One Night Stand or Potential Partner?!

Piggystardust

Hi Guys,

So I recently met a guy on a night out in town. I was pretty wasted and barely remember anything we talked about. We were mostly just dancing and at one stage he said I did a shot and started kissing another guy (classy, I know). He said at the moment he thought, right, I gotta get her home for her own good. I really was very wasted.

Anyway, he took me home in a taxi and said he wasn't expected anything but I'd sobered up a fair bit and we ended up having s*x. It was really good all things considered! Drunk, first time etc

Next morning wasn't at all awkward. We had breakfast and he left and I assumed that would be that. I didn't care. I've no issues whatsoever with one night stands once you're safe.

Anyway, he ended up messaging me a few days later saying he was in town (he's not from Dublin) and asked if I wanted to have dinner. We did and it was really so lovely to see him again especially soberly this time. WE had great s*x again and parted ways.

I really didn't think much off it though. I fancied it but kinda think, right or wrong, that one night stands tend to be just that. Relationships don't tend to form from them and I know alot of people, again for right or wrong, judge people who have casual sex and would never go out with them.

Long story short, we ended up spending the following weekend together. I went to his hometown and we had a fantastic weekend. I could feel myself start to fall for him though and it freaked me out a bit.

Situation now is, he's away for a few weeks and I can't stop thinking about him. I know it's just a crush but I feel like if I spend any more time with him it will develop into proper feelings for him. I guess I'm scared he won't like me back.

I don't really know what my question is really. I guess it's do you think it's possible to fall for someone so quickly? Also why can I not stop thinking about him!

We had a brief talk before he went away where we both said we'd just see how things go when he's back. He said he's not in love with me and the distance could be a problem (it's only 2 hours) but that it's rare to have such an amazing connection with someone and he had a great time with me.

My head is wrecked.

Anyone any advice? I'm trying so hard to just forget him. He's 38 btw so not a baby and really isn't into bull**** from what I can tell so far.

Thanks folks! :P

osarusan

You didn't mention anything about not looking for/not wanting a relationship at this point in your life (neither did he, by the sounds of it) so why not just give it a go and see what happens?

The worst thing that can happen is that you find out you're not right for each other and he's out of your life then anyway.

He's a guy you seem to like a lot, and he feels the same about you. They're positive things, so what are the negatives that are 'wrecking your head'?

Piggystardust

osarusan wrote: »

You didn't mention anything about not looking for/not wanting a relationship at this point in your life (neither did he, by the sounds of it) so why not just give it a go and see what happens?

The worst thing that can happen is that you find out you're not right for each other and he's out of your life then anyway.

He's a guy you seem to like a lot, and he feels the same about you. They're positive things, so what are the negatives that are 'wrecking your head'?

I do want a relationship and he told me he's over one nights stands too. I'd really like to give it a go. The brief conversation we had about us was a little confusing. He said he's not in love with me which I just felt was an unnecessary thing to say, I mean I'm not in love with him either.... yet!! He also said the distance could cause problems even though it's only 2 hours and that we're both very busy with a lot going on. On the other hand he said it was rare to have such an amazing connection with someone and that I'm gorgeous and he had a great weekend. We both agreed that we'd just wait and see when he gets back.

I've heard very little from him since he's been away but then I think to myself, well why would I. He's away. We barely know each other. I guess I'm overthinking it and convincing myself that he won't like me back.

Ahhh I'm such an over analysier (spell?) but I think it's cos I haven't liked somebody so much in years!!

beks101

How about you hold off on the sex next time you meet him and spend that time getting to know the guy, finding out about his interests and his family and his job and all that datey stuff that you tend to talk about when you're seeing someone new.

Not that sex so early on is necessarily a bad sign, but IME when it's so in-focus from Day One, it can leave little room for connection and bonding and learning about one another beyond wanting to rip each other's clothes off. It puts the focus primarily on lust, which doesn't exactly promote a relationship.

nikkibikki

The last one night stand I had was just over 12 years ago. We'll be married 5yrs this summer and we've 3 gorgeous children.

The distance thing will be manageable. If ye end up taking the moving in together step, a compromise can be reached. Like ye both move an hour away from where ye are and meet in the middle. Ye obviously have a spark so I say go for it! Life is too short!

