Is living with women always this headwrecking?

SemenInMyEyes

Hello people of after hours.

I have found myself in the unlikely situation where I am in a relationship. I am amazed as all all of my friends who have said I would be forever alone. In fact I have now managed to maintain a relationship for a whole year and we moved in together recently. All was going great for about 6 weeks. Then she decided to wreck my head with her head wrecking nonsense.

Yesterday I was sitting on the laptop listening to Spotify as I always tend to do. I was in the living room and she was on Youtube watching videos of cute babies and how to apply make up which usually means she is in a good mood.

I am listening to Nevermind thinking I can't believe it's 25 years old and enjoying a delicious alcoholic beverage. The tranquility is destroyed however by a raging MrsSemenInMyEyes. She had apparently called me 3 times and got no response because I was enjoying the chorus of "Breed" at a rather high volume. She then proceeded to have an argument with me saying that I shouldn't listen to music on headphones because it means I can't hear her calling me. She suggested I play the music out loud but I reminded her that when I did that last week she kept telling me to play something else so she can listen to it too. At this point she threw what can only be destroyed as a temper tantrum and disappeared into the bedroom and didn't talk to me until this morning. She was like you shouldn't listen to music in case I want to talk to you and I'm like you could at any moment in time decide to strike up conversation with me sweetheart. If I followed your rule I would be a slave and have to listen to endless amounts of gossipy nonsense.

No love was made last night. Not even a kiss goodnight. This is but one example of her head wrecking ways. She always asks me questions like "Why didn't you empty the bin" to which I can only respond "I was not aware it was full yet". This is a few weeks ago.

So guys and girls? Is living with your other half sometimes completely head wrecking?

0byme75341jo28

You both sound fairly ignorant tbh.

Samuri Suicide

Never met a wise man...if so it's a woman.

Good choice of album for a Sunday afternoon

GLaDOS

One baby to another says, "I'm lucky to have met you"
I don't care what you think unless it is about me
It is now my duty to completely drain you

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...And Justice

SemenInMyEyes wrote: »

Hello people of after hours.

I have found myself in the unlikely situation where I am in a relationship. I am amazed as all all of my friends who have said I would be forever alone. In fact I have now managed to maintain a relationship for a whole year and we moved in together recently. All was going great for about 6 weeks. Then she decided to wreck my head with her head wrecking nonsense.

Yesterday I was sitting on the laptop listening to Spotify as I always tend to do. I was in the living room and she was on Youtube watching videos of cute babies and how to apply make up which usually means she is in a good mood.

I am listening to Nevermind thinking I can't believe it's 25 years old and enjoying a delicious alcoholic beverage. The tranquility is destroyed however by a raging MrsSemenInMyEyes. She had apparently called me 3 times and got no response because I was enjoying the chorus of "Breed" at a rather high volume. She then proceeded to have an argument with me saying that I shouldn't listen to music on headphones because it means I can't hear her calling me. She suggested I play the music out loud but I reminded her that when I did that last week she kept telling me to play something else so she can listen to it too. At this point she threw what can only be destroyed as a temper tantrum and disappeared into the bedroom and didn't talk to me until this morning. She was like you shouldn't listen to music in case I want to talk to you and I'm like you could at any moment in time decide to strike up conversation with me sweetheart. If I followed your rule I would be a slave and have to listen to endless amounts of gossipy nonsense.

No love was made last night. Not even a kiss goodnight. This is but one example of her head wrecking ways. She always asks me questions like "Why didn't you empty the bin" to which I can only respond "I was not aware it was full yet". This is a few weeks ago.

So guys and girls? Is living with your other half sometimes completely head wrecking?

RUN!!!!

milehip

Dunno,does she have a dog and use it as an excuse to move in with you because she couldn't keep it at her parents?

clairewithani

I am living with a man. He says I wreck his head. So what. I even wreck my own.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

You both sound a bit touched but it would do you no harm to show a little more consideration and not have to make her turn into your mammy nagging you to live like an adult

...And Justice

She's a bleeding head melter op.

frag420

Bitches be tripping yo...

Larbre34

If your demeanour is similar to that of Brad Pitt in True Romance, i can kinda understand her frustration. If, however, you are just a normal chap having a bit of down time and being inoffensive to everybody then her reaction is one of an unreasonable spoilt child/cow and you should either make that clear to her, or simply cut your losses and get out now.

