A divorce

zSparc

My wife just announced she wants a divorce. What am I supposed to do now? For now I'm having Jameson and try not to think - but what next?
After Hours, please advise...

BoJack Horseman

Personal issues forum maybe?

Otherwise someone will be along shortly to seek advise on what to do with the mistress they've been banging who has told her husband she wants a divorce

osarusan

More Jameson.

WinnyThePoo

Piss in her shampoo bottle?

jayo26

zSparc wrote: »

My wife just announced she wants a divorce. What am I supposed to do now? For now I'm having Jameson and try not to think - but what next?
After Hours, please advise...

After the Jameson? A few jackdanniels should finish it off nicely.

ceadaoin.

Get a solicitor

lawlolawl

osarusan wrote: »

More Jameson.

I'd crack open the champagne.

nullzero

ceadaoin. wrote: »

Get a solicitor

This and download one of those dating apps, lots of single people seem to be getting their hole that way these days, may just cheer you up some.

Ted111

1798 I presume. No ice, no water.

As for the divorce I think you're going to have to say no.
You should provide an explanation though in case she takes
it badly. Good communication should smooth things along.

gifted

Tell her leave the keys on the way out...

dmc17

Try Green Spot. It's much better than Jameson

How Soon Is Now

Your wife asks for a divorce and you go on boards to ask for advice?

Your ****ed.

corner of hells

Take the Jameson, set the house on fire , go to the garden and enjoy the flames.

zSparc

BoJack Horseman wrote: »

Personal issues forum maybe?

I trust in wisdom of AH. To be honest, in Personal Issues are the same people and same advice, over and over again.

I'm extraordinary and I am looking for advice from extraordinary people in my favourite forum.

Sam Kade

zSparc wrote: »

My wife just announced she wants a divorce. What am I supposed to do now? For now I'm having Jameson and try not to think - but what next?
After Hours, please advise...

Maybe ask her why

zSparc

Ted111 wrote: »

No ice, no water.

Never.

zSparc

How Soon Is Now wrote: »

Your wife asks for a divorce and you go on boards to ask for advice?

Your ****ed.

Nah, I just don't take life too seriously. If I did I'd be dead by now.

unknownlegend

Delete the gym, hit the lawyer and hire the facebook

andekwarhola

I thought you meant the series on Sky Atlantic.

Not that I'm guiltily enjoying it, of course.

Grayson

I have absolutely no idea what to say. I'd advice having a second drink. After you sober up talk to her. See if you can find out a bit more about what's going on.

After that find a therapist/councillor and a solicitor to get advice from. One on how to keep your head straight. The other on potential legal aspects

The guardian did a series or stories talking to people who had gone through stuff like this a while back. Many people describe it as being an experience that eventually led them to be happy so try not to get bogged down. REading some stories about people who went through the stuff you're going through, and came out better for it may help.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/the-divorce-survival-guide

Finally, you may find forums/groups online that you can talk to about it. The best people to talk to besides friends are people who have gone through it.

How Soon Is Now

zSparc wrote: »

Nah, I just don't take life too seriously. If I did I'd be dead by now.

Lol maybe that's why your getting divorced.

zSparc

Sam Kade wrote: »

Maybe ask her why

"Something died, the spark". We've been married for 19 years now.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Well, you don't seem to bothered by it anyway

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Grayson wrote: »

I have absolutely no idea what to say. I'd advice having a second drink. After you sober up talk to her. See if you can find out a bit more about what's going on.

After that find a therapist/councillor and a solicitor to get advice from. One on how to keep your head straight. The other on potential legal aspects

The guardian did a series or stories talking to people who had gone through stuff like this a while back.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/series/the-divorce-survival-guide

Finally, you may find forums/groups online that you can talk to about it. The best people to talk to besides friends are people who have gone through it.

If he needs to sober up after 2 drinks the divorce is the least of his problems

jayo26

Sam Kade wrote: »

Maybe ask her why

Here feelings hardley matter?

Grayson

LexieOnRale wrote: »

If he needs to sober up after 2 drinks the divorce is the least of his problems

Depends on the drinks. I take it you're an amateur

Fleawuss

zSparc wrote: »

"Something died, the spark". We've been married for 19 years now.

That explains the smell.

Seriously say nothing. I mean nothing. Not a word. Write down everything she says. Get a GOOD solicitor.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

Grayson wrote: »

Depends on the drinks. I take it you're an amateur

Amateur at getting drunk on two drinks.

lawlolawl

zSparc wrote: »

"Something died, the spark". We've been married for 19 years now.

That'll do it alright.

You'd get less for murder.

Sue Pa Key Pa

You've been tasting Jameson for too long, it's lost it's impact. Now you're free to get a little bit of Midleton in your life

Best of luck OP

zSparc

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Well, you don't seem to bothered by it anyway

Well what can I do? She's been weird over the last year, I kinda felt it coming. I think I still love her but if she says "no" to everything including counseling I seem to have no options. I can drink myself to death, cry into friends/family shoulder but that's not the point. It's different to "not being bothered" though. I am, but sure... Her decision. I tried, I really did.

