Ex Boyf making me feel guilty

Hurt1234

I finished with my boyfriend of a year last month. Basically he wasn't putting me first and was incredibly selfish in every aspect. I spoke to him numerous times about this but he didn't change his behavior, so I ended it.

Here's the problem, he won't leave me alone. He keeps messaging me with silly jokes (one was that he was wearing the underwear I had left in his apartment), and that he is miserable without me etc. I actually found out he has moved on casually so I don't even believe he misses me, I feel this is a game to him.

I joined a dating website in order to move on, he found me on it and started sending me crazy messages until I had to block him. I also blocked him on every other form of social media.

In result of this, he has successfully made me feel really bad about myself for finishing with him. I know it might be hard for him, but it's not my problem anymore so why does he keep going out of his way to make me feel really guilty and send me all of these messages?

Everytime I hear from him, it brings up the hurt and anger he made me feel when we were together. What do I do?

batmanrobin

Block him on everything - viber, whatsapp, regular text - everything! Any possible way he could make contact, make sure he can't.

Then, repeat the bit to yourself about how you were not a priority for this man, that you tried to speak to him about this but he wouldn't listen.

You did nothing wrong in ending the relationship. It doesn't sound like he was going to change.

Ignore anything he's said to you in those texts etc and understand that it's most likely his way of trying to hurt you.

It's going to be tough, but you'll be okay as time passes and realise you did the best thing for yourself.

Hurt1234

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I truly believe he is just trying to hurt me, what annoys me is that he is winning! I blocked him on Whatsapp etc and delted his number, can you block texts?

Hurt1234

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I truly believe he is just trying to hurt me, what annoys me is that he is winning! I blocked him on Whatsapp etc and deleted his number, can you block texts?

LegacyUser

He hasn't "made" you feel guilty, you've allowed yourself to feel guilty. Start taking control of your feelings instead of being a hostage to them. Go to counselling to get a handle on whatever hangover you have from the relationship, don't respond to a single contact from him, start again in control of how you'll feel in the future.

Buckfast W

Hurt1234 wrote: »

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I truly believe he is just trying to hurt me, what annoys me is that he is winning! I blocked him on Whatsapp etc and deleted his number, can you block texts?

You should be able to, my phone is a Samsung and it gives you the option of marking certain numbers as spam so u don't recieve the messages, u can do the same with calls and add him to the blocked list.

Tilly

Yup on iphones you can block numbers.

batmanrobin

Hurt1234 wrote: »

Thanks for your reply. Yeah I truly believe he is just trying to hurt me, what annoys me is that he is winning! I blocked him on Whatsapp etc and delted his number, can you block texts?

If you have an iPhone you just need to go into contacts and select their name and when that opens at the end it gives you the option to "block this caller". Just select that and it's blocked. This means he won't be able to ring you either.