In answer to your question, my Missus doesnt go on like that, she wouldnt accept me going on like that and no its not normal. Unless you and she are about 17 years of age.

Sam Kade

LexieOnRale wrote: »

You both sound a bit touched but it would do you no harm to show a little more consideration and not have to make her turn into your mammy nagging you to live like an adult

Hmm, we know who wears the trousers in your house

The Diddakoi

"She then proceeded to have an argument with me saying that I shouldn't listen to music on headphones because it means I can't hear her calling me"

She sounds like she is new to this relationship business....give her time.

In this situation the usual approach is to throw things at your other half until you gain their attention.

Winterlong

Dude, if you are not happy then break up with her.
All women are not like that. Some of them are deadly crack.

bilbot79

All women are like this. For some weird reason it's sorts putting up with it. You need to sacrifice some of your freedoms while working hard to retain other freedoms....but you CANT have it all. Sorry.

I dunno OP. It sounds like awfully hard work. I don't live with a Mr Persepoly (thankfully) but if I did we would be independant enough to do our own thing in peace without tantrums and nagging.

Sir Osis of Liver.

She's a pain in the hole.
Get out now.Seriously.

No good will come of that hag.

GerryDerpy

This behaviour is not true for all women. I have had numerous girlfriends that were like that so was starting to worry that it is how women are. But eventually found one that isn't insecure and there is zero nagging type behaviour.

marketty

Wait til she starts whinging about the cold

claregal1

Sounds a bit like the relationship my 17 year old son is in hahaha

On a lighter note - throwing a strop over not answering her when she calls is a bit over the top in my opinion ...

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alf66 wrote: »

"She then proceeded to have an argument with me saying that I shouldn't listen to music on headphones because it means I can't hear her calling me"

She sounds like she is new to this relationship business....give her time.

In this situation the usual approach is to throw things at your other half until you gain their attention.

If you've nothing handy to throw, try taking your top off. They go from 'may or may not notice if you were actually on fire' to 'you-seeking heat missile' pretty quickly.

Then you put your top back on, call their mother an interfering cow and ask them 'WHY IS THAT CUP THERE?' and not in a rhetorical question way.

Have to keep them on their toes

Badly Drunk Boy

Just tell her that you're more comfortable if she gets your attention using her smartphone, rather than crude methods such as calling out vocally, as if she were a cave-woman.

That sort of thing would wreck my head, though. For the most part, I've never had to deal with it. I hope your girlfriend gets better...

Stealthfins

Resistance is futile,you will be assimilated...

I escaped from the Borg a few year's ago.

Some of us are destined to accept we like our independence and individuality..
Others can share space and time into eternity.

If I was you I'd run, your partner has a temper and we'll able to be passively aggressive.

Although we're only hearing your side of the story.

beertons

Sounds about right.

Junkyard Tom

Have you considered cocooning yourself in duct tape?

padd b1975

I would be fairly certain this irrational behaviour won't be a permanent thing.

More a once a month type of nuisance.....

CarrickMcJoe

SemenInMyEyes wrote: »

Hello people of after hours.



No love was made last night. Not even a kiss goodnight. This is but one example of her head wrecking ways. She always asks me questions like "Why didn't you empty the bin" to which I can only respond "I was not aware it was full yet". This is a few weeks ago.

So guys and girls? Is living with your other half sometimes completely head wrecking?

Wait till your married.....then there will be no love made, and instead of Come As You Are, you'll be listening to ,I Wanna Know What Love Is, on your headphones...

Wesser

This is modem relationships. Everyone on devices. Remember that bansky mural of the couple on their phones? Maybe go for a walk together outside?

the evasion_kid

I just leave this for you op...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nWiM381KRJo

Avatar MIA

PFFFT - Thinly veiled 'I've got a girlfriend and having the sex'

Sounds normal to me. Been with Mr MA for 25 years and he still doesn't put the bins out! He also listens to music with headphones.
Living together at first is strange. Habits that were endearing before become irritating. Maybe turn the volume down so you can hear if she speaks to you. If you love each other enough, you will take time to get to know each other and to share your lives, bins included!
It just sounds like the honeymoon period is over. Normal life starts here. It's up to you both to learn to live together in harmony! Good Luck.

r93kaey5p2izun

She sounds very annoying. You both sound quite immature if over 20.

Look at this from your girlfriend's point of view, OP. It's inevitably head-wrecking to date someone whose never been in a relationship.

