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Falce domestic violence. Or what shall I do?

  • 12-06-2016 7:15pm
    #1
    Robert Tamm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    We got married in one of the Baltics states to ensure we get European marriage cert. But things at home didn't get better. I started to think about a divorce option. In March 2016 we had our usual fight. Screams, anger and disappointment were expressed in a very aggressive way from her side. But one day, then we reached a divorce conversation, she grabbed a knife from the kitchen. Luckily I only got a small injury, which is now just a scar reminding me about that crazy night. Not only she was threatening to kill me, but called local police looking for help from an "aggressive" husband. Unfortunately police trusted her words without paying much attention to the knife. The same night she moved out. Few days after I received a letter from local court with a provisional safety order against me.

    Since the first marriage, we were in the process of applying for her permanent residency in Ireland. It takes ages in Ireland and requires constant confirmation of healthy relationship between the parties. Few months after, in May 2016, she was close to get the residence card. So we had to confirm our relationship one more time in the Immigration. We weren’t living together since March and it wasn’t clear to me if we ever get a chance to build a healthy family. So we had a deal, she will withdraw the case from the court and I will confirm all in the Immigration. It was done the same week.

    But not the end yet, as the case is still on. Only few days after I found out about the Irish Law, which grants permanent residency in Ireland to all victims of domestic violence. How silly I was to trust her. It all started to be crystal clear.

    Now she doesn't want to withdraw the case as she's afraid "Irish courts will never believe her again". The court hearing will happen in July, where she will reconfirm that she is in danger and most likely court will grant her safety order against me. Based on this decision, she will reapply for her residence in Ireland. Which probably will be granted even if we divorce.

    All I want now is to finish this nightmare with the safety/barring order.


Comments

  • #2
    Pro Hoc Vice
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,087 ✭✭✭Pro Hoc Vice


    The right to retain EU Fam4 the marriage must last 3 years of which one must be in Ireland.

    Walk away from her deal with your own case and get a good solicitor then walk away.


  • #3
    Robert Tamm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭Robert Tamm


    Pro Hoc Vice wrote: »
    The right to retain EU Fam4 the marriage must last 3 years of which one must be in Ireland.

    Walk away from her deal with your own case and get a good solicitor then walk away.
    All I want is to withdraw the domestic violence case and divorce peacefully. But accorting to her words, she won't withdraw, as she's afraid Irish courts will never believe her in future. Not sure if that's true, but sounds that she want's to put me down.


  • #4
    galah
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,215 ✭✭✭galah


    Make sure that you can actually get a quick divorce - as you might be subject to irish divorce law if your main residence is here. (Just something that popped into my head as we got married in Germany, and we were jjoking at the time that we would also then avail of a German divorce - which was rejected by the rehistrar with the argument that we were living in ireland so irish law applies...). Best of luck.


  • #5
    Robert Tamm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭Robert Tamm


    galah wrote: »
    Make sure that you can actually get a quick divorce - as you might be subject to irish divorce law if your main residence is here. (Just something that popped into my head as we got married in Germany, and we were jjoking at the time that we would also then avail of a German divorce - which was rejected by the rehistrar with the argument that we were living in ireland so irish law applies...). Best of luck.
    Thanks for the adise. It's another challenge I have.


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