Your judjment?

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domenica 17 luglio 2016
21:51

The_Honeybadger

You need to cut this man out of your life. He is using you for sex and does not respect you. Sorry to be blunt, but there is no other conclusion to be drawn from what you have posted. Delete his number from your phone and move on.

LegacyUser

I was with a man like that.

I developed feelings for him quite quickly - and he did for me. But he always maintained that he could never be in a monotonous relationship and so he slept with other people during our relationship. I pretended I was OK with this and I really never was. I never was with anyone else for a long time then once I did sleep with someone else. He asked me later on in the relationship if I had been with anyone else and I said I had. He took it very badly.

He wanted the rules to apply to him and not to me. It took me a long time to see it and I was a fool to ever think it would work.

You've nothing to feel guilty about. The man you're seeing is a piece of ****. He knows how to play you and he's playing other people the same way. It's a control thing. He wants you to be his alone but he wants to be able to do as he pleases.

You haven't done a thing wrong. He's the the asshole in all of this. He was never going to give you what you wanted. Never.

Big Bag of Chips

Just remember ALL THE TIME you've been sleeping with him, he's been sleeping with others too. ALL THE TIME. Possibly even the same night as he's slept with you. He is playing on your feelings for him. He keeps coming back because he knows he can get sex from you with zero commitment.

You are going to have to be the strong one here. You are going to have to be the one that ends it. And make sure he has no way of contacting you. Block everything. If he contacts you you will sleep with him. He gets what he wants, and you get nothing.

Have some respect for yourself and stop begging a man who has made it clear he feels nothing for you.

Yellow pack crisps

First things first. Why do you neither like or respect yourself? Answer those questions and then you will get the answer you are looking for.

FortySeven

You have nothing to feel guilty about. Move on.
If you're looking for more, find it somewhere else.

bonyn

Yellow pack crisps wrote: »

First things first. Why do you neither like or respect yourself? Answer those questions and then you will get the answer you are looking for.

+1

Op, that guy sounds horrible. He probably is jealous that you were with someone else, but he doesnt love you and never will.

You are spinning yourself tales. Have some respect for yourself. Stop getting drunk, stop sleeping around, and look for a nice guy to start a relationship with. One who takes you out, has common interests, and isnt just using you.

Leafchick

Honestly from what you've said here it sounds to me like he'll always use that as an excuse not to trust you so that he'll never have to make a commitment to you and you're in the position now where you feel like you have something to make up to him so he has you right where he wants you, where he can continue to go back to you for sex whenever he wants.

leggo

Can I give you some blunt, perhaps eye-opening advice? This might make you feel like **** a bit now but it's helped other women I know in situations like this knowing how men really think.

Back in my single days when I was young and dumb and disrespectful, my friends and I had a term for women who did what you're doing. We called them '**** me til you love me' girls, in that they'd give you everything you wanted in the hope that one day they'd be your only option when you wanted intimacy. And it never, EVER worked...because we didn't respect the women enough to actually even consider them girlfriend material. We'd see it as us 'settling' because these women didn't seem to even respect themselves in demanding for more, and guys will always want someone who'll respect themselves and make us respect them and fall into line.

Personally, I tried to align this with the shred of morality I had by being open with them from the get-go (like this guy is being with you in saying to do your own thing), but I'd still call them whenever I wanted sex and be nice to them even though I could tell they were reading more into it than I was. And I was one of the nice ones. My friends would've (some still will) said anything they wanted to hear and led them on as far as they'd allow themselves to be while doing what they wanted and laughing at them behind their backs.

I'm a grown man now and pretty embarrassed and ashamed of that carry on, but it happened. And still happens. And that's what's happening here. This guy is never going to love or respect you. And he's probably laughing at you behind your back. You deserve better than that.