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Getting married, your getting a ducking.

  • 09-07-2016 10:26pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,975 ✭✭✭


    Fella on Facebook currently in hiding because of this with people writing messages on his wall telling him he'll be 'got'.

    Basically what this involves is the Bride and Groom to be being tied to a car trailer, pelted with a disgusting concoction of eggs, flour and anything people can find to make a slop and driven around the locality in the trailer followed by a trail of cars beeping their horns for the purpose of humiliation.

    Is this a Donegal thing or does it happen anywhere else?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,297 ✭✭✭Son0vagun


    You lost me at Facebook


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 31,152 ✭✭✭✭KERSPLAT!


    Have they never heard of a bitta the auld confetti, no? Jaysus.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,955 ✭✭✭Conall Cernach


    I've seen it happen in Monaghan, if that's any help OP.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,681 ✭✭✭Fleawuss


    Donegal but can't you hear the braying: we went viral.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,296 ✭✭✭FortySeven


    Common in the Scottish highlands in the 80s. Not sure if it still goes on.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,845 ✭✭✭timthumbni


    Fella on Facebook currently in hiding because of this with people writing messages on his wall telling him he'll be 'got'.

    Basically what this involves is the Bride and Groom to be being tied to a car trailer, pelted with a disgusting concoction of eggs, flour and anything people can find to make a slop and driven around the locality in the trailer followed by a trail of cars beeping their horns for the purpose of humiliation.

    Is this a Donegal thing or does it happen anywhere else?

    It happens in NI as well. A few very serious incidents where things have went badly wrong have maybe lessened it a bit over recent years. Being dunked in a barrel of water that turned out to be some corrosive chemical was one that springs to mind.

    Even birthday boys used to get "done" sometimes. I warned my mates off this in no uncertain terms.

    Being tied up and humiliated is not something I would consider fun. I wouldn't do it to someone else so wouldn't expect them to do it to me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,975 ✭✭✭Cherry Blossom


    Never understood it myself. Horrible thing to do to your family and friends. My brother is getting married in September, he's sure to put up a hell of a fight if the hoards descend.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,156 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Must be an Ulster thing.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,059 ✭✭✭✭Spanish Eyes


    Just elope somewhere warm and romantic, and TELL NO ONE.

    When you get back you can put those who would have organised something like this in the trailer.

    And laugh. ha ha.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,891 ✭✭✭prinzeugen


    FortySeven wrote: »
    Common in the Scottish highlands in the 80s. Not sure if it still goes on.

    It happened on the school bus home when you let slip it was your birthday..

    Never seen it happen for a wedding! Maybe us in the central belt/ borders are more mature..


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭selastich2


    I never seen it happen around these parts, but then again we don't get married when we're 10 either


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,379 ✭✭✭donegaLroad


    Yes, I have heard of this malarkey happening with the trailer alright, although I have never witnessed it. I think it happens more in the north of the county though..

    There was an incident on a stag party a few years ago, involving a group of revellers who inserted an air hose into the back-passage of the groom-to-be, severely rupturing his lower intestine.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,296 ✭✭✭FortySeven


    prinzeugen wrote: »
    It happened on the school bus home when you let slip it was your birthday..

    Never seen it happen for a wedding! Maybe us in the central belt/ borders are more mature..

    Saw it in Nielston too. Just outside Glasgow. Would have been 83-84.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,845 ✭✭✭timthumbni


    Yes, I have heard of this malarkey happening with the trailer alright, although I have never witnessed it. I think it happens more in the north of the county though..

    There was an incident on a stag party a few years ago, involving a group of revellers who inserted an air hose into the back-passage of the groom-to-be, severely rupturing his lower intestine.

    I remember this one too. The serious incidents mostly involve various factory workers who use their tools of the trade to humiliate people but often end with tragic consequences.

    I don't even like the groom being given the bumps at the end of a wedding party as often with the amount of drink taken I've saw grooms landing on their moggy on the dance floor.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,022 ✭✭✭jamesbere


    Yes, I have heard of this malarkey happening with the trailer alright, although I have never witnessed it. I think it happens more in the north of the county though..

    There was an incident on a stag party a few years ago, involving a group of revellers who inserted an air hose into the back-passage of the groom-to-be, severely rupturing his lower intestine.

    Why I'm God's name would someone do this, you can do some serious damage to a person.

    Baffling, truly baffling.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,845 ✭✭✭timthumbni


    jamesbere wrote: »
    Why I'm God's name would someone do this, you can do some serious damage to a person.

    Baffling, truly baffling.

    I assume because when the drinks in, the wits go out. Strapping someone to a trailer naked isn't exactly safety conscious either.

    I assume it's the "craic".

    Bullying is the word I would use. Or certainly a form of it. If you tied up someone else then you would be doing time. Ridiculous practise.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,379 ✭✭✭donegaLroad


    jamesbere wrote: »
    Why I'm God's name would someone do this, you can do some serious damage to a person.

    Baffling, truly baffling.

    lack of intelligence + alcohol


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,201 ✭✭✭ongarboy


    timthumbni wrote: »
    I remember this one too. The serious incidents mostly involve various factory workers who use their tools of the trade to humiliate people but often end with tragic consequences.

