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Feeling a bit lost

  • 07-06-2016 9:03pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I'm feeling pretty crap the last few weeks and it has me questioning everything. Usually feelings like this go away but I've felt like this a few months now and I feel I need to try address it.

    On the outside I would appear happy, successful, fit and healthy, well traveled, great career etc. People often say to me "you've such a great life" etc yes it looks like that on the outside - but i feel I don't, I just feel empty. I appreciate what I have but it hasn't made me happy.

    I just don't know where to go next to achieve happiness. A lot of friends are settling down and marrying with kids etc, i don't want this. I don't know what i need to aim for next and its freaking me out a bit, I'm feeling is this it for me now. Just work hard, travel, party on weekends and go again??

    Has ever felt like this and how did you address it?


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  • #2
    Faith
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 30,661 Mod ✭✭✭✭Faith


    What are the things that you enjoy doing in life?


  • #3
    4Ad
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,765 ✭✭✭4Ad


    Hi, have you a partner ? Are you possibly lonely ?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    4Ad wrote: »
    Hi, have you a partner ? Are you possibly lonely ?


    I don't have a partner and I don't know if I really want one. I've been in a few ltr over the years and they usually just stressed me out. I love being able to do what I want when I want without worrying about someone else. I'm very independent. I have great friends so I don't think its lonliness


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi Op,

    You say a lot of your friends are settling down - would you happen to be in your late 20's / early 30's? Is it possible your friends aren't as available as they used to be or caught up a bit in their "serious" relationships?

    Look at what they are "aiming for next" - it's clearly relationships, marriage, mortgage, kids etc... and all those responsibilities will mean they won't be wondering "is this it" about their lifestyle. They will have plenty to keep them occupied on that treadmill.

    But you don't think that whole relationship thing is for you. Good for you OP - it's important to be true to yourself. I don't think you have to trade your independence to have a meaningful life - but I think your "is this it" thoughts suggest you need to add a bit more to your routine to make it more meaningful. Why not aim for more study, voluntary work, spirituality, pets etc... especially things that help you to give something back for those wonderful gifts you're very fortunate have in life.


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