Jack Killian

nikkibikki wrote: »

The last one night stand I had was just over 12 years ago. We'll be married 5yrs this summer and we've 3 gorgeous children.

The distance thing will be manageable. If ye end up taking the moving in together step, a compromise can be reached. Like ye both move an hour away from where ye are and meet in the middle. Ye obviously have a spark so I say go for it! Life is too short!

They've met what, 3 times ?

Bit premature to be thinking beyond enjoying each others' company for a few months, no ?

KikiDee

Hey OP,

Don't get too caught up in what is or isn't right. Relationships develop at each couple's pace. If you're happy and enjoying yourself, why not keep dong what you're doing? Ye both seem to like each other so best of luck to ye

suicide_circus

I'm together with my last one night stand nearly 5 years now.

Meauldsegosha

The cynic in me is telling me he is a player.

A stranger who you had just met decided to save a very drunk you from yourself and bring you home. You say you sobered up on the taxi ride home but unless the taxi ride was 4 hours long how sober could you have got really? He lives two hours away, a taxi is cheaper then a hotel!

The following weekend he is in Dublin again, needs somewhere to stay so gives you a shout. The next time you meet he tells you he is going away, you're gorgeous but he is not in love with you and citing the distance between you as a possible reason it won't work out. It's all too easy and convenient for him. I don't think you will be hearing from him again.

BTW I don't mean you are too easy and convenient, I'm talking abut the situation.

nikkibikki

Jack Killian wrote:

Bit premature to be thinking beyond enjoying each others' company for a few months, no ?

Of course, hence me using the phrase "end up" did you miss that bit? Just trying to make the point that the distance issue can be overcome if things progress!

Piggystardust

To be honest, I can see why you’d think that, especially the saving me and taking me home part but the next day
He told me that he’s just back in Ireland after living in the States for almost ten years (he had an American accent!).
He told me he was going back for a month to tie up loose ends, sell some stuff etc before moving back to Eire for good.

He has family who he’s close to in Dublin so he didn’t have to stay with me the next time he was up. We just get on really well.
I spend the next weekend in his hometown and met his auntie. We took some lovely photos and he put them on facebook.
I know that’s a silly trival thing but if he had a gf or was a player I don’t think he’d do that.

I like Beks101’s idea of keeping s*x off the cards for a while but that will be hard given that we’ll be sleeping in the same bed.
He could always come to Dublin and have dinner with me and then stay with his relations I guess!

He’s messaged a bit since being away (not much). I’m not going to contact him at all. If he gets in touch when he’s back, I’ll be delighted
But if he doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be. I just really like him and at 38 hope he’s not a player. I’m a few years younger than him
But can usually spot player types a mile off (I can be a bit of one myself!!).

At one point he said he doesn’t want a fwb situation so maybe we should try being friends but that we’d defo have to not drink or we’d rip
each others clothes off.

Confusing huh… and they say women are complicated!! :P

Jack Killian

nikkibikki wrote: »

Of course, hence me using the phrase "end up" did you miss that bit? Just trying to make the point that the distance issue can be overcome if things progress!

I saw that, but even "dating regularly" / going steady would involve "overcoming the distance".

Talking about moving in before they've even managed that much just struck me as odd, that's all.

I'd have viewed "sure the distance can be overcome by alternating who visits whom, or making a weekend of it" as far more appropriate for a (not-yet) couple who have met less than a handful of times.

Jack Killian

Piggystardust wrote: »

I just really like him and at 38 hope he’s not a player. I’m a few years younger than him
But can usually spot player types a mile off (I can be a bit of one myself!!).

He might be hoping the exact same thing!

Goose & gander, Piggy! Best of luck with it!

SarahMollie

I was at a wedding recently where the couple met on a one night stand. That doesnt mean this is destined for success and equally it doesnt mean that nothing can ever come from it.

I suggest you keep calm and distract yourself from thinking about this man until he returns. Once he's back, try to set up a normal proper date that doesnt revolve around sex (maybe a daytime activity) and see how that goes. Day dates are a great way of telling if a guy is interested in you for the right reasons.

Don't write him off because of how you met, but equally keep your wits about you and don't get too wrapped up in someone who you've met 3 times. Perspective!

Piggystardust

Haha.. Thanks Jack!

I'm a player really, I don't set out to hurt people or pretend to be something I'm not. I just mean when I'm single I play the field big time but once in a relationship, have never and would never cheat.

