Purchasing sexual products

Gael23

Thought here would be the best place to ask this.
Is there a way to buy lube, condoms etc discreetly? I always find this quite embarrassing.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Online dude. Loads of places, just make sure to choose a reputable one.

milehip

I'm sure you could order online,if you're not in a rush.

fleet

It's just something we need to get over.
It's just sex, and the person selling you the jonnys and lube is only standing there because his/her parents rode each other... and probably more than once!

seamus

Supermarket + self-checkout.

Nobody cares mate, really.

I would be of the opinion that if you don't have the ability to suck it up and buy condoms, then you don't have the maturity to do the thing they're needed for

cruizer101

Yeah whatever about buying stuff for bondage or that, condoms and lube just go to chemist at the end of the day all adults have sex its perfectly natural.

If you want to go online http://www.sexsiopa.ie/ is an irish sex shop website, support local business and that and they do discreet deliveries, free to parcel motel too I think.

eviltwin

It's no different to buying any other product. You could do the online thing but imo I think you should work on buying them over the counter. Nobody will care, they have seen it all before.

Walter H Price

Get yourself on to Bonadara man , all the johnny's lube and sex toys your heart desires with 0 embarrassment or awkward eye contact with an actual person , u just get it all in a non descript brown bow. There have been plenty of days were I've had a box full of naughtiness delivered to the office and no-ones been any the wiser.

Alternatively buy your johnny's out of a machine in the jax in just about any pub or Tesco online shopping also a winner :P happy hunting

smash

It's just a few condoms and lube, there's nothing to be embarrassed about. I was expecting this thread to be about rubber fannies or something.

JinkyJackson

Its much less embarrassing to buy a condom than a pregnancy test man, Just do it. Go to a super market and go to a till with a man working if it makes you more comfortable. Have fun!

jackofalltrades

Absolutley NSFW!

http://www.lovehoney.eu/

You'll get a much better range and quality for cheaper prices, than in the likes of your local pharmacy or supermarket.
There's a whole other world out there than just the usually basic Durex fare that we get over here.

Gael23

Problem with those sites is you have to order so much for free delivery. I'm mostly solo so usually just use lube

mzungu

Get them in the supermarket OP. Nobody will mind.

I am with the people who say just go for it, the people on the cash desk simply do not care. They have seen it so many times before it barely registers as a thought to them.

And I say that as someone who worked so much behind a counter during college (to fund my way) that I used to _look_ for things in a customer's shopping basket to amuse myself internally with. And even then sexual products in isolation were so mundane as to be useless to me.

What I would look for is amusing combinations of products that I could invent a comical explanation for. Condoms? Boring as hell. Did not even register. Someone who was buying condoms - lube - carrots - courgettes - and bananas however - now _that_ my mind could work with. Or the guy who once bought condoms and an "Im Sorry" card from Hallmark at the same time. I really really had to try hard not to ask for the back ground on that one. Or was there no back ground - he just expected to perform really really badly.

One favourite was the guy who bought only two things - flavoured lube - and a packet of the LARGE dried cylindrical shaped pasta. Was it to help him eat it dry or to help him copulate with some of them - I will never know.

Outlaw Pete

Surprised at many of the replies. Yeah, of course there is nothing to be embarrassed about and of course the OP should just go buy whatever he wants, whenever he wants, and not give two fcuks.

However, lets not pretend that there isn't a stigma around men buying sexual items as there undoubtedly is. There is a reason that mainstream sex shops for women can be found on major high streets in the world, yet those aimed at men are down dingy backstreets. Hell, women can buy vibrators in chemist shops. I doubt we'll be seeing fleshlights, let alone rubber pussys, stocked in them anytime soon.

Personally I would suggest Amazon.co.uk. There's not much they don't have and delivery is usually quite fast and mostly free.

newacc2015

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Surprised at many of the replies. Yeah, of course there is nothing to be embarrassed about and of course the OP should just go buy whatever he wants, whenever he wants, and not give two fcuks.

However, lets not pretend that there isn't a stigma around men buying sexual items as there undoubtedly is. There is a reason that mainstream sex shops for women can be found on major high streets in the world, yet those aimed at men are down dingy backstreets. Hell, women can buy vibrators in chemist shops. I doubt we'll be seeing fleshlights, let alone rubber pussys, stocked in them anytime soon.

Personally I would suggest Amazon.co.uk. There's not much they don't have and delivery is usually quite fast and mostly free.

There is a stigma around men being responsible by having safe sex/preventing a pregnancy? It must be a generational thing, as I havent heard of anyone under 35 being anyway concerned with buying condoms. Sex shops for women on the high street tend to be very vanilla. You arent going to find anything mentioned in fifty shades of grey in them. If you are looking for more 'niche' things as a women, you will still have to go to a back alley sex shop.

Outlaw Pete

newacc2015 wrote: »

There is a stigma around men being responsible by having safe sex/preventing a pregnancy? It must be a generational thing, as I havent heard of anyone under 35 being anyway concerned with buying condoms.

Was more referring to lube, sex toys and stuff like that, not condoms.

Sex shops for women on the high street tend to be very vanilla. You arent going to find anything mentioned in fifty shades of grey in them. If you are looking for more 'niche' things as a women, you will still have to go to a back alley sex shop.

Fair enough but you can still buy vibrating dildos, remote control anal simulators and the like there. Show me where I can buy a fleshlight on O'Connell St or Henry St.

Anyway, my overall point is that for women, imo, there really isn't that much of stigma for seeking out and buying such things as there is for guys. Of course I appreciate the best way to make such stigmas a thing of the past to actively engage in said behavior (which is why I said I thought the OP should go and buy whatever the hell he wants to buy). I'm merely making the point that I understand where the OP is coming from giving how society tends to see men and women buying sexual products in a much different light.

