Gave a guy my number

Makapakka

As title says I gave my number to a guy who worked in the shop near my old house last summer.. he never text me n that was that. I moved houses but ironically am bsck working in the area of said shop and really want a cup of their coffee and one of their salads..but am way too nervous to go in. Am I being utterly ridiculous over thinking it? Thought I'd ask in here as I'd get more replies!!!

everlast75

Makapakka wrote: »

As title says I gave my number to a guy who worked in the shop near my old house last summer.. he never text me n that was that. I moved houses but ironically am bsck working in the area of said shop and really want a cup of their coffee and one of their salads..but am way too nervous to go in. Am I being utterly ridiculous over thinking it? Thought I'd ask in here as I'd get more replies!!!

Wear a grocho Marx disguise, lower your voice and strut into the shop - problem solved!

Lithium93_

Maybe he just wasn't interested at the time IDK, and yes you are kinda over thinking it, hell the guy might not even be working there anymore.

Winterlong

I would not worry about it. Chances are he will not remember you. If he does then it is HE who should feel awkward, not you.

The King of Moo

Go in, be grand.

I'm more concerned with figuring out if that situation is truly ironic.
You could argue it is in the sense that by moving away you expect to be away from the shop, but the opposite is the case. But then you're only near the shop because of work, not moving, so there's no direct causal link between moving away and being near the shop, so it'd be a bit of a stretch, but you might get away with it!

Hey, an interesting discussion on defining irony might be a good way to rebreak the ice!

Or just put on a hat, keep your head down and make a funny voice so he doesn't recognise you, whatever works for you.

Bob24

Makapakka wrote: »

Am I being utterly ridiculous over thinking it?

I don't mean to make fun or anything, but to answer your question in one word: yes.

What could possibly happen?

Badly Drunk Boy

Yes, you are being ridiculous. Coffee is terrible stuff so get a bottle of Oasis (citrus) instead. Very thirst-quenching on a day like today!

HensVassal

Makapakka wrote: »

As title says I gave my number to a guy who worked in the shop near my old house last summer.. he never text me n that was that. I moved houses but ironically am bsck working in the area of said shop and really want a cup of their coffee and one of their salads..but am way too nervous to go in. Am I being utterly ridiculous over thinking it? Thought I'd ask in here as I'd get more replies!!!

There IS the possibility that he lost the number and has spent the last year kicking himself and hoping you'll walk back into the shop and into his life again one day. Hell he might even be hovering around the shop on his day off just in case you return when he's not working.

Tombi!

Go in. Demand to talk to him.
Pull a knife on him and ask him why he didn't call you.

Then proceed to stab him till he gives a reasonable answer to your very, very reasonable method of interrogation, er, I mean polite question.

lawred2

Makapakka wrote: »

As title says I gave my number to a guy who worked in the shop near my old house last summer.. he never text me n that was that. I moved houses but ironically am bsck working in the area of said shop and really want a cup of their coffee and one of their salads..but am way too nervous to go in. Am I being utterly ridiculous over thinking it? Thought I'd ask in here as I'd get more replies!!!

erm yeah you're over thinking it

AnonoBoy

Bob24 wrote: »

I don't mean to make fun or anything, but to answer your question in one word: yes.

What could possibly happen?

She could die of the embarrassment.

I know a girl from Tralee who once had went out with a ladder in her tights and she saw a guy she fancied and wasn't looking where she was going so she fell down an open manhole and was stuck down there. She nearly died of the embarrassment but luckily she had that ladder in her tights so she was able to climb out.

kneemos

Is Coffee an innuendo and is salad a suggestion?

JakeBell

Go in and say "Oh hey. Wow, you still work here?". It'll f**k with his head a bit. Last time you wanted him, now you're looking down on him.
Everyone knows mind games are the best games.

gramar

Tell him you're pregnant with his child.

osarusan

Last summer? What are the chances of him working there, or remembering you if he does?

If he does remember, what are the chances of him saying anything about it?

Mr. CooL ICE

gramar wrote: »

Tell him you're pregnant with his child.

Football under the jumper for added effect

AnonoBoy

Nicolas Cage wrote: »

Football under the jumper for added effect

At least if he doesn't buy it she can always invite him out for a kick around.

All she'll need is another jumper for that second goalpost.

diomed

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPztb3ccaX0

JeffKenna

Men - bast*rds the lot of them

groucho marx

everlast75 wrote: »

Wear a grocho Marx disguise, lower your voice and strut into the shop - problem solved!

I gave him my number too...

CarrickMcJoe

Make your own sambos at home and take a bottle of tae with ya...... don't have to see him and save money!

suicide_circus

gramar wrote: »

Tell him you're pregnant with his child.

The best part is that it's a full year since they last saw eachother, let alone they didn't get jiggy

OldGoat

Wear your 'lucky' knickers just in case.

anonydubmous

Hmm

Winterlong

anonydubmous wrote: »

Hmm

Well said.

Ask him to give it back

HornyDevil

You're obviously frothing for the guy so make it a cappuccino when you go in. As for the salad, give it a miss - the guy sounds like a wet lettuce what with turning down the probability of a ride.

MEGA BRO WOLF 5000

AnonoBoy wrote: »

She could die of the embarrassment.