In my experience they tend to be less considerate of other people, and less emotionally intelligent than people who've had some experience of dating. And the inevitable breakup will be agonisingly self-indulgent/ hysterical.

Whenever I go on a first date and hear the immortal words "I've never been in a serious relationship", I weigh up my chances of getting the ride that night, because one thing is sure, we'll never see one another again.

Your Face

Pair of knob ends.

Spanish Eyes

Two living rooms, two tvs, two beds even.

Join up for a bit of nooky now and then. Share the bills and the food. Do your own thing when you want to. Then the joy of joining up is fab.

Take it from me. Your own space is paramount. End of.

salmocab

I once told a girl I used to live with to turn the telly down as it was too loud, she told me there must be something wrong with my hearing as she could barely hear it.

RoyalMarine

Your probably as bad as her to be honest.

So, by that account, stick with her. So no one else get's the unfortunate hassle of dating either of the 2 of ye.

Avatar MIA

salmocab wrote: »

I once told a girl I used to live with to turn the telly down as it was too loud, she told me there must be something wrong with my hearing as she could barely hear it.

Fascinating. Have you ever considered an autobiography?

Dolbert

Yes OP. All women and indeed all relationships are the same. It's good that you've figured it out earlier in life, it'll save you some time in the long run.

PARlance

SemenInMyEyes wrote: »

I was in the living room and she was on Youtube watching videos of cute babies and how to apply make up which usually means she is in a good mood.

You don't sound compatible. She's looking for a SemenInHerEggs kinda guy.

The Backwards Man

Threads like this remind me why I'm so lucky I don't have a spotify subscription.

moc moc a moc

What you're describing is not a woman, but a girl.

moc moc a moc

moc moc a moc wrote: »

What you're describing is not a woman, but a girl.

She's not a girl, not yet a woman.

Outlaw Pete

Sounds like she just wants you to involve her in more of what you're doing tbf.

Listening to music you both like makes sense. You could always play Nirvana full blast when she's not home.

I also sense some tension and so perhaps a little gentle S&M is something you could both enjoy?

You could even play music at the same time.

Kal El

Yes, Yes it is. I thought this was known

emo72

Fights like this are normal. The dude is being very considerate listening on his headphones. Have the fight, leave reach other alone for a while, and then everyone comes to their senses. Who expects relationships to run smoothly anyway?

0ph0rce0

Ah the old kitchen bin.

The bin i don't put anything in as i don't want a smelly kitchen, so i put everything we use straight into the wheelie bin. But she fills it with tons of crap and then expects me to put it out. And then starts a fight if it's not done. It's all my fault.


But when i take a dump and leave it there and ask her why she hasn't flushed my sh!t away she says its not the same and gets in another mood.

It's Exactly The Same Love.


Just get out now while you can it's not worth it mate.

nullzero

Op there is only one thing you have to do in order to avoid such situations in future and maintain a happy environment with your other half in which you can both enjoy your passtimes... Oh hang on, gotta go, the wife isn't happy that I'm on boards again.

mynamejeff

i lived for a year completely alone in my apartment

my god it was glorious just glorious

if you can afford to live alone i highly recommend it

ligerdub

A Tyrant Named Miltiades! wrote: »

Look at this from your girlfriend's point of view, OP. It's inevitably head-wrecking to date someone whose never been in a relationship.

In my experience they tend to be less considerate of other people, and less emotionally intelligent than people who've had some experience of dating. And the inevitable breakup will be agonisingly self-indulgent/ hysterical.

Whenever I go on a first date and hear the immortal words "I've never been in a serious relationship", I weigh up my chances of getting the ride that night, because one thing is sure, we'll never see one another again.

Ha! The 3rd paragraph killed your 2nd paragraph.

Wibbs

GerryDerpy wrote: »

This behaviour is not true for all women. I have had numerous girlfriends that were like that so was starting to worry that it is how women are. But eventually found one that isn't insecure and there is zero nagging type behaviour.

This. It depends on the bloke's personality too mind you. A lot. Some are just monumental knob ends and I am not shocked when the women in their lives give them static.

As for the women to avoid? IMH and IME those women who need to doing something All. The. Time. You may know the type. The never relaxed, the never quite happy, so require a constant distraction/entertaining. The ones who suggest you need to relax on a Saturday afternoon and then have a face on after an hour of you trying to, because you're not relaxing the way she wants. When with time your horniness and love wears down and you're living a day to day reality they will make your life a purgatory. Go for easy going with the happy gene.