Mid life crisis :(

harry Bailey esq

As the title says, i think im having a mid life crisis,i feel like theres nothing to look forward to anymore, everything i would have had on my bucket list has been ticked off and done.In the movies chaps buy pricey sports coupes and rolex watches.Unfortunatly my financial situation won't cover such luxuries.Im only 35,two kids with two women.I did however have the funds to purchase an old moto guzzi california (bike heads will get this) and i spend more time repairing the yoke than I get out on the road.I feel like im turning into me granda despite my tender years.Ah users,throw some ideas at me to feel young again,there's life in the old dog yet.Suggestions?

The_Valeyard

It's too late for you.

Devote time and money to your children.

Hope they put you in the expensive snazzy nursing home, not the one where you make clothes for Nike.

GritBiscuit

Time to compile bucket list Mk II....

Or alternatively get an inappropriately young girlfriend, wear skinny jeans and get saving for the hair implants...

The_Valeyard

Maybe he wants to feel someone young. (but of legal age)

I wouldn't say I had a mid life crisis, but had 20 years of pubs and parties. Had a baby and, at 40, reassessed things. I just...changed. Started getting healthy, kicked the pub scene, made a lot of new friends. It certainly wasn't expensive, saving a lot by avoiding the nights of dropping a hundred on rounds. Runners are a lot cheaper...

myshirt

You need to sit on that crotch rocket and eat some road.

harry Bailey esq

Easy for you to say, you're got a cave with a fancy car and a butler to iron yer cape when you wanna head out incognito to clean the streets of villains,i dont have such luxury

Summer wind

Be thankful and happy that you've got two beautiful children and try and be in their lives as much as you can. They grow quickly and you won't get this time back again. Maybe save a bit more and take a Harley for a trip on Route 66. You are way too young to feel this old.

osarusan

Support a League of Ireland club. After a year of travelling round the country at weekends watching games, your old life will be a lot more attractive again.

Fleawuss

35 and a bucket list? You've made yourself old. Stop doing what you've always done. If you keep looking where you've always been you can never find what's in the place you haven't looked.

Olishi4

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

Im only 35

Only 35? That's ancient

Harry Palmr

Fukcing Nora (that's not a suggestion!), 35? Mid life crisis? Buy a guitar and an amp, can you play? Doesn't matter! Take up market gardening and join your local GIY group, your knees will hate you but it's life affirming and you'll make some new friends. Listen to your teenage music on CD (have you got a CD player?)

The_Valeyard

Fleawuss wrote: »

35 and a bucket list? You've made yourself old. Stop doing what you've always done. If you keep looking where you've always been you can never find what's in the place you haven't looked.

Could be a very nice bucket though, all shiny and sliver.

Your Face

Hop on the bike and never go back.
That's what you really want to do.

donegaLroad

have you ever been to Tory Island? Take a trip out for a couple of nights, it will change your perspective of things!

Sir Osis of Liver.

FFS...at 35 you haven't even peaked you unhappy bastard.

I'm 44 and only getting going.

buried

Sir Osis of Liver. wrote: »

FFS...at 35 you haven't even peaked you unhappy bastard.

I'm 44 and only getting going.

Exactly, I'm 36 and I'm only getting my 0.5 wind going, nevermind the first or second winds

Esel

Oops, thought this thread was about Mod life crisis.

Mid-life mod crisis OTOH...

Winterlong

I saw that show 'Older than ireland' during the week. It is a 90 minute documentary interviewing some of ireland centenarians. They would piss their arse laughing at the thought of a 35 year old having a mid life crisis.
So dont be worrying about it. When you are physically to decrepit to do the things you want to do then come back to us.

boobar

Skinny Jeans...

You'll be crying out for the pipe and slippers after spending the day squashed into those trendy threads.

dd972

I've always thought of the bucket list phenomenon as appealing to people with an unhealthy existential preoccupation with death rather than being focused on living.

zSparc

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

As the title says, i think im having a mid life crisis,i feel like theres nothing to look forward to anymore, everything i would have had on my bucket list has been ticked off and done.In the movies chaps buy pricey sports coupes and rolex watches.Unfortunatly my financial situation won't cover such luxuries.Im only 35,two kids with two women.I did however have the funds to purchase an old moto guzzi california (bike heads will get this) and i spend more time repairing the yoke than I get out on the road.I feel like im turning into me granda despite my tender years.Ah users,throw some ideas at me to feel young again,there's life in the old dog yet.Suggestions?

"Roethke referred to getting old as wearing the leaden weight of what I did not do. Just as your youth is not a prize for your efforts, my agedness is not a penalty for my faults."