I know a girl from Tralee who once had went out with a ladder in her tights and she saw a guy she fancied and wasn't looking where she was going so she fell down an open manhole and was stuck down there. She nearly died of the embarrassment but luckily she had that ladder in her tights so she was able to climb out.

Then what happened?

ToddyDoody

Remember the old maxim:

Strong minds think in terms of concepts, mediocre minds in terms of events, poor minds in terms of people.

It might well be embarrassing to be the supposed reject heading in but this stuff is piddle and crap in the grand scheme of things?

blueb

coffee and salad.. what a horrendous combination.. thats the only thing you should be embarrassed about.
Maybe he wasn't interested but i guarantee you he was flattered, who dosnt like compliments.
Dont b worried

Cathy.C

Go in, have one of their gorgeous salads, and coffees and do a Meg Ryan.

Then wink at him, say you have my number and walk out.

blueb

Cathy.C wrote: »

Go in, have one of their gorgeous salads, and coffees and do a Meg Ryan.

Then wink at him, say you have my number and walk out.

sorry but thats horrible advice... ud look like a crazy person, especially if the guy dosnt remember her

Pablodreamsofnew

God this is going to sound harsh but if he didn't bother calling you, doubt very much he'll remember you. Fair play to you taking the chance though.. I admire that.

wakka12

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

God this is going to sound harsh but if he didn't bother calling you, doubt very much he'll remember you. Fair play to you taking the chance though.. I admire that.

I don't think its that hard to remember somebody, even if you took only a vague interest in them at the time..
I remember practically everybody Ive ever met if I saw them and we spoke a little and I knew their name.

The One Doctor

The guy could have a girlfriend or wife or he could be gay. Lots of reasons why he didn't call.

Miss Demeanour

The One Doctor wrote: »

The guy could have a girlfriend or wife or he could be gay. Lots of reasons why he didn't call.

A simple courtesy message would have done then.

wakka12

The One Doctor wrote: »

The guy could have a girlfriend or wife or he could be gay. Lots of reasons why he didn't call.

Why would he accept the number if he was gay?
Wait did you two talk at all or did you just leave the number and thats it..?

The One Doctor

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

A simple courtesy message would have done then.

Men don't do that.

wakka12

The One Doctor wrote: »

Men don't do that.

Yeh it'd be so awkward to call somebody to tell them you weren't interested

Miss Demeanour

The One Doctor wrote: »

Men don't do that.

You speak for all of them do you?

Miss Demeanour

wakka12 wrote: »

Yeh it'd be so awkward to call somebody to tell them you weren't interested

A text would do.....awkward no.....respectful yes.

jamesbere

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

You speak for all of them do you?

He's does, he was voted as our representative at the agm earlier in the year

Miss Demeanour

jamesbere wrote: »

He's does, he was voted as our representative at the agm earlier in the year

Well that's ok then......carry on....

Pablodreamsofnew

no way would I text if wasn't interested (I'm a girl) it leave open a dialogue and maybe an annoying stalker as she would of then had his number. Just because someone gives you their number doesn't mean you are obligated to do anything!

I would not remember someones face for years ago.

Winterlong

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

I would not remember someones face for years ago.

I would struggle to remember someones face from yesterday to be honest.

Miss Demeanour

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

no way would I text if wasn't interested (I'm a girl) it leave open a dialogue and maybe an annoying stalker as she would of then had his number. Just because someone gives you their number doesn't mean you are obligated to do anything!

I would not remember someones face for years ago.

You see I think it is just a simple text. It took someone guts to do that and just a 'hey....thanks but I am with someone/gay/like dating inanimate objects/hell I just don't want to'.......takes 10 secs of your time.......just wouldn't hurt someone.....thats just me.....

Pablodreamsofnew

Winterlong wrote: »

I would struggle to remember someones face from yesterday to be honest.

Same.

Pablodreamsofnew

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

You see I think it is just a simple text. It took someone guts to do that and just a 'hey....thanks but I am with someone/gay/like dating inanimate objects/hell I just don't want to'.......takes 10 secs of your time.......just wouldn't hurt someone.....thats just me.....

but then the person has your number? Nay he never gave her any indication that he did like her and she gave her number. I appauld her but expectant a reply? nay

Miss Demeanour

MrsYelnekoff wrote: »

but then the person has your number? Nay he never gave her any indication that he did like her and she gave her number. I appauld her but expectant a reply? nay

Hide it? .....just I couldn't but I wasn't chosen as this years rep like the one doctor was so just my personal opinion.

wakka12

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

You see I think it is just a simple text. It took someone guts to do that and just a 'hey....thanks but I am with someone/gay/like dating inanimate objects/hell I just don't want to'.......takes 10 secs of your time.......just wouldn't hurt someone.....thats just me.....

Why would it hurt less if he sent a text saying he wasnt interested? Pretty sure he got the same message across by never interacting with her!

Miss Demeanour

wakka12 wrote: »

Why would it hurt less if he sent a text saying he wasnt interested? Pretty sure he got the same message across by never interacting with her!

Well......'no I'm not interested' next day would have not left the op in the position she is in since last Summer had he shown her that kindness.