Listen young people, this is happening when you have everything, no trouble and all you can think of is where to go on anther holiday this year. Women go crazy.

0lddog

Check your household insurance policy.

Most cover this situation

Sam Kade

zSparc wrote: »

"Something died, the spark". We've been married for 19 years now.

She seems to be doing you a favour then, not many marriages still have a spark after 19 years.

Just noticed your username, :

zSparc

0lddog wrote: »

Check your household insurance policy.

Most cover this situation

Are you serious? I bought HER a house (which I am paying for) but I thought in case of a divorce we'll have to sell it, etc.. I wouldn't like to sell it cos I'd like fir my son to inherit it some day. But what would the policy say? Like they pay off my mortgage cos we're getting a divorce? Not possible.

PARlance

Pour half the Jameson down the sink... best to get accustomed to divorce straight away.

HS3

Sorry to read your post op. Hope you're ok. Silly comment perhaps. You're probably far from ok. Is it a final 'i want a divorce no discussion '. Or is it negotiable?

I would suggest, if it's serious, having a think about it in the morning, if it is a final decision, and working out your own needs going forward. Have a talk with her in the morning and see where she is and whether you can agree on each other's points. If so great. I don't know what your circumstances are re housing ownership and children. But it would be worth you seeing a solicitor to make sure you are both being fair.

For tonight, enjoy the Jameson. Nice choice!

Hammer89

As tempted as I am to give an AH response, the best advice I can give is slag her vagina and jump through the window like Henry Sellars.

darkpagandeath

Convert to Islam.

zSparc

Sam Kade wrote: »

She seems to be doing you a favour then, not many marriages still have a spark after 19 years.

Just noticed your username, :

She's really hot and I could ride her day and night. So it's obviously her "spark"

My username is different though, it's more about what I do for living.

Grayson

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Amateur at getting drunk on two drinks.

Two pints of surgical spirit heading your way.

I have a bottle of this here. This thread has inspired me to grab a glass.

JeffKenna

Kill that b*tch. Doesn't know a good thing when she has one. She'll be sorry, mark my words.

zSparc

HS3 wrote: »

Sorry to read your post op. Hope you're ok. Silly comment perhaps. You're probably far from ok.

Most of the time I'm far from OK when I have to leave my "computer room". Thanks for your post, really. AH is where I posted this to and AH is to give me the feedback. I take everything on the chin!

zSparc

JeffKenna wrote: »

Kill that b*tch..

She's not a bitch. She's wonderful, but doesn't fancy me anymore. Tough luck, at least once sh*t is on me. Why not.

HS3

Grayson wrote: »

Two pints of surgical spirit heading your way.

I have a bottle of this here. This thread has inspired me to grab a glass.

Savouring a bottle of furstenburg here. Would have one fairly merry in no time.

Randle P. McMurphy

Enjoy the Jameson. After her solicitor is finished with you it's unlikely you will be able to afford it anymore.

Grayson

I watched this film the other day so this scene was the first thing that popped into my head when I read the OP.

https://youtu.be/ddJCHBzJWLI?t=1h31m31s

zSparc

SPX Option wrote: »

What bothers you about it the most?

Stupid as it seems but I just couldn't imagine any other woman, no matter how hot, making me tea in the morning. And Christmas Day, when we all sit on the sofa unwrapping presents, and warmth of her body around me, when I fall asleep...

But sure, that's gone. If I get carried away in the memories I'll end up bad.

zSparc

Grayson wrote: »

I watched this film the other day so this scene was the first thing that popped into my head when I read the OP.

https://youtu.be/ddJCHBzJWLI?t=1h31m31s

I laughed

HS3

zSparc wrote: »

Most of the time I'm far from OK when I have to leave my "computer room". Thanks for your post, really. AH is where I posted this to and AH is to give me the feedback. I take everything on the chin!

No worries. I see what you're saying re being ok, but equally understand it's AH banter you're after, which I m not so good at. Other than to suggest you'll be seeing carrots in the god phone if you finish that bottle! (Is that more like it?)

buried

zSparc wrote: »

My wife just announced she wants a divorce. What am I supposed to do now? For now I'm having Jameson and try not to think - but what next?
After Hours, please advise...

Magic mushrooms. Very good crop this years one is.

minikin

Been to marriage counselling?
Considered mediation before this announcement?
If not and this is completely out of the blue then it sounds like a third party may be involved?
Has there been no bedroom fun lately but she still walks around like she's getting the hoop knocked off her?

Stop telling yourself that you love her - immediately, if she genuinely wants a divorce then this now becomes about protection of your financial interests, assets and access to your child. frag the batch financially - go for the jugular.