Do whatever. The clock is ticking.

donegal.

if its possible to complete a bucket list by 35 it must have been the worlds ****iest bucket list.

nice_guy80

I'd 35 old?

Go and live on a remote island somewhere and see how much better your life is.

That, or get another woman and see how miserable your life could be

myshirt

Your Face wrote: »

Hop on the bike and never go back.
That's what you really want to do.

Exactly. Op, you need to grow your hair long, buy a leather vest, and sit on a crotch rocket. You and the road for a bit. You'll be amazed how better you'll feel.

NiallBoo

Have you thought about starting a cult?

The adoration of the weak-willed does wonders for your sense of self satisfaction.

You'll also have someone to mind the kids

Dr Crayfish

Stop whining ffs. I just turned 36 and still feel like I'm 23. Although I heard kids and wives age the bejesus out of you but you made your own bed

5rtytry56

NiallBoo wrote: »

Have you thought about starting a cult?

The adoration of the weak-willed does wonders for your sense of self satisfaction.

You'll also have someone to mind the kids

Or
instead of starting a cult OP maybe its a good old dose of Schadenfreude you need. Just derive satisfaction from reading about weak willed peoples misfortune.

Colser

Winterlong wrote: »

I saw that show 'Older than ireland' during the week. It is a 90 minute documentary interviewing some of ireland centenarians. They would piss their arse laughing at the thought of a 35 year old having a mid life crisis.
So dont be worrying about it. When you are physically to decrepit to do the things you want to do then come back to us.

I watched that also and it confirmed my fear of old age..great programme but frightening in some respects...

OP I'd love to be 35 again,look after your kids first and then do whatever the hell makes you happy.I also think that your "bucket" must have been leaking..how have you gone through your list already?

NiallBoo

5rtytry56 wrote: »

Or
instead of starting a cult OP maybe its a good old dose of Schadenfreude you need. Just derive satisfaction from reading about weak willed peoples misfortune.

Wasn't that covered when someone suggest following football?

Canis Lupus

I can highly recommend a motorbike.

andekwarhola

35 is too young for a mid life crisis. Don't really get the concept as you can still do most of the things you always did: drink, socialize, see friends, do sports /exercise travel etc.

If you're in your 40s and want to be with women half your age, really cane the drugs and look as young as you did 20 years ago, that's a different matter, I guess.

Widdershins

You've been able to do everything on your ''bucket list'' by 35, so you're very lucky. Maybe you just don't appreciate anything enough.

5rtytry56

Canis Lupus wrote: »

I can highly recommend a motorbike.

Yeah. I don't know about other motorcycle gangs in Ireland OP but why not join the Irish chapter of "The Hell's angels'?

kfallon

Widdershins wrote: »

You've been able to do everything on your ''bucket list'' by 35, so you're very lucky. Maybe you just don't appreciate anything enough.

Harry's bucket list:

Have kid with woman
Have another kid with another woman

:P

moc moc a moc

Winterlong wrote: »

ireland centenarians. They would piss their arse laughing at the thought of a 35 year old having a mid life crisis

Most people aren't going to live to be centenarians, so 35 years is close to the middle of their lives.

andekwarhola wrote: »

35 is too young for a mid life crisis

Nope. See above.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

moc moc a moc wrote: »

Most people aren't going to live to be centenarians, so 35 years is close to the middle of their lives.



Nope. See above.

More and more people are reaching the 100 and many more will in future.

OP, 35 is far from mid life. Just enjoy it.

Elessar

dd972 wrote: »

I've always thought of the bucket list phenomenon as appealing to people with an unhealthy existential preoccupation with death rather than being focused on living.

It's not unhealthy, in fact it's a rather healthy realisation that life is short and if you want to see or do certain things that you need to get out there and do them. Having a list of goals you want to accomplish is a great way to actually start accomplishing them.

harry Bailey esq

myshirt wrote: »

Exactly. Op, you need to grow your hair long, buy a leather vest, and sit on a crotch rocket. You and the road for a bit. You'll be amazed how better you'll feel.

Im very thin on top,if I grew my hair long I'd be sporting a Bill Bailey look (no relation to me) im happy enough but I often dwell on opportunities that flew over my head and various feck ups ive made over the years, mainly alcohol related truth be told.

harry Bailey esq

osarusan wrote: »

Support a League of Ireland club. After a year of travelling round the country at weekends watching games, your old life will be a lot more attractive again.

Bohs till i die,a roller-coaster of emotions,LOI fans know what I mean.