I have a high s*x drive and like one nights stands usually. I can very easily detach but this guy has gotten under my skin unexpectedly!

SarahMollie

Piggystardust wrote: »

He’s messaged a bit since being away (not much). I’m not going to contact him at all. If he gets in touch when he’s back, I’ll be delighted

When he messages you, I presume you're replying tho yeah? I get not wanting to be too proactive when he's away (which is good thinking by the way) but don't totally blank him, otherwise he might not contact you when he's home for that reason alone.

Stay in touch but keep it light.

Piggystardust

That's exactly what I'm doing Sarah thanks

ibarelycare

Sex isn't a bad word, you don't have to censor it OP

Piggystardust wrote: »

He’s messaged a bit since being away (not much). I’m not going to contact him at all. If he gets in touch when he’s back, I’ll be delighted
But if he doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be. I just really like him and at 38 hope he’s not a player. I’m a few years younger than him
But can usually spot player types a mile off (I can be a bit of one myself!!).

Why are you leaving all the contact up to him? Don't play these games. There's no harm in sending him a message to let him know you're thinking of him, if he's doing the same. He might be on holidays, but that doesn't mean the odd message is going to annoy him. He could very well be dying to hear from you, but doesn't want to be the one doing all the chasing.

Faith

I too married a one-night stand. We had a rocky start, with me not being terribly interested at first, then I was but he wasn't prepared to be exclusive for a while, then we were long distance. I'm pretty sure that, if I'd posted here then, I would have been told that he was a player and that we weren't right for each other (and it would have been a logical analysis). We even broke up for a while and supposedly moved on but that didn't last .

These situations aren't always clear-cut. Sometimes we start out with one intention, and end up somewhere totally different. But the journey is fun and I just encourage the OP to go along for the ride and enjoy it, however it works out .

Xterminator

the difference between a ONS and a relationship is time and effort.

give it some time and put in the effort and see where it goes. it doesn't require overthinking.

good luck

X

Texas Jack

Good Luck

Hope it works out for you

Irish_Elect_Eng

Meauldsegosha wrote: »

The cynic in me is telling me he is a player.

A stranger who you had just met decided to save a very drunk you from yourself and bring you home. You say you sobered up on the taxi ride home but unless the taxi ride was 4 hours long how sober could you have got really? He lives two hours away, a taxi is cheaper then a hotel!

The following weekend he is in Dublin again, needs somewhere to stay so gives you a shout. The next time you meet he tells you he is going away, you're gorgeous but he is not in love with you and citing the distance between you as a possible reason it won't work out. It's all too easy and convenient for him. I don't think you will be hearing from him again.

BTW I don't mean you are too easy and convenient, I'm talking abut the situation.

You're right, that is very cynical :-0 :-)

I have a wife and three kids and 15 years of a very happy marriage as a result of my last one night stand & her first and last one night stand :-)

It was also a long distance relationship initially. 3 dates in the first week, then one a month later in London where she was working, one 2 month later when she came back to visit family. Then every weekend for about a year when she moved back to Ireland and finally we moved in together when we finally ended up with jobs the same city.

I was lucky, I knew that we would end up together after our 4th date in London, I remember the moment specifically, justas she smiled in recognition when see saw me in the arrivals in Stansted.

As another poster said every relationship is different, pace of development, commitment levels, expectations, etc. Focus on getting to know one another and the relationship will either grow or wither organically, you cannot manufacture it to fit a preconceived idea.

Give it a chance.

Best of Luck...

Jack Killian

Faith wrote: »

These situations aren't always clear-cut. Sometimes we start out with one intention, and end up somewhere totally different. But the journey is fun and I just encourage the OP to go along for the ride and enjoy it, however it works out .

She did.... she's looking for advice on what to do next!

KikiDee

Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »

I was lucky, I knew that we would end up together after our 4th date in London, I remember the moment specifically, justas she smiled in recognition when see saw me in the arrivals in Stansted.

Awwwww!!! That's made me smile! Look at ya you lil cutie!!

Piggystardust

Thanks for all the replies guys. I sent him a silly message two days ago and no reply but I don't know if he's seen it or is using his irish phone.