    I don't even like the groom being given the bumps at the end of a wedding party as often with the amount of drink taken I've saw grooms landing on their moggy on the dance floor.

    I think there has been a culture shift around pranks in general. Years ago (up to the 1990s I would say) it was standard for stag parties, birthdays, your last day in a job etc for all sorts of shenanigans that was considered acceptable as it was "only a laugh" whereas now such antics would be deemed harassment. I remember being at a 21st back in the 90s where the birthday boy was stripped naked at a house party and held down and had crap like the OP mentioned thrown at him (everyone was drunk of course and thought it was hilarious). Maybe the lack of smartphones made people bored??

    It's funny you mention the bumps as that was a standard torment years ago for birthdays, weddings, stags etc years ago but I believe many young people don't even know what the bumps are. I had a recent landmark birthday and my older friends and relatives at my party decided it would be hilarious to give me the bumps, something I hadn't received in years!:eek::eek: When I was finally let down after the last bump without injury thankfully, a few of the younger guests asked me afterwards why I was being tossed in the air as they hadn't a clue what the bumps were. Changing times!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,691 ✭✭✭failinis


    Happened to my cousin last year (Derry) and know of almost a dozen in past 2yr or so.

    Some go onto pretty sketchy grounds of what is acceptable and not though.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 284 ✭✭Its dead Jim


    Spent most of my life there and have never heard of it.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,685 ✭✭✭✭NIMAN


    Used to see these often maybe up to a decade ago, haven't seen one since.

    Think they have all but stopped.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,475 ✭✭✭Elliott S


    I remember in the '90s, some neighbours of ours asking us to mind their car at our house for the day so that it wouldn't get covered in lipstick and rubbish and other crap. Remember when wedding guests used to mess with the bride's and groom's car(s) back in the recent past? Why? Just why?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,129 ✭✭✭R P McMurphy


    ongarboy wrote: »
    I think there has been a culture shift around pranks in general. Years ago (up to the 1990s I would say) it was standard for stag parties, birthdays, your last day in a job etc for all sorts of shenanigans that was considered acceptable as it was "only a laugh" whereas now such antics would be deemed harassment. I remember being at a 21st back in the 90s where the birthday boy was stripped naked at a house party and held down and had crap like the OP mentioned thrown at him (everyone was drunk of course and thought it was hilarious). Maybe the lack of smartphones made people bored??

    It's funny you mention the bumps as that was a standard torment years ago for birthdays, weddings, stags etc years ago but I believe many young people don't even know what the bumps are. I had a recent landmark birthday and my older friends and relatives at my party decided it would be hilarious to give me the bumps, something I hadn't received in years!:eek::eek: When I was finally let down after the last bump without injury thankfully, a few of the younger guests asked me afterwards why I was being tossed in the air as they hadn't a clue what the bumps were. Changing times!

    The bumps in primary school were particularly vicious as getting thrown up in the air was one thing, on the way back down people were met with an avalanche of boots to the back


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    The lack of creativity around the whole stag/hen/wedding thing is consistently breathtaking. And don't get me started on the repetitiveness of every wedding speech...

    Ducking was a common punishment, along with the pillory, across western Europe in the Middle Ages. Women who had committed "sins" and were suspected of witchcraft were ducked as a form of public humiliation. Common criminals and weights and measures shysters in the market were also humiliated similarly.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 93,567 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight


    misread it as Getting married, your getting a duckling.

    Disappointed


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,521 ✭✭✭✭mansize


    misread it as Getting married, your getting a duckling.

    Disappointed

    Yeah, I was like "is it some Chinese tradition"

    This ducking thing seems moronic, but that what happens from years of cousins marrying I suppose...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,370 ✭✭✭GAAman


    NIMAN wrote: »
    Used to see these often maybe up to a decade ago, haven't seen one since.

    Think they have all but stopped.

    I'm in Derry eleven years and I've seen loads. In fact one time they pulled in and invited passers by to pelt the couple with eggs and flour


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 14,521 ✭✭✭✭mansize


    GAAman wrote: »
    I'm in Derry eleven years and I've seen loads. In fact one time they pulled in and invited passers by to pelt the couple with eggs and flour

    The craic lads... The buses mustn't go by where they live...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,891 ✭✭✭prinzeugen


    FortySeven wrote: »
    Saw it in Nielston too. Just outside Glasgow. Would have been 83-84.

    It happened on the school bus I had they joys of using in Fife around 91-92.

    It was always the kids with better off parents that did it as well. Stopped when the school got hit for the cleaning bill for 7 double deckers in one term!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,194 ✭✭✭foxy farmer


    Ducking was a common punishment, along with the pillory, across western Europe in the Middle Ages. Women who had committed "sins" and were suspected of witchcraft were ducked as a form of public humiliation. Common criminals and weights and measures shysters in the market were also humiliated similarly.

    Sounds like a great idea as a form of punishment for some of the crimes that people get off so leniently with. If those that make the news with 70 previous convictions got a ducking every time they were caught by the cops they might change their tune.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,556 ✭✭✭groucho marx


    Quack


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