Giacomo McGubbin

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

As the title says, i think im having a mid life crisis,i feel like theres nothing to look forward to anymore, everything i would have had on my bucket list has been ticked off and done.In the movies chaps buy pricey sports coupes and rolex watches.Unfortunatly my financial situation won't cover such luxuries.Im only 35,two kids with two women.I did however have the funds to purchase an old moto guzzi california (bike heads will get this) and i spend more time repairing the yoke than I get out on the road.I feel like im turning into me granda despite my tender years.Ah users,throw some ideas at me to feel young again,there's life in the old dog yet.Suggestions?

Spoiled First World Problems.
You seem to be equating possessions, trends, fashions, and holidays with happiness. You are the classic victim of modern marketing and a very empty modern culture. As you age and deteriorate physically this culture will consider you less worthy and increasingly reject you.

There is a solution to your woes, it's called lifelong learning, and need not cost a penny.
Get up and learn something new everyday and also help people less fortunate and spoiled than yourself.
You'll never be unhappy / bored again.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Not so. Life expectancy is increasing all the time. A report in 2010 stated

620 centenarians in Ireland in 2006, this is expected to rise to more than 8,500 by 2041.

Giacomo McGubbin

Tomas Bald Copper wrote: »

Not so. Life expectancy is increasing all the time.

It's still a guarantee of nothing. I hope to be finished up about 70 something. More than enough time to do what I wanted to do. I don't see the point of hanging around any longer. But if I have to stick around longer than that, I'll fill my time productively.

RobbingBandit

Mid life crisis me bollix op, I'm 34 no relationship what so ever since early teens have medical problems coming out my eyes and ears have no job prospects and no way back into education as I am currently blind in one eye due to diabetic complications. I have no friends due to severe social anxiety, so cry me a river baby.

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

Giacomo McGubbin wrote: »

It's still a guarantee of nothing. I hope to be finished up about 70 something. More than enough time to do what I wanted to do. I don't see the point of hanging around any longer. But if I have to stick around longer than that, I'll fill my time productively.

You'll change your tune as you get older. I used to think 30 was past it. Now I'm 72 and life has never slowed and is as exciting and full as ever it was.

Giacomo McGubbin

Tomas Bald Copper wrote: »

You'll change your tune as you get older. I used to think 30 was past it. Now I'm 72 and life has never slowed and is as exciting and full as ever it was.

Not really, I never thought 30 was past it. I don't think any age is past it. I just don't see the point in hanging around any longer than that, even if I could live to 1000. Late 70's would be the ideal check out time for me, before heading into the territory of wasting 800 euro a week of my hard earned savings to pay some strangers to wipe my arse for me, and / or facing big home repair bills. The tricky bit is timing it all.

harry Bailey esq

Giacomo McGubbin wrote: »

Spoiled First World Problems.
You seem to be equating possessions, trends, fashions, and holidays with happiness. You are the classic victim of modern marketing and a very empty modern culture. As you age and deteriorate physically this culture will consider you less worthy and increasingly reject you.

There is a solution to your woes, it's called lifelong learning, and need not cost a penny.
Get up and learn something new everyday and also help people less fortunate and spoiled than yourself.
You'll never be unhappy / bored again.

I get that,kinda.My 'bucket list' was to travel a lot,make lots of money,provide for my families and get property. Stuff that normal people start to knuckle down in their 30s,I done all that in my 20s,I've a lot of praise(and some jealousy) thrown in my direction as a result of this,but I sometimes feel that life has past me by.Probably should have posted in the personal issues forum but I dont like to take advice from anonymous faceless armchair 'life coaches' if you catch me drift.

BrianD3

Take up some form of martial arts and stick with it. You won't need a whole lot of money for it. I'd favour it over other common mid life crisis activities such as marathons and triathlons.

andekwarhola

moc moc a moc wrote: »

Most people aren't going to live to be centenarians, so 35 years is close to the middle of their lives

I don't think it technically means the middle of your life-span. You don't really think of people in their mid-30s being afflicted by it do you? Rather 40s and 50s.

harry Bailey esq

RobbingBandit wrote: »

Mid life crisis me bollix op, I'm 34 no relationship what so ever since early teens have medical problems coming out my eyes and ears have no job prospects and no way back into education as I am currently blind in one eye due to diabetic complications. I have no friends due to severe social anxiety, so cry me a river baby.

Im sad to hear that,genuinely and honestly man.Every so often i get bouts of social anxiety and its a pain in the bollix to put it mildly.Whilst it certainly puts things into perspective however ,it's not the same as my worries.Hope things get better for you and you get over 'the fear' and start living again.

harry Bailey esq

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

Im only 35,two kids with two women.

you're not even close to mid-life crises yet. come back in 7-10 years time and I'll give you some advice.