Friends

Hammer89

So, I've got a friend and she's got a history of the blues - I mean depression, not musically - and she's been feeling a little down on herself recently.

She turns 25 in February and she's noticed that some of her friends aren't as involved in her life as they used to be, which is sad, but I tell her that's just the way it goes. I mean, I'm a little older and I've certainly noticed a simliar trend occur within my core group of lifelong friends. We all have full-time jobs and live in different locations, so it's difficult being as close as we were. It's the same thing with her, I'm guessing.

I tell her it's just a part of life, but is it? Just because it's happened to me, and is happening to her, does that make it 'normal'? I'd be interested in learning of other's experiences.

Sir Osis of Liver.

Pics?

Someone here will want to ride her.

aaronjumper

I'll be there for youuuuuuuuuuuuuu.

I have noticed it too. Between careers, kids and moving abroad there are friends I have that I don't see or hear from for months at a time. It's sad but it's life.
That's why the remaining friends put in more effort to see each other when we can.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Probably hasn't been her day, her week, her month.. or even her yeeeeeearrrrrr.

lawlolawl

Hammer89 wrote: »

So, I've got a friend and she's got a history of the blues - I mean depression, not musically - and she's been feeling a little down on herself recently.

She turns 25 in February and she's noticed that some of her friends aren't as involved in her life as they used to be, which is sad, but I tell her that's just the way it goes. I mean, I'm a little older and I've certainly noticed a simliar trend occur within my core group of lifelong friends. We all have full-time jobs and live in different locations, so it's difficult being as close as we were. It's the same thing with her, I'm guessing.

I tell her it's just a part of life, but is it? Just because it's happened to me, and is happening to her, does that make it 'normal'? I'd be interested in learning of other's experiences.

Yeah, it's fairly normal. I'm in my early 30s and i barely see my friends any more because everyone just has **** going on with work, family, whatever.

Long gone are the days when we would just hang around in each others gaffs or go on roadtrips and stuff.

It just happens. I just learned to enjoy my own company more as i'm single.

drunkmonkey

Put a whats app group together with the core.

The_Valeyard

I've found that I'm still in contact with friends from primary and secondary schools, but lost contact with most Of The college mates.

Trebor176

It happens that once school or college finish, people seem to go their separate ways. Some keep well in touch with one another, some only now and again, and others just disappear off the radar.

I'm not the best at keeping in touch with people, and despite having a decent amount of friends on Facebook, I only seem to chat to a few. Even then, I don't meet up with them as often as I'd like, due to reasons listed here already, i.e. work and family commitments.

I'm 30, and have found myself feeling down in recent months, especially having turned 30. I just feel like I should have been more sociable in the past, and regret it. I'm single too and, honestly, I'm sick of it. But, I want to change all that, and I have started contacting others who I might not have heard from or messaged in yonks. I will be meeting a couple of old school friends soon, who I haven't seen since we left, despite having them on Facebook.

Everyone I have on Facebook are people that I have got on so well with over the years. But, everyone has their own life to lead, so it's not always possible to keep regular contact. Even when I've arranged meeting up, other commitments for me and others just seem to get in the way. It's a case of doing something when there is time. But, for a good few, time just isn't favorable.

I think there comes a time when it's just a case of getting out there and meeting other people, whether it be through a new job, a course or a hobby. Meetup is good for groups that have regular gatherings. Anything from singletons to photography groups, and whatever you're having yourself.

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It happens. Myself and my best friend were Inseparable. We did everything together. She had a baby young and I would spend all my days off with her and the baby and we would both share the jobs, i.e. One of us would feed her, or change her, or bath her. In fact, usually both of us would lie down in her bed, baby in the middle and the child loved having her arms rubbed, she'd put one a up for her mammy to stroke, and one arm for me to stroke.
We did everything together. She would take a bath and I would sit on the toilet talking to her. She would log into my iCloud and use my find my iPhone app to see where abouts I was if I wasn't answering her calls or texts or wasn't in her house.


But it's different now. We both work so much now, I moved away, we aren't off on the same days, the child is older and more demanding, I've so much going on in my own life I don't have that free time anymore.

The older you get the less time seems to be in a day.

KERSPLAT!

I play football with mates once a week but bar that I'd only see them once a month or so. As you get older you're busy with your own stuff. Work, kids, stuff around the house, etc. These things happen but it's important to stay in touch at the same time

Birneybau

Her love life's d.o.a.?

One_Of_Shanks

They say that 16 is an awkward age but mid-20's is the most awkward of the lot. If you've been part of a tightly knit group of friends all your life and suddenly some of them are going off getting married, having kids, settling down etc and you're the odd one out then it's a big adjustment.
You didn't mention if maybe that's what happened here?

If you gave a bit more detail it might be easier for people to give some advice. (I mean that in a good way)