Is it weird that I haven't heard from him at all aside from landed safely? My mates (mostly men) don't think it's weird and just think he'll message when he's back, why would he bother now kind of thing. I dunno. I feel really weird about this and I don't know why. I'm usually thick skinned but this is making me a little fragile:/

Jack Killian

Piggystardust wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies guys. I sent him a silly message two days ago and no reply but I don't know if he's seen it or is using his irish phone.

Is it weird that I haven't heard from him at all aside from landed safely? My mates (mostly men) don't think it's weird and just think he'll message when he's back, why would he bother now kind of thing. I dunno. I feel really weird about this and I don't know why. I'm usually thick skinned but this is making me a little fragile:/

Always the case when you stick your neck out a little.

But be yourself; you've made a move, which is something lots of women / girls won't do, and us guys have to do it every time. Even though we do, it stil doesn't get easier.

But you don't know him, so no need to be too invested just yet; just file it away as a nice future possibility until such time as either (a) he gets back to you or (b) he doesn't within a week - either way, while you may not gain anything, you won't have lost anything either, as long as you haven't wasted time overthinking it in the meantime.

Piggystardust

Quick update lads. Sent him a message last night just saying hey how things stateside?! He replied good.. busy packing so can't chat sorry. So there's my answer.
Least now I can forget about him and move on. You're never too busy if you like someone. You find five minutes to ask how they are but Nada. There was no I'm back in two weeks or how are you. Nothing. So I deleted his number and will move on!
If he does contact me in a few weeks I too will be too busy. Hurts a bit but obviously not meant to be. Thanks for all advice. Boards is great!

SarahMollie

Piggystardust wrote: »

Quick update lads. Sent him a message last night just saying hey how things stateside?! He replied good.. busy packing so can't chat sorry. So there's my answer.
Least now I can forget about him and move on. You're never too busy if you like someone. You find five minutes to ask how they are but Nada. There was no I'm back in two weeks or how are you. Nothing. So I deleted his number and will move on!
If he does contact me in a few weeks I too will be too busy. Hurts a bit but obviously not meant to be. Thanks for all advice. Boards is great!

Good on you OP. You're so much better off knowing where you stand. You know now he's not the one that got away. Onwards and upwards!

And sure if he comes back into your life, and genuinely had some sort of packing emergency:p (yes, I know, not likely!) then great, but I find its always better to assume that if someone is giving you the brush off, to just accept it for what it is. If you get proven wrong, then great, but thats the exception and not the rule.

Piggystardust

He just messaged saying he has chlamydia and I should get tested.
What the hell. Came completely out of the blue. I asked are you kidding and he said no sitting in doctors. It's either gnorrnorea or the clap.

I asked him to never contact me again and unfriended him and deleted all the pictures we put on facebook.

I actually don't believe him. I think he's just being nasty but I will go and get tested.

What a horrible thing to just write to someone though. Made me sick.

SB_Part2

Christ almighty. You should get tested to make sure anyway.

Piggystardust

SB_Part2 wrote: »

Christ almighty. You should get tested to make sure anyway.

I will but Christ almighty is right. Who sends someone that in a random facebook message. I feel anxious and sick ever since. I don't actually believe him but I will get tested.

I had already decided toady that I was unsure about him the more I retrospectively thought about him and a few things he said to me. I unfollowed him on fb just to try detach a bit.

He made a few derogatory commenst about women like, women over 35 are fat and lazy. He told me he felt uneasy about me seeing other men (we'd met twice at this stage). He also said his ex girlfriend last words to him were possessive cnut.

I don't know why I let all this slide or why I became in any way invested in someone I didn't know but I feel sick now.

I only have one night stnads with men I don't really a future it. I really have no problem with them but he ivited me away and started turning it into more and I started getting feelings.

I guess I'm lonely at the moment and that message really has upset me, true or not. Im actually in tears writing this message.

Sound Bite

He seems like a horrible person. On the off change it's true, get yourself tested for peace of mind. Even if it's true, there are much better ways of breaking that news.

Don't waste your tears on him, it sounds like you have had a lucky escape either way.

His behaviour is not reflection on you - he's just a prick. There are plenty of decent men out there.

batmanrobin

Oh, OP, I'm sending you a hug.

What an absolute git he is! Go get yourself tested just to be sure and please don't cry over him. He is so not worth upsetting yourself over.

And please don't be too hard on yourself. Loneliness is a very powerful emotion and it can cause us to overlook our gut reactions to people.

Wishing you all the best.

Dr Crayfish

That's rough OP, although no matter how bad he is I don't think people make stuff like that up?! Get tested asap. Is it possible he got it from you? I think symptoms can be subtle with some STIs. You're lucky you didn't get more involved with him I think. It all sounded a bit dodge tbh. Why did he say he wasnt in love with you? Did you ask him? And personally I'd never take a girl I spoke to for a bit in a bar home because I felt for her safety?! I'd imagine he just wanted to get laid. You should be careful getting that wasted when out and about, it can be very dangerous for women. And men I guess! Best of luck and stay safe.

ted1

Piggystardust wrote: »

He just messaged saying he has chlamydia and I should get tested.
What the hell. Came completely out of the blue. I asked are you kidding and he said no sitting in doctors. It's either gnorrnorea or the clap.

I asked him to never contact me again and unfriended him and deleted all the pictures we put on facebook.

I actually don't believe him. I think he's just being nasty but I will go and get tested.

What a horrible thing to just write to someone though. Made me sick.

Might he out drinking with the lads after the match and thinks he is being funny ?

Ursus Horribilis

I feel like I'm kicking you when you're down but the first question that came to my mind was "Did you have unprotected sex with this guy"? I wonder why he suddenly felt he had to go to an STI clinic - has he been sleeping around extensively and been told by another partner to get checked? Did he suspect something before he had sex with you and possibly put your health at risk? Did you ask him to wear a condom?

The guy doesn't sound like the nice person you thought he was but I'm getting mixed signals from what you're writing. Loneliness is a horrible thing to suffer and sometimes it can lead you to make bad choices. I hope your STI tests will come up clear and that you're OK. Maybe after this, you might need to rethink things in your own life. You said you like one night stands. Maybe they're not giving you what you want and that you could try prioritising trying to find a boyfriend, rather than dabbling in casual sex?

Skibunny77

Hi Op.
This man would have been advised to inform all sexual partners of his sexually transmitted disease in the clinic. A Facebook message may not have been ideal but many people would find an actual conversation about it difficult. He may be struggling with the diagnosis himself. You implied earlier that sex was safe, which should protect you from chlamydia, but you should be aware that condoms do not offer complete protection against herpes. Im wondering why you think he is lying about his Sti? Multiple one night stands, with alcohol on board, do carry higher risks of condom failure/sti transmission. You know he has a history of ons when drunk. I'm not being remotely judgemental in saying this - but unless you are having conversations with your sexual partners about their sexual health and screening history, and your own, prior to sex, well it's a maybe a little reactive to be outraged with someone afterward, when they tell you about a risk and advise you to get checked. I feel he has done the responsible thing here with regard to this. The comments he made about you hanging out with other men and being called possessive are massive red flags to me and would absolutely have made me bolt.

LegacyUser

ted1 wrote: »

Might he out drinking with the lads after the match and thinks he is being funny ?

My first thought was that someone else got hold of his phone and imagines this is hilarious. It's also possible that he wants to end things, but is just sufficiently stupid to do it like this. He wouldn't be the first. The message also makes no sense. No doctor said to anyone "you have the clap or maybe gonorrhoea" and if you know you have chlamydia, you don't say you have it then say it's actually possibly gonorrhoea or the clap, particularly as one is just slang for the other, not another condition and not a professional diagnosis. He was also "sitting in the doctor's", so likely in the waiting room either before the consultation or awaiting results, so no diagnosis made yet. He's also away on holidays if I read you right. So did he go away and think "I'll just get tested as a holiday excursion"? Or are symptoms supposed to have come on in the last week? Get tested anyway OP, never a waste of time regardless, but don't stress until you do because that message is bull****.

Piggystardust

Guessed wrote: »

My first thought was that someone else got hold of his phone and imagines this is hilarious. It's also possible that he wants to end things, but is just sufficiently stupid to do it like this. He wouldn't be the first. The message also makes no sense. No doctor said to anyone "you have the clap or maybe gonorrhoea" and if you know you have chlamydia, you don't say you have it then say it's actually possibly gonorrhoea or the clap, particularly as one is just slang for the other, not another condition and not a professional diagnosis. He was also "sitting in the doctor's", so likely in the waiting room either before the consultation or awaiting results, so no diagnosis made yet. He's also away on holidays if I read you right. So did he go away and think "I'll just get tested as a holiday excursion"? Or are symptoms supposed to have come on in the last week? Get tested anyway OP, never a waste of time regardless, but don't stress until you do because that message is bull****.

