part of a wedding present for them.

stargazer 68

I would definitely check with someone first. Listening to someone reading the words of a song is different to someone singing it - it may upset the bride as it was her fathers favourite song.

LynnGrace

Dovies wrote: »

I would definitely check with someone first. Listening to someone reading the words of a song is different to someone singing it - it may upset the bride as it was her fathers favourite song.

That was my thought as well. Also, if asked to read, I would read it.

campo

So day after the big event and after taking all the advice on board we asked the bride which she would prefer a big hug was given and she wanted it sung.

It was emotional but in a good way, thank you everyone for the advice

jellybear

Wow, I'm surprised she wanted it sung. I'm delighted as that's what I had suggested as I thought it would be lovely and personal but thought I must be mad since every other reply said stick with it in the speech! Hope you all had an amazing day

campo

jellybear wrote: »

Wow, I'm surprised see wanted it sung. I'm delighted as that's what I had suggested as I thought it would be lovely and personal but thought I must be mad since every other reply said stick with it in the speech! Hope you all had an amazing day

I was beginning to think same thing but in the back of my mind I know how close the bride and bridesmaid are and how they got one another.

Was never going to be a thing to show up the bride etc it was always going to be one friend doing something nice for her friend.

It went down a treat and loads of people said it was lovely to see such a special bond between friends