Having problems with life..

LegacyUser

I have all kinds of problems from serious mental illness, chronic unemployment (6 years) nearly) to desperate lonelyness without any friends or any life whatsoever. It has all just hit me this year and made me realise how bad my life has become and I just can't see a way out. I've been going through constant anger and stress.

I have serious anxiety/agorophobia issues that makes it very difficult to function away from home which almost makes me scared to look for a job. I find being away from home very stressful and i'm actually not sure i'm able to work. I'm only 24 but i'm living in fear most of the time. Which is a pity because i'm actually very outgoing and great with people.

My unemployment status really bothers me also. I have basically been unemployed since I left school with is close to 6 years now and that really disgusts me that I have wasted so much time. I am in a position were I can't even apply for jobs due to having no references and very little work experiences. I see people I used to know from school and compare my life with most people I know and usually end up concluding that i'm years and years behind any of my peers in terms of work experience and just in life. Been feeling i'll never get ahead and be branded for life. My work experience is poor, my education is non existant and I just feel hard done by. Even my younger brother has began working recently which is demeaning in itself.

In the last year i've been extremely lonely. I find myself constantly dwelling over a girl I had a short relationship with 5 years ago. It was my first ever experience with a girl and cannot stop thinking about it/her. It must be just a sign of how lonely i am?

zoobizoo

Hey, sorry to hear that you are feeling down.

could I suggest you go talk to a professional if you have the money to do so

Alternatively, there's a great book called The Feeling Good Handbook which might help you somewhat

FizzleSticks

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looksee

A small point - your education is not non-existent, your writing and ability to explain yourself are very good. I agree you do need to talk to someone professionally; we cannot help you with most of the issues you mention as they are too complex and personal to sort on an internet forum.

Can I suggest you do a PLC / adult education course? These courses are very suited to someone who has no idea what they want to do, and are nervous about improving their education. Did you get a leaving cert? (I certainly did not, I left school at 16, and am now retired, but somewhere along the way I went back and got myself a college degree.) Anything is possible, though it may not seem that way at the moment.

jopax

Hi lonlyun,

Just an idea for you to get some work experience, have you heard of CE schemes, (community employment) .
You have to be 25 to be eligible, so you are not far off that.
I would highly recommend this for someone in your position, it is a part time 19.5 hrs a week, or 39 hrs a fortnight.
It is a great way to gain experience in the workplace but much more valuable than that is to build your belief in yourself, & gain confidence.
It is run by solas (fas) and there is so many areas to choose from.
I have done this myself & gained so much from it, you get to keep your social welfare rate & get €20 top up.
Just try to remember you only need to get one break & the rest is history.

gercoral

Best thing I ever did was volunteering. I had similar feelings as yourself, but don't feel like it's the end or there's nothing out there for you. Maybe it's just me but I think that doing schemes such as the CE ones may be a little daunting for someone who hasn't had proper employment before.

i've been volunteering for approximately 5 years, and I can honestly say I feel most comfortable doing it. It's not judgemental, everyone is there for the same thing.

What I did was become a member of VSI Ireland, pay membership (i think it was 19euro a few years ago). A lot of overseas volunteering opportunities you don;t have to pay for. You gte food and accommodation and of course, it's a learning experince and you can meeet new people, new cultures etc etc