Thanks. I'm well aware the message is absolute bull****.

The night after we met he wrote me a text message saying I really need to speak with you, it's serious. I wrote back, tell me... I'm worried. He replied saying, I left my sock in your room and it's my favourite! I thought that was actually kinda funny.

Then the weekend we spent away toegther I said to him oh whow my heart was racing thinking you had an STD or somethings haha and he even said, haha I know god how horrible would that be. Que, a few weeks later he's away and I gat a facebook messge saying just that.

I'm on the pill and we used a condom so he got nothing from me. Plus, who sits in a doctors surgery facebooking their ex lovers. Did he message everyone? He didn't even have the 'results'. Nonsense.

I will get checked out as it's been a year but I honestly couldn'y care less anymore about him. He's a creep. In retrospect he really is.

I'm gonna avoid ONS from now now though i've decided. Its just not the way forward. I've had my fun but now it's now to chill and focus on me and what makes me happy besides sex. What void is it I'm trying to fill etc? I love tattoos so think I'll finihs my sleeve, focus on getting even fitter and being content with a man or sex for now.

Thanks guys.

Degringola

OP, did this STI message come after you unfollowed him on FB in order to detach? Was this some kind of twisted revenge? (Sorry if I've got the order of things wrong.) If so, very lucky escape.

Piggystardust

Degringola wrote: »

OP, did this STI message come after you unfollowed him on FB in order to detach? Was this some kind of twisted revenge? (Sorry if I've got the order of things wrong.) If so, very lucky escape.

Right after I unfollwed him but I thought people didn't know you unfollwed them? I'm not great at fb...raraely use it. Either way getting tested privately tomorrow. Thought it was worth the no queues and 1oo euro but by gar what a jerk!!!!

armaghlad

Ya can trust no one! I think he may be bull****ting on the sti claim. You don't usually find out straight away it takes a couple of weeks for results to come! So I think he's on the wind up...

Ursus Horribilis

Facebook doesn't notify the other person if you unfollow them. It doesn't notify you if someone unfriends you - there are browser extensions that do that if you're that way inclined but that's a whole other subject.

Regardless of whether this guy's winding you up or not, maybe this horrible experience will turn out to be a positive turning point in your life. Don't forget many of us have made mistakes and met rats like this guy It's not a nice way to learn you've fecked up but it often works.

Piggystardust

Thanks. Its been the kick in the ass I needed to realise that one night stands don't make me happy. Its instant gratification followed by deep loneliness. It cheapens your soul.
I got fully tested yesterday so in a way this jerk did me a favour. Even my doctor said he was lying. She said they'd never call you in and say it might be two very different things and leave you waiting there. I've to call in two weeks for my results. Strange he's sat in a waiting room while they decide what it is. Absolute bull****.

The guy doesn't sound like the nice person you thought he was but I'm getting mixed signals from what you're writing. Loneliness is a horrible thing to suffer and sometimes it can lead you to make bad choices. I hope your STI tests will come up clear and that you're OK. Maybe after this, you might need to rethink things in your own life. You said you like one night stands. Maybe they're not giving you what you want and that you could try prioritising trying to find a boyfriend, rather than dabbling in casual sex?[/quote]

Irish_Elect_Eng

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Merkin

Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »

This seems strange are You Trolling?

If you have an issue with a post or poster can you kindly use the Report Post function as opposed to making accusations on thread?

Irish_Elect_Eng

Merkin wrote: »

If you have an issue with a post or poster can you kindly use the Report Post function as opposed to making accusations on thread?

Will do, sorry about that.

Piggystardust

Irish_Elect_Eng wrote: »

Will do, sorry about that.

How is it strange? I'm certainly not making it up if that's what you're implying. Why would I waste my time writing a fake post with such detail?! bizzare.

osarusan

Well OP, as the first person to reply, and as one who encouraged you to go for it, my apologies and commiserations.

Piggystardust

osarusan wrote: »

Well OP, as the first person to reply, and as one who encouraged you to go for it, my apologies and commiserations.

Haha no worries. Couldn't have seen that coming!