Confidence?? help

karen29070

I'm looking for some tips/advice on how to build self confidence, mine is at rock bottom & always has been. I cannot afford counselling & i'm having trouble accepting myself the way i am.

alias06

I know how tough it is as I've been in the same situation. It is really difficult. The only advice I can give you is to surround yourself with good friends, and if anyone is being unkind to you shut them out of your life. Maybe tell a family member or friend that you are struggling. Avoid alcohol. Have you tried going on a few dates? This can boost self confidence.

Rachiee

+1 for avoiding alcohol.
You really need to work on your self talk (that little voice inside your head) if you cant afford counselling aware have some online self help that might work. In general try to notice when you are talking to yourself harshly and challenge whatever the negative assertion is with logic.
Make a list of anything that you see as your good qualities. If you cant think of any try to imagine what a friend or family member might say.
Look up positve affirmations pick a few you like (and i know this sounds silly but) read them aloud to yourself when looking in the mirror.
Do some voluntary work
Exercise
Find something youre good at -dancing singing sport etc and take it up as a hobby. Look back at things you enjoyed when younger.

These are just a few things that have worked for other people i lnow some of them are tedious and easier said than done but are worth a try as it can be really quite miserable living with low confidence best of luck.

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karen29070

Thanks guys. I really need to do something about this cause people are walking all over me. I am so easily intimidated by people it's embarassing at this stage. I don't drink at all. I have recently joined a gym. I feel so self consious i cannot even describe it but i'm doing it. I'm not hiding away.

I just feel i'm getting nowhere & need to do something else.....