Cutting Off a Friend - Drugs and Peer Pressure

LegacyUser

Hi. I'll try to keep this as short as possible. Over the last year or so I became friends with someone who we will just call Person X for sake of ease and anonymity. Anyway, said person was okay at the start, nothing out of the ordinary. We would hang around quite a bit, and said person also started mixing with my other group of friends too. All going well. One day, Person X asks me if I've ever dabbed with drugs before or anything. Casual convo, nothing too heavy. One thing came to another and person X said they could get us some weed from a guy they know, so I thought, "why not"; I had previously smoked marijuana recreationally before and I had no issues with it.

This goes on for a while until person x approaches me randomy one day and begins talking about how he's taking a big risk buying the drugs (the people he bought from were very dodgy characters) and how he wants me to start going with him during the actual drugdeal itself. I'm very uncomfortable with this. I get pressured into doing it and stupidly, I do. Nothing bad happened (luckily), but I begin to worry that this is going to lead somewhere bad; getting caught by the gardai, getting robbed, beaten up etc, all terrible outcomes. I personally don't get addicted to marijuana, so I decide to leave it out; I can't justify getting arrested or roped into dealing with dodgy characters just for a few smokes.

My friend mister X explains to me how he has a real problem with marijuana, that he gets addicted to it, very hooked etc. We begin to drift apart and the friendship whittles as said friend only texts me whenever they want me to go to a drugdeal with them and also to split the cost down the middle, saving them money. This makes me feel like complete and utter crap because I am now becoming an accessory to said persons addiction, and being used as a scapegoat for the guards etc, and I'm being used for money. I go off and mind my own business and try my best to cut this person out of my life as the friendship is dull and boring and I'm only texted when they need me to assist them with drugs.

Now and then we still used to hang around but when I said I didn't want to do "that" anymore as it was dangerous and that I personally don't have an addiction I was met with friendly comments, surprisingly. My friend wouldn't bring it up for a week or two until he would ALWAYS without fail text me going back to his old ways wanting me to split with him, etc. This went on for a good while. Months passed with the odd text from him here or there; he wouldn't come outright and say it, but I knew by the random desperate texts exactly what they wanted. I have completely cut this person from my life and never respond to them anymore.

My issue is that said person still hangs around with my other group of friends, and now it's becoming very hard to hang around with my main friends because I completely want to avoid this other person. My friends think it was harsh of me to just cut contact completely with this person and to completely stop texting back, but I feel like I did the right thing, even if it came across as rude; I don't want to associate with those kind of people in my life. It's affecting my circle of friends now and honestly it's making me question my friendships in general. I have no idea if I did the right thing but I just feel terrible for being used and my friends make me feel like I did some unspeakable thing by cutting said person out

Sorry for the long post or if I'm ranting, I suppose I just wanted to vent and get some second opinions. Honestly I feel much better and confident in myself knowing I did the right thing but it's crap to think someone only saw me as a tool they wanted to use.

via4

You did the right thing. That person is on a slippery slope and you can see this. Your friends can say how they feel but you know you don't need that trouble in your life. Personally I drifted from those types of people because it's only hassle in your life at the end of the day.

Big Bag of Chips

I often find when people are a bit pushy about you being friends with someone, or helping someone out, it's usually so they don't have to deal with that person themselves! With you around to go to the drug deals and fund his habit they weren't involved. Now he's probably asking them. And like you they'll go along with it for a while until they too get sick of it and cut him out, and he'll move on to the next group.