A woman could laugh and joke about owning a vibrator in almost any social situation today and it would be seen as no big deal, good for her would generally be the response. Whereas a man suddenly mentioning that he has a blow up doll / rubber pussy would not nearly be seen in the same way at all. Most likely he would instantly been seen as a bit of an odd ball tbf. Hey, maybe I'm wrong, but I think we'll be waiting a hell of a long time before we see the likes of the Good Housekeeping doing a review on which plastic vaginas it is that their customers feel are the most realistic.

L1011

Lovehoney packaging is just plain brown boxes with LH Trading as the return address; can get pretty close to anything you want that way if you're too embarrassed to go into somewhere physical like Basic Instincts.

smash

Groupon constantly does deals on condoms

Dial Hard

Outlaw Pete wrote:

However, lets not pretend that there isn't a stigma around men buying sexual items as there undoubtedly is. There is a reason that mainstream sex shops for women can be found on major high streets in the world, yet those aimed at men are down dingy backstreets. Hell, women can buy vibrators in chemist shops. I doubt we'll be seeing fleshlights, let alone rubber pussys, stocked in them anytime soon.

Ah here, he's talking about lube and condoms. Stigma around men buying these me eye.

anothernight

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Fair enough but you can still buy vibrating dildos, remote control anal simulators and the like there. Show me where I can buy a fleshlight on O'Connell St or Henry St.

Isn't there a sex shop on the quays in Dublin?


EDIT: Googled it. It's on Wellington Quay, and yeah, they sell fleshlights and fleshjacks apparently.

H3llR4iser

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Was more referring to lube, sex toys and stuff like that, not condoms.

Fair enough but you can still buy vibrating dildos, remote control anal simulators and the like there. Show me where I can buy a fleshlight on O'Connell St or Henry St.

Anyway, my overall point is that for women, imo, there really isn't that much of stigma for seeking out and buying such things as there is for guys. Of course I appreciate the best way to make such stigmas a thing of the past to actively engage in said behavior (which is why I said I thought the OP should go and buy whatever the hell he wants to buy). I'm merely making the point that I understand where the OP is coming from giving how society tends to see men and women buying sexual products in a much different light.

A woman could laugh and joke about owning a vibrator in almost any social situation today and it would be seen as no big deal, good for her would generally be the response. Whereas a man suddenly mentioning that he has a blow up doll / rubber pussy would not nearly be seen in the same way at all. Most likely he would instantly been seen as a bit of an odd ball tbf. Hey, maybe I'm wrong, but I think we'll be waiting a hell of a long time before we see the likes of the Good Housekeeping doing a review on which plastic vaginas it is that their customers feel are the most realistic.

Amazing that I actually managed to miss this!

To be honest, it's actually great that a point has been reached were women can actually openly talk about toys et all without being tarred with unfair assumptions; Why this doesn't happen yet, and likely will not happen anytime soon for men, it's mostly down to the perceived and real different access and attitude toward sex for the different genders.

Putting is in simple terms, the general consensus is that a woman doesn't have sex because she doesn't want to, either because she simply doesn't want it in that specific moment/time frame, or because there are no potential partners she deems suitable. She is ultimately in control, and using an "artificial aid" makes perfect sense in this scenario.

For men, it's different - the general idea wants every man to be a rabid animal ready to whip his "junk" out at the drop of a pin; the assumption is that a guy who doesn't have sex can't have it, because he isn't part of the pool of "suitable partners" of any woman. This infers there are one or more undesirable characteristics about the guy, generally questioning his "worth" as a human male, and most likely dumping him in the "creeps" pool. Hence, why nobody says "oh, I love my fleshlight!".

I always buy condoms with a grin on my face and a wink :pac:

Honestly, it's never been anything that's bothered me that much. Pharmacies and shops are fine for the likes of condoms, if you like Durex, which is usually what they have- or else their own brand, but if you want more variation, then you're going to have to go online.

I've never had an issue with buying anything sexual, even from sex shops, because there's nothing wrong with it and feeling embarrassed assumes that there is.

smash

H3llR4iser wrote: »

Hence, why nobody says "oh, I love my fleshlight!".

nsfw

CdeC

I order online in boots and collect at the store near me.
no problem just sign a receipt and off you go.
It's very handy and you can get all your pharmacy needs in one go

CdeC

I order online in boots and collect at the store near me.
no problem just sign a receipt and off you go.
It's very handy and you can get all your pharmacy needs in one go

irish_goat

seamus wrote: »

Supermarket + self-checkout.

The bigger packs of condoms and lube are kept in security boxes at my local Tesco so you'd be stuck waiting for the girl to come over and open it for you. :pac:

Calahonda52

irish_goat wrote: »

The bigger packs of condoms and lube are kept in security boxes at my local Tesco so you'd be stuck waiting for the girl to come over and open it for you. :pac:

Is it not the packs of bigger condoms....: certainly the case in my local parish hall shop.

NewsMeQuick

Outlaw Pete - I completely agree with you. And, I am under 35 as to the other users point.

Besides what's been said before, I'd say there could be a split down the extrovert/introvert line. If you're more introverted and private, you probably are far less likely to be running to the checkout with an arm full of condoms and lube with a happy face and a "bravado attitude".

I've also worked in retail in school/college and while I'd consider myself respectful of others, yes, you certainly do notice every purchase. Most things are unimportant, but a box of 50 condoms and 2 bottles of lube? It would be tricky to keep the reaction off my face. Ha!

And as for practical solution, yes, I used Amazon in the past too. I'd give the self-checkout a go too, maybe